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Ep 654: Unpacking Masculinity with Jacob Tobia: Dive into a thought-provoking conversation with gender nonconforming writer and performer Jacob Tobia as they explore the complexities of manhood in today's society. Jacob, a member of Forbes' 30 Under 30 and the voice behind the non-binary character Double Trouble in Netflix's She-Ra, shares insights from their new book, Before They Were Men: Essays on Manhood, Compassion, and What Went Wrong, which releases on August 26, 2025. Affiliate link to the book https://amzn.to/3JuhaoS

In this episode, we discuss the need for compassion towards men, the impact of societal expectations on young boys, and the importance of redefining masculinity. Jacob's candid reflections on their personal journey and the cultural narratives surrounding gender challenge us to rethink our perspectives on manhood and the emotional struggles many face.

Key themes include:
- The harmful effects of toxic masculinity and the need for a shift towards safe masculinity
- Understanding the struggles of young men and boys within the gender binary
- The importance of empathy and connection in feminist discourse
- Insights into the incel phenomenon and the need for compassion

Join us for this enlightening discussion that encourages listeners to foster understanding and healing in a world that often feels divided. Jacob's powerful message is one of hope, urging us all to create a kinder, more inclusive future.

Connect with Jacob Tobia: https://jacobtobia.com/ on Instagram @jacobtobia

Quotes from Jacob Tobia

"It is time I stop avoiding the heart of the work that I owe the world."

"Men and boys are suffering spiritually under the gender binary now."

"The term toxic masculinity is now a game of telephone and it's gone terribly."

"We need to shift our conversation toward compassion for men."

"Learning to have empathy for people who hurt you is not easy work."

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Ep 652: Ruan does erotic improv... Surprise Blow Job at the Restaurant Date Night Story! This story is immersive and hot hot hot! It's told in second person, meaning "You" and "I" are the subjects, and it has ASMR erotic sound elements. Enjoy this erotica fiction, an erotic audio fiction story; it's saucy spicy steamy romance! Stories about relationships with sex in them, because that's how romantic relationships are IRL. Open door and spicy romance subgenres my jam, if it's yours too, then you will love with sensual little date night storytelling experience!

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Ep 651: The Corkscrew and Other Spicy Tales: A Journey Through Sexual Liberation with Spicy Author Sam L. Feldman.

Step into the vibrant world of 85-year-old author Sam L. Feldman as he shares his provocative perspectives on love, sexuality, and open relationships. In this captivating episode, Sam reads from his award-winning collection "Hookups, Hiccups, and Happenstances," treating listeners to "The Corkscrew," a story that masterfully blends sensuality with life experience. Affiliate link to Sam's book: https://amzn.to/4lqajtT

The conversation weaves through various themes, from the success of Sam's erotic bestseller to the importance of challenging societal norms around sexuality. Sam's 61-year marriage serves as a testament to his advocacy for open communication and the exploration of desires in relationships. The discussion touches on vital topics including:

- The role of ethical non-monogamy in modern relationships, & ethical non monogamy marriage
- Combating ageist beliefs about sexuality
- The importance of maintaining intimate connections and communication
- The power of erotic storytelling in challenging conservative attitudes

Ready to challenge your perspectives on love, relationships, and sexual freedom? Don't miss this enlightening conversation with a true pioneer of the sexual revolution.

Key Takeaways:

• Open relationships can be celebrated and embraced, challenging traditional views on sexuality.
• Communication is highlighted as the cornerstone of healthy relationships, even in humorous and unconventional contexts.
• Literature plays a significant role in promoting understanding and acceptance of diverse sexual experiences and desires.

Timeline:

00:00:00 - Interview with Sam L. Feldman
00:04:44 - Butch, Kathy, and Sugar's Night
00:11:07 - Writing Erotic Tales and Inspirations
00:13:00 - Miscommunication and Betrayal in Storytelling
00:17:49 - Understanding Ethical Non-Monogamy
00:21:51 - Sexual Revolution and Modern Relationships
00:30:43 - Importance of Printing Your Story
00:33:13 - Challenges in Sexuality After Mastectomy
00:38:42 - Book Selling Challenges and Bikini Culture
00:41:14 - Success and Challenges on TikTok
00:43:27 - Promoting My Book Journey
00:47:12 - Creating a Unique Erotic Narrative
00:50:09 - Validation Through Award-Winning Writing
00:52:18 - AI's Role in Creativity and Art
01:00:24 - Understanding Opinions and Generational Differences
01:03:18 - Empowerment Through Reading and Writing

Connect with Sam L. Feldman: https://www.samlfeldman.com/

Quotes from Sam L. Feldman
"Don't let them take the joy out of sex."
"These stories may never be told again."
"Communication is the key."
"Sex can relieve stress, can relieve pain, it can boost moods."

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Episode 649: Eating Pussy and Other Erotic Treats, erotic poetry, erotic poems, hot snippets, steamy scenes, and sexy spicy ASMR. Enjoy spicy romance, spicy fiction, erotic romance, erotica fiction, and sensual ASMR sounds.

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Ep 648: Second Chances and Seasoned Romance: Writing Love Stories for the Over-40 Crowd, Get this book for FREE (for a limited time only) Come As You Are: A Gen X Romance https://amzn.to/3J6ne6Y

Dive into my refreshing conversation with author Jess K. Hardy as she challenges the youth-centric world of romance fiction by championing love stories featuring characters over 40. Join us as we explore why midlife romance deserves more spotlight in contemporary and sci-fi fantasy genres.

Hardy passionately argues that life experience enriches romance storytelling, drawing from her own journey as both a writer and a woman embracing her prime years. Our discussion delves into the liberating world of indie publishing, where diverse stories can flourish beyond traditional constraints.

