In this episode I (Tanya Wilkinson) explore the profound lessons learned from grief and loss, particularly through my personal grief experience of the death of our beautiful daughter.

We explore the importance of embracing discomfort, reflecting on life, and understanding the interconnectedness of love and grief. Sharing insights on post-traumatic growth, the necessity of being present, and the value of prioritising what truly matters in life. Through my reflections, she encourages listeners to engage with their emotions and to live intentionally, recognising the finite nature of life.

Watch to the end for my journal prompts to help you to “live like you’re mortal” and prioritise that which matters the most to you in life.

Journal prompts:

• Who and what in life is most important to me?
• How will I prioritise myself and those who matter the most?
• What do I need to let go or deprioritise in order to centre me and my loved ones in my life?
• How can I be more present so I can make more memories that matter?

Takeaways

• Embracing discomfort can lead to personal growth.
• Grief can teach us valuable lessons about life.
• Post-traumatic growth allows for deeper appreciation of life.
• Love and grief are interconnected experiences.
• Being present in difficult moments is essential for healing.
• Writing down moments of clarity can help in the grieving process.
• Prioritising relationships is crucial in a finite life.
• Taking small steps can lead to significant changes over time.
• Reflection is a powerful tool for understanding what matters.
• Living with intention can enhance our overall well-being.

Disclaimer: This podcast is for entertainment purposes only and does not constitute professional advice. Nor is it a substitute for professional support. Follow Death on the Daily: Don’t forget to hit like and subscribe @deathonthedaily Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/death_onthedaily The theme music for Death on the Daily is ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Set Free by Katie Gray⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, which is used with artist's permission. You can connect with Katie and her music and work here ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.katiegray.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. This podcast is edited by David Strutt, who you can contact here for any editing needs: davidstrutt2@gmail.com Chapters 00:00: Embracing Discomfort and Reflection 02:45: Lessons from Loss: A Personal Journey 07:20: Post-Traumatic Growth and Clarity 12:55: The Interconnection of Love and Grief 19:30: Living with Intention and Presence

Set yourself up for a restful 2025. My RESET for REST 6 week journey of online workshops starts 8th January 2025. Head here for all of the details: https://www.greeninthegrey.com/reset

In this restful special "betwixtmas" episode of Death on the Daily, join me Tanya Wilkinson, as I unpack the vital importance of rest. Not just sleep, but true restorative practices that are rooted in the 7 types of rest that Dr Saundra Dalton Smith identified - that help us recharge in a culture that glorifies the hustle.

Drawing inspiration from the cycles of nature and my own experiences, I share actionable micro-rest practices, reflections on grieving, and why prioritising rest is essential for creativity, well-being, and connection.

Whether you’re listening during the quieter midwinter days of the festive break, or in the chaos of daily life, this episode offers insights and tools to help you reconnect with yourself and find moments of sanctuary. So that you can be your guide to a more restful 2025.

Key takeaways

• Rest is crucial for our health and well-being.
• Micro practices of rest can be integrated into busy lives.
• Creating personalized rest rituals enhances our experience of rest.
• Laziness should be embraced as a necessary investment in ourselves.
• Gratitude helps reinforce our intentions for rest.
• Rest supports creativity and allows for new possibilities.
• We need to declutter our energy to focus on what truly matters.
• Connecting with nature can enhance our understanding of rest.
• Rest is a lifelong journey, not a destination.
• Every small step towards rest counts and adds up.

Disclaimer:

This podcast is for entertainment purposes only and does not constitute professional advice. Nor is it a substitute for professional support.

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Links and resources:

• My Reset for Rest 6 week programme: www.greeninthegrey.com/reset
• Adrienne Maree Brown: adriennemareebrown.net
• Dr. Saundra Dalton-Smith’s TED Talk on the 7 types of Rest: ted.com/talks/saundra_dalton_smith_the_real_reason_why_we_are_tired_and_what_to_do_about_it
  

The theme music for Death on the Daily is ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Set Free by Katie Gray⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, which is used with artist's permission.

You can connect with Katie and her music and work here katiegray.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠.

This podcast is edited by David Strutt, who you can contact here for any editing needs: davidstrutt2@gmail.com

Chapters

00:00: Introduction

01:18: Debunking “Sleep When You’re Dead” - Why prioritising rest is crucial for wellbeing.

03:10: The Importance of Rest in Our Lives

05:56: Micro Practices of Rest

11:45: Creating Personalised Rest Rituals

15:11: Embracing Laziness and Decluttering Energy

19:52: Cultivating Grace, Compassion, and Gratitude

I am so happy to be joined today by fan favourite from The Great British Bake Off. Shining a spotlight on parts of Nelly that fans of the show might not have seen on air, including her work as a palliative care nurse, baby loss, grief, and the importance of showing others kindness.

Nelly shares her personal experiences with loss and how they shaped her career in palliative care. Emphasising the need for compassion and understanding in supporting families during their most painful moments of loss. Including a tender discussion of both of our experiences with baby loss, and honouring our husbands who supported us.

Plus we explore the themes of embracing life's endings, including Nelly’s personal experience on Bake Off. Plus celebrating how amazing we each are, honouring our imperfections, and finding joy in everyday moments.

