In this episode we unpack why the fawn response, or people pleasing has become a coping strategy, and how your nervous system learned to use this strategy to keep you safe. We also outline action steps to challenge this pattern so you can feel free to say "no" without the guilt.

In this episode we unpack how to stop the trauma cycle of choosing emotionally unsafe and unavailable partners. We break down this cycles to understand each link in the chain, and more importantly, we walk through how to break this cycle.

Join us in this episode where we discuss ways to regain trust in oneself after relational/attachment trauma. We explore the emotional landscape, as well as the mindset of the trauma survivor and what they have to deal with on a daily basis, then outline science backed strategies to help regain trust. A can't miss episode!

Join us in this episode where we explore the concept of reflection and its importance in relationships. The reflective function deepens intimacy and connection by better understanding each other's internal world, allows for increased communication, helps co-regulate, and protects against trauma triggers in each partner.

Join us in this episode, were we discover the different ways misdirection moves couples away from their intended topic and down rabbit holes. This is one of the trickiest issues for couples with trauma; they get caught in communication patterns that limit their ability to stay on topic, and miss the opportunity to resolve issues and problems together.

Attachment trauma often creates a negative internal voice that can rob the trauma survivor of a more peaceful existence. Developing a nurturing internal voice is part of healing trauma. Voices such as: "I deserve this," "It was my fault," "I should be over this by now," can actually prolong the traumatic hold on the individual. Join us as we learn to create a more compassionate, loving internal self-talk.

Being able to take in or internalize the "good stuff" in your relationship is just as important as being able to know your triggers and regulate your emotions. Internalizing love, care, compassion, and empathy from your partner helps to reverse trauma and helps build a new, more positive core belief about yourself. We break down what blocks the ability to internalize the "good stuff" and discuss ways to build this important capacity.

Join us in this episode where we discuss the difference between emotionality versus true emotion in the anxious attachment style. True emotion provides valuable information and has action tendencies that allow the anxiously attached person to reach their goals. Where as emotionality is usually a combination of high anxiety that is defensive in nature and is used to avoid the more vulnerable emotions of fear and abandonment.