From navigating publishing challenges to balancing different formats (ebooks, audiobooks, and paperbacks), our conversation offers valuable insights into the modern author's journey. We share candid perspectives on writing processes, trope preferences, and the delicate art of crafting "spice" levels that resonate with readers.

Ready to challenge your perspectives on age in romance? Tune in to this episode for an inspiring discussion about love, creativity, and the power of second chances.

Enjoy the excerpt from the audiobook "Lips Like Sugar" at the end of the interview.

Timeline:

00:00:06 - Chatting with Author Jess K. Hardy
00:03:37 - Challenges of Writing Midlife Romance
00:05:26 - Indie Publishing and Diverse Voices
00:10:37 - Character-Driven Plot Dynamics
00:28:23 - Finding Errors Through Audiobook Narration
00:32:44 - Writing Inspirations and Challenges
00:40:54 - Struggles and Success in Storytelling
00:43:46 - AI in Writing: Public Awareness
00:46:31 - Challenges for New Authors
00:48:05 - Final Thoughts and Book Promotions

00:49:36 Excerpt from Lips Like Sugar

Key Takeaways:

• Midlife characters are increasingly central in contemporary and sci-fi fantasy romance, challenging stereotypes about aging and love.
• The discussion highlights the unexpected empowerment found in writing for older protagonists, promoting a narrative shift in the genre.
• The balance between digital and physical book formats is evolving, indicating a dynamic change in indie publishing practices and reader preferences.

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Episode 647: The Drink Master, excerpt, A Heterosexual Slow Burn Forced Proximity Erotic Spicy Romance Novella. A romance author relaxes at a lodge, which is exactly what she needs, even after a whole weekend away. More relaxation, yes please. But when lingers too long eyeing up the eye candy resort bartender, she gets snowbound. He's so charming and accommodating that he keeps feeding her drinks while a winter storm rages outside. After the ending of her marriage, she's ready for some ultra spicy fun and she soon finds out this surprising Pleasure Dom expertly mixes up a date better than any measly drink he's ever given her. Her delights abound as she accepts his invitation to dinner.

An erotic audio, erotic fiction piece, a holiday romance story of forced proximity and being at the right place at the right time.

Tropes: Dom/sub role play, consent is sexy, hookup, midlife romance, dirty talk, holiday, Christmas romance, hungry for pleasure, mutual pleasure is mutual bliss

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Ep 642: The Third Sexual Revolution, & Sex Ed for Adults with Sabrina Baldini.

Did you know we might be on the cusp of a third sexual revolution? Sex educator Sabrina Baldini shares fascinating insights from her journey transitioning from teaching sex education to kids to launching After Sex Ed, a company focused on adult sexual wellness.

Through candid discussion, Sabrina explores:
- The challenges of promoting sex positivity in today's censorship climate
- How inadequate early sex education impacts adult relationships
- The pandemic's role in catalyzing sexual awakening, self discovery, personal growth, and exploration
- The growing demand for authentic, relatable content in adult spaces
- Historical parallels with previous sexual revolutions (1920s and 1960s)

Despite social media bans and societal stigma, Sabrina remains committed to fostering open conversations about sexuality, consent, and pleasure. Her work bridges the gap between traditional sex education and the real-world challenges adults face in their intimate lives.

Ready to challenge your perspectives on sexual wellness and education? Tune in to this thought-provoking episode that's reshaping how we think and talk about sexuality.

Timeline:

00:00:00 - Sex Education for Adults
00:01:43 - Challenges of Discussing Sex Education
00:04:20 - Challenges of Sex Positivity
00:08:04 - Talking to Kids About Consent
00:10:00 - Understanding Healthy Sexual Feelings
00:16:16 - The Rise of the Third Sexual Revolution
00:22:30 - Impact of Taboo on Sexual Behavior
00:23:41 - Trends in Authenticity and Romance
00:26:23 - Exploring Age and Sexuality
00:30:29 - Impact of Technology on Sexuality
00:34:18 - Trends in Modern Relationships
00:37:19 - Online Safety and Dating Apps
00:38:40 - Concerns About AI in Art
00:48:54 - Addressing Sexuality and Porn Education
00:54:47 - Exploring Cultural Perspectives on Sexuality
00:59:46 - Understanding Fantasy and Sexuality
01:01:51 - Understanding Emotional Connections in Sex

Key Takeaways:

• Adult sexual education is often overlooked, despite the urgent need for discussions on pleasure and consent.
• The pandemic highlighted and intensified the challenges of censorship in sexual education, affecting adult learners.
• There is a growing movement, referred to as a third sexual revolution, that emphasizes open dialogue and authenticity in exploring sexuality.

Sabrina Baldini | Sex Educator, TEDx Speaker & Founder of After Sex Ed

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Ep 640: Hunted at Work for a Quickie with the Chef written and narrated by podcast host Ruan Willow. Dana, now single after a dull unsexy marriage, was working at an old folks home to make money for herself and her kids. She had started offering side jobs of taboo acts for the residents to earn extra money to help pay her way through nursing school. The Chef of the home, Cyrus, had found this out and wanted in on the action, but promised to pay her in pleasure instead. They'd fallen into a sexy game of hunter and prey, which they enacted on their work breaks, and found hidden places around the building to have sex. Having almost got caught, they were swift and smart about their sneaky rendezvous. Dana, who gets very turned on by Cyrus's filthy dirty talk, gets a surprise from him that leaves her excited for more of the sexy middle-aged chef.

Enjoy this spicy erotic fiction story! Erotic storytelling to enjoy, grab your pleasure in what entertains you, it's your birthright to experience pleasure!

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