In this episode of the Unapologaytic podcast, host Pierre speaks with Rahim Thawer, author of The Mental Health Guide for Cis and Trans Queer Guys.

They delve into the complex dynamics of masculinity, body image, and internalized homophobia within the queer male community. The discussion covers the challenges faced in maintaining social status, navigating mental health struggles, and the importance of cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT).

Rahim shares insights from his book, focusing on how queer men can address disenfranchised grief and internalized shame.

They also explore the intersection of race, culture, and class, and how these factors impact mental health and community belonging. Rahim discusses the significance of community support and the need for culturally competent healthcare.

The episode concludes with practical strategies for self-help and mental well-being.

The Mental Health Guide for Cis and Trans Queer Guys will be released on 1st June 25.

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00:00 The Unapologaytic Podcast: Rahim Thawer Redefining Queer Wellness: Beyond Traditional Narratives

01:02 Introduction and Welcome

01:17 Meet Rahim Thawar

01:31 Cultural Differences and Eccentricities

01:31 Rahim's Background and Work

03:43 Navigating Identity and Hierarchies

05:40 Intersectionality and Privilege

14:01 Disenfranchised Grief

17:51 Global Perspectives on Identity

22:34 Exploring Social Hierarchies and Mental Health

23:26 Strategies to Overcome internalised Shame

25:25 Personal Experiences and Self-Perception

26:15 Building Inclusive Communities

27:21 Navigating Family and Cultural Conversations 2

8:21 Intersectionality and Disenfranchised Grief

31:27 Cognitive behavioural Therapy Techniques

39:02 Addressing Health and Aging in the LGBTQ Community

44:31 Conclusion and Final Thoughts

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I want to use this podcast to explore LGBTQ+ culture and use this platform to share our stories, struggles and breakthroughs. No matter who we are we’ve all got something to share and learn from each other.

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In this episode of the Unapologaytic podcast, host Pierre speaks with Dr Jason Durant, author of Boy from the North Country, about their shared experiences of growing up in small communities and grappling with masculinity and acceptance as gay men. They discuss the pervasive sense of alienation amongst gay men, even in tolerant places like New York City. Dr Durant delves into the impacts of internalised homophobia, the grief of missed opportunities, and the ongoing journey of self-acceptance. He emphasises the necessity of facing uncomfortable emotions, fostering supportive relationships, and the daily commitment to self-care and personal growth. They touch upon the importance of authentic pride, the healing process of revisiting and comforting past traumas, and strategies for processing anger. Dr Durant also shares the importance of journalling and building a compassionate community to navigate the challenges faced by LGBTQ individuals.

00:00 Introduction and Guest Welcome

00:54 Discussing the Book: Boy from the North Country

03:27 Challenges of Growing Up Gay

11:34 Healing and Self-Acceptance

19:36 Community and Support

38:30 Processing Anger and Embracing Yourself

41:22 Conclusion and Final Thoughts

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📙 Book available from https://www.boyfromthenorthcountrybook.com and all online book sellers

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Hi I’m Pierre. I’m the founder of the ethical gay brand Unapologaytic as well as a male form photographer.

I want to use this podcast to explore LGBTQ+ culture, art and wellness and use this platform to share our stories and struggles. No matter who we are we’ve all got something to share and learn from each other.

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In this episode of the Unapologaytic podcast, host Pierre engages with painter Dan Swan @danswanart | danswanart.com to explore his representation of the male body in art.

Dan shares the aesthetic inspirations behind his work and the natural beauty and seduction of the male form. The conversation delves into societal attitudes and censorship towards male nudes, contrasts with the accepted portrayal of female nudes, and the influence of iconic artists like Tom of Finland.

They discuss the impacts of Dan's art on traditional masculinity, including depicting queer and transsexual identities, as well as the stigma against straight men appreciating male beauty.

The discussion touches on the challenges of posing for nude art, painting from live models versus photos, and where Dan's work can be found on platforms like Instagram and exhibitions in Brighton.

Dan emphasises the importance of being unapologetic and encourages self-acceptance and celebration of the male form.