Nelly is beautiful inside and out, and so grab yourself a cuppa and cake - and settle in for a joyful and meaningful hour.

Takeaways

• Everyone grieves differently; there is no right or wrong way to grieve.
• Creating space for emotional expression is essential in the grieving process.
• Small acts of kindness can have a significant impact on someone's day.
• It's important to check in on those who may be grieving and lonely.
• Crying is a cleansing and necessary part of processing grief.
• Grief is a complex journey that affects everyone differently.
• Husbands / wives / partners of women who are going through the physical and emotional pain of baby loss experience double grief (for their baby and their partner) and need support.
• Embracing life's endings can lead to new beginnings.
• Celebrating imperfections allows for a more authentic life.
• Life is too short to stress about a cake!
• We are all different and unique. Being true to oneself is the ultimate form of self-love.

Disclaimer:

This podcast is for entertainment purposes only and does not constitute professional advice. Nor is it a substitute for professional support.

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You can connect with Nelly and send her messages here:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/igwithnellyy

The theme music for Death on the Daily is ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Set Free by Katie Gray⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, which is used with artist's permission.

You can connect with Katie and her music and work here ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.katiegray.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠.

This podcast is edited by David Strutt, who you can contact here for any editing needs: davidstrutt2@gmail.com

Chapters

00:00: Introduction

02:15: Nelly's Personal Journey Through Loss into Palliative Care

05:54: The Emotional Landscape of Grieving

08:49: Creating Space for Grief and Healing

14:53: Community Connections and Human Kindness

18:01: The Ripple Effect of Small Acts of Kindness

29:44: Navigating Baby Loss and Supporting Our Partners

38:39: Great British Bake Off Ending - Nelly’s Joy and Celebration, and Noel Fielding and the Crew’s Sadness

49:37: Nelly’s Message on Embracing Our Imperfections

What if nature held the answers to navigating grief?

I’m joined today by my coach Maria Deutsch. We explore the profound relationship between nature, grief, and our understanding of death. We discuss how reconnecting with nature can help individuals navigate their grief and embrace the cycles of life and death.

Including nature’s storytelling of the seasons and the transformation from caterpillar to butterfly, they emphasise the importance of slowness, interconnectedness, and the magic of nature in personal growth and healing.

Our discussion emphasises the healing power of nature, the importance of cultivating connection and belonging, and practical practices for integrating nature into daily life. Plus the significance of curiosity and the co-creative relationship we can have with nature, ultimately leading to a deeper understanding of ourselves and our place in the world.

Disclaimer:

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Where you can connect with Maria Deutsch:

Email: Maria@GrowingDialogue.nz

Website: https://www.growingdialogue.nz

We mention Dr Hinemoa Elder, you can find out more about her work here: hinemoaelder.com⁠

The theme music for Death on the Daily is ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Set Free by Katie Gray⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, which is used with artist's permission.

You can connect with Katie and her music and work here ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.katiegray.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠.

This podcast is edited by David Strutt, who you can contact here for any editing needs: davidstrutt2@gmail.com

I am joined today by Lou Nylander, founder of Wildflowers of London. We discuss the complexities of grief, particularly during the festive season. Exploring our personal stories of loss, with Lou having lost both of her parents, and my baby loss 5 months into pregnancy.

We speak to the impact these losses have on us at times like the festive period. Speaking to the power of “ripping the rule book up on Christmas” and creating new traditions.

We speak to the complexities of grief and loss, emphasising the importance of coping mechanisms, open conversations about death, and finding joy amidst sorrow.

If you are navigating grief, I I hope that our conversation supports you at this tender time of year. Sharing these conversations are SO important, so if you know someone who is grieving, then remember to check in on them. Plus share this episode with them.

Key takeaways

• Grief is a personal and complicated journey.
• The festive season can amplify feelings of loss.
• Creating new traditions can help in coping with grief.
• It's important to allow oneself to feel grief rather than suppress it.
• Time does not erase grief, but it can change how we experience it.
• Acknowledging that things will never be the same is crucial for healing.
• Breaking old patterns can help in creating new memories.
• It's okay to seek support and share your grief with others. You are better able to cope and process feelings after loss.
• Open conversations about death are essential for healing.
• It's okay to feel hurt during the festive season after a loss.
• Finding small moments of joy can help during grief.
• Wearing items that belonged to loved ones can aid in remembrance.
• Different types of grief require different understandings and support.
• Advocacy for grief counselling and support is crucial.
• Self-advocacy is important in recognising health issues.
• Community support is vital in the grieving process.

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Where you can connect with Lou Nylander:

LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/lounylander/

Website: wildflowersldn.com

Instagram: instagram.com/wildflowers_hq/

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Disclaimer:

This podcast is for entertainment purposes only and does not constitute professional advice. Nor is it a substitute for professional support.

The theme music for Death on the Daily is ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Set Free by Katie Gray⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, which is used with artist's permission.

You can connect with Katie and her music and work here ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠katiegray.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠.

This podcast is edited by David Strutt, who you can contact here for any editing needs: davidstrutt2@gmail.com