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Unpack the hidden drives that shape how your Enneagram type shows up in life and leadership.

Have you ever met someone who shares your Enneagram type but acts nothing like you? You might have thought, ‘Wait — are we even the same type?’ That’s the magic of instincts. Instincts explain why two people of the same type can have totally different priorities, fears, and energy. This is another powerful aspect of doing the work of you – both your core motivation and your dominant instinct act automatically, like how patterns can work as we discussed in ep 4. The drive of your motivation is there to protect you and your instinct works similarly – it’s an unconscious reaction – operating like an animalistic instinct. Both your motivation and instinct can take over and run your life if you’re not aware and don’t learn to manage them…so it’s critical to understand which is your dominant instinct and then how to tame it. Be sure to check out Episode 5 to learn more about the Enneagram model and how it works.

Episode topics:

Each of us has all three instincts, but one is usually dominant, one is secondary, and one is least developed or in psychology terms it’s repressed.

1. Self-Preservation (SP): survival instinct – the drive is meeting individual needs, fear is not surviving

• Focus: well being, physical safety, comfort, security, structure. Energy is more conservative, serious, slow and grounded.

2. Social (SO): drive is the group will prevail – everything for the greater good with a focus on ALL, fear of not belonging

• Focus: belonging, status, group dynamics, big ideas and ideals; energy: externalized, spread wide, can be scattered/confused, political

3. Sexual / One-to-One (SX): the drive is to bond and fuse; fear is not being wanted

• Focus: intimate or intense or energizing experiences and connections with another; energy is passionate, high energy, intense, competitive, faster pace

Learn how to use your 3 instincts for growth and what each instinct looks like when combined with the main Enneagram type (1-9).

Coaching Prompts:

• Which instinct feels most like home to you?
  • If SF: play with going without one of your comforts or routines for a week or try focusing on someone else’s needs or desires over your own.
  • If SX: play with moving at a slower pace and finding something to do alone that brings you joy.
  • If SO: play with prioritizing you over everyone else and not advocating for anything on anyone else's' behalf for a little while.
• Consider which instinct feels least relatable to you and noodle on how that may be impacting you.

Resources | Links:

Episode 5: Why The Enneagram is a Leadership Superpower (overview of the model).

Website | The Enneagram 9 Types

GET YOUR ENNEAGRAM TYPE -- includes the Instinct data; most ideal for professional use: leaders and teams

ALT OPTION FOR TYPING - also includes the Instincts

Book | The Enneagram Guide to Waking Up: Find Your Path, Face your Shadow, Discover Your True Self By, Beatrice Chestnut, PhD and Uranio Peas, MM

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How's it going for you -- doing the work of you?

As we approach a milestone of 10 episodes coming up this week; I felt called to drop an "off the cuff" bonus episode. In it I share what came up for me after hearing Oprah interview the co-founder of the Hoffman Process, Raz Ingrasci. And this notion of substituting vibrancy and happiness with success. I also check in and reflect on where I'm at in my own inner work journey since attending Hoffman in 2016 and I nudge you to check in by asking -- how's it going for you since you started listening? This is hard work and it's important to me that we all feel and trust that we're in this together.

Resources | Links:

Oprah Podcast - Oprah on the Hoffman Process

Website | The Hoffman Process

The Hoffman Quadrinity™ (scroll to bottom of this page to see the symbol/description of my tattoo)

Website | The Enneagram 9 Types

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Today’s episode is all about connecting with the Enneagram in a fresh and engaging way that sticks while helping you do the work of you by understanding yourself on a deeper level. Jen taps into the best qualities of each Enneagram type by bringing to light some of the most soulful, intuitive and lovable creatures: DOGS. As a passionate dog lover, Jen shares two breeds per type to cover the different expressions of each type’s energy. Be sure to listen closely for some special dog shoutouts (and check the @theworkofyou Instagram page for dog pics)! Remember – not all types look the same – when you add your dominant instinct into the mix it can look different. This is covered briefly in EP 5, and there will be a future episode that dives into the 3 instincts further and the 27 subtypes of the Enneagram. For now in this episode, listen for what overarching pieces feel deeply resonate for you -- which dog breed are you?

Episode topics:

• Dogs are perfect comparison -- because they embody traits we recognize and love.
• Reviewing each of the nine Enneagram types starting with the Heart Center (Types 2,3,4), then the Head Center (5,6,7) followed by the Body Center (8,9,1)
• Each type's core motivation is discussed and the personalities of two different dog breeds per type.
• Remember: Enneagram types (#1-9) are 100% based on your subconscious motivation; not outward behaviors.

Coaching Prompts:

1. Which dog description felt the most like you — and why?
2. Was there a type or dog you felt resistance to? What might that reveal?
3. How do you show up when you’re at your best — and what kind of dog would that be?
4. Who in your life might be a totally different ‘dog type’ — and how does that shape your dynamic?

Resources | Links:

Website | The Enneagram 9 Types

GET YOUR ENNEAGRAM TYPE -- includes the Instinct data; most ideal for professional use: leaders and teams

ALT OPTION FOR TYPING - also includes the Instincts

Book | The Enneagram Guide to Waking Up: Find Your Path, Face your Shadow, Discover Your True Self By, Beatrice Chestnut, PhD and Uranio Peas, MM

The Grow Effect Coaching Model

Instagram | The Work of You

Instagram | Grow Collective

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