Introduction to the Unapologaytic Podcast
Meet Dan Swan: Celebrating the Male Form
Artistic Approach and Inspirations
The Unknown Lover: A Dreamy Representation
Public Perception of Male Nude Paintings
Navigating Art and Eroticism
Influences and Inspirations
Effortless Artistry: The Illusion of Ease
Live Models vs. Photos: The Artist's Perspective
Intimacy and Vulnerability in Art
Challenging Masculinity Through Art
The Unique Style and Message of Dan Swan
Embracing Identity and Authenticity
Where to Find Dan Swan's Art

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👋🏾 About The Unapologaytic Podcast

Hi I’m Pierre. I’m the founder of the ethical gay brand Unapologaytic as well as a male form photographer.

I want to use this podcast to explore LGBTQ+ culture and use this platform to share our stories and struggles. No matter who we are we’ve all got something to share and learn from each other.

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Meet Brighton's newest music sensation, the duo LADSCLUB, dubbed as "Pet Shop Boys on acid."

In this revealing and fun-filled conversation, Ed and Greg share the origin of their band name, the process of creating their debut album, and how their real-life experiences shape their music. From the struggles of finding an unused band name to the joy of hearing their music on the radio, LADSCLUB's journey is truly a rollercoaster ride.

Discover the story behind their first song "Disco Prancing," how they came to be known as LADSCLUB, their take on the music industry, and how being a gay couple influences their music. We also deep dive into the themes explored in their album, their plans for the future, and much more.

Interview Begins [00:00:00 - 00:02:59] Pierre introduces LADSCLUB, and the duo clarifies a common misconception about their self-description. They discuss how a catchy review quote became an integral part of their identity.

The Story Behind "LADSCLUB" [00:03:00 - 00:05:59] The duo shares the story behind their band name, discussing how they landed on "LADSCLUB," their love for irony, and the inclusive nature of their "club."

Personal Background [00:06:00 - 00:08:59] LADSCLUB opens up about their personal lives, how they first met, and their journey as a couple in Brighton.

Music Creation Process [00:09:00 - 00:11:59] The duo discusses their debut album, the process of creating their unique sound, and how their personal experiences influence their music.

The Gay Identity in Music [00:12:00 - 00:14:59] LADSCLUB shares their thoughts on the representation of the LGBTQ+ community in the music industry and the growing prominence of queer women in music.

Challenging Stereotypes [00:15:00 - 00:16:59] They discuss how their music challenges typical narratives and offers visibility for gay men, expressing their desire to be a part of changing the way LGBTQ+ individuals are perceived in music.

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👋🏾 About The Unapologaytic Podcast

Hi I’m Pierre. I’m the founder of the ethical gay brand Unapologaytic as well as a male form photographer.

I want to use this podcast to explore gay culture and use this platform to share our stories and struggles. No matter who we are we’ve all got something to share and learn from each other.

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Framing Masculinity in Queer Photography

In this episode, I interview Vincent Keith, an influential figure in the world of masculine art and the founder of Mascular (https://www.mascularmagazine.com), a quarterly magazine that celebrates masculine art.

Vincent opens up about his journey, drawing a vivid picture of his experience as an American born black gay man brought up in the Middle East. He shares intimate details about how his personal experiences have shaped his work, and how he uses his lens to capture and celebrate different forms of masculinity, body image, and the interactions between men.

Listen in as Vincent talks about his inspirations and influences, which include the works of Blake Little, August Sander and Ron Amato, as well as lesser-known African and African-American portraitists from the 50s and 60s. He also discusses the importance of identity, both personal and sexual, in shaping the way he looks at the world and his work. Vincent describes his style as 'old-fashioned', 'formal' and 'deliberate', and tells us why he prefers a more constructed approach to photography rather than capturing candid, spontaneous moments.

If you're interested in masculinity, gay relationships, queer art and male photography, this episode is a must-listen. I hope you enjoy this deep dive into the mind of an artist who dares to show the world as he sees it.

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👋🏾 About The Unapologaytic Podcast

Hi I’m Pierre. I’m the founder of the ethical gay brand Unapologaytic as well as a male form photographer.

I want to use this podcast to explore LGBTQ+ culture and use this platform to share our stories and struggles. No matter who we are we’ve all got something to share and learn from each other.

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Pierre talks to Phil Samba @idiosyncraticxl, a social activist, writer, researcher and HIV prevention advocate. They discuss Phil's journey as a black gay man in London, navigating stereotypes and moving towards self-realisation.

Phil is on a mission to democratise access to PrEP (Pre-Exposure Prophylaxis), an HIV prevention drug, and its significance in the gay community, especially for black and bi men, is at the centrepiece of this conversation.

Phil also sheds light on the stereotyped expectations and challenges he faces as a black gay man, including societal preconceptions about masculinity, race, and sexuality. Phil works with The Love Tank CIC @thelovetankcic, a non-profit dedicated to reducing HIV and poor sexual health outcomes in marginalised communities and has recently contributed to the book Mandem. Aside from Phil's personal and professional journey, the pair also discuss the importance of being true to oneself, despite societal pressures.

01:10 Understanding Social Activism
01:22 Phil's Work in HIV and Sexual Health
01:55 The Link Between Prepster and The Love Tank
02:20 Challenges in Accessing PrEP
03:03 Phil's Journey to Social Activism
05:17 The Impact of COVID-19 on Social Activism
05:57 Exploring Stereotypes and Expectations
08:59 Phil's Personal Experience with Stereotypes
11:04 The Challenges of Finding Personal Identity
14:14 How to Support The Love Tank
14:43 Closing Remarks

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👋🏾 About The Unapologaytic Podcast

Hi I’m Pierre. I’m the founder of the ethical gay brand Unapologaytic as well as a male form photographer.

I want to use this podcast to explore LGBTQ+ culture and use this platform to share our stories and struggles. No matter who we are we’ve all got something to share and learn from each other.

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Pierre interviews Ignacio Labayen de Inza, the founder and CEO of Controlling Chemsex, a charity that provides support to individuals affected by chemsex. Ignacio shares his personal journey and the reasons behind starting the charity. They discuss the complexities of chemsex, its impact on the queer community, and the need for awareness and support. They also delve into the misconceptions surrounding chemsex and the importance of addressing issues such as isolation, internalised homophobia, and mental health. This episode aims to shed light on the realities of chemsex and inspire positive change.

Show Notes:

• Introduction to Ignacio and his background in supporting individuals struggling with drug use
• Definition of chemsex and its association with sexual activity under the influence of drugs
• Exploring the need for connection, validation, and intimacy that often underlies chemsex
• The vulnerability of the queer community and the impact of isolation and internalised homophobia
• Highlighting the importance of awareness and understanding among service providers
• Challenges and misconceptions surrounding chemsex, including the variety of substances involved
• The evolving landscape of chemsex, its spread beyond the gay community, and its geographical reach
• The role of support in helping individuals recover from chemsex addiction and reconnect with sober intimacy
• Short-term goal setting and effective strategies to manage cravings and unexpected triggers
• The need for proper planning and engaging in alternative activities to prevent relapse
• Ignacio's mission to raise awareness, provide support, and facilitate positive change in the realm of chemsex

Join Pierre and Ignacio in this insightful conversation that aims to inspire and support those impacted by chemsex.

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Hi I’m Pierre. I’m the founder of the ethical gay brand Unapologaytic as well as a male form photographer.

I want to use this podcast to explore LGBTQ+ culture and use this platform to share our stories and struggles. No matter who we are we’ve all got something to share and learn from each other.

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David Ingram @memoirsofagay, an openly gay stand-up comedian, speaks candidly about the vulnerability and fear associated with performing stand-up comedy, especially as a gay man. He emphasises the importance of being authentic and vulnerable in comedy and in life.

David talks about how being open and honest about his life experiences and struggles, including his sexuality, has helped him connect with audiences on a deeper level. He believes that comedy is a powerful tool for breaking down barriers and promoting understanding between people of different backgrounds. By sharing his personal stories and perspectives, David hopes to inspire others to be true to themselves and embrace their unique identities

Through his comedy, David is breaking down barriers and promoting acceptance and inclusion for all.

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Hi I’m Pierre. I’m the founder of the ethical gay brand Unapologaytic as well as a male form photographer.
The Unapologaytic Podcast explores LGBTQ+ culture and is a platform to share our stories and struggles. No matter who we are we’ve all got something to share and learn from each other.

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