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Ep 654: Unpacking Masculinity with Jacob Tobia: Dive into a thought-provoking conversation with gender nonconforming writer and performer Jacob Tobia as they explore the complexities of manhood in today's society. Jacob, a member of Forbes' 30 Under 30 and the voice behind the non-binary character Double Trouble in Netflix's She-Ra, shares insights from their new book, Before They Were Men: Essays on Manhood, Compassion, and What Went Wrong, which releases on August 26, 2025. Affiliate link to the book https://amzn.to/3JuhaoS

In this episode, we discuss the need for compassion towards men, the impact of societal expectations on young boys, and the importance of redefining masculinity. Jacob's candid reflections on their personal journey and the cultural narratives surrounding gender challenge us to rethink our perspectives on manhood and the emotional struggles many face.

Key themes include:
- The harmful effects of toxic masculinity and the need for a shift towards safe masculinity
- Understanding the struggles of young men and boys within the gender binary
- The importance of empathy and connection in feminist discourse
- Insights into the incel phenomenon and the need for compassion

Join us for this enlightening discussion that encourages listeners to foster understanding and healing in a world that often feels divided. Jacob's powerful message is one of hope, urging us all to create a kinder, more inclusive future.

Connect with Jacob Tobia: https://jacobtobia.com/ on Instagram @jacobtobia

Quotes from Jacob Tobia

"It is time I stop avoiding the heart of the work that I owe the world."

"Men and boys are suffering spiritually under the gender binary now."

"The term toxic masculinity is now a game of telephone and it's gone terribly."

"We need to shift our conversation toward compassion for men."

"Learning to have empathy for people who hurt you is not easy work."

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Ep 651: The Corkscrew and Other Spicy Tales: A Journey Through Sexual Liberation with Spicy Author Sam L. Feldman.

Step into the vibrant world of 85-year-old author Sam L. Feldman as he shares his provocative perspectives on love, sexuality, and open relationships. In this captivating episode, Sam reads from his award-winning collection "Hookups, Hiccups, and Happenstances," treating listeners to "The Corkscrew," a story that masterfully blends sensuality with life experience. Affiliate link to Sam's book: https://amzn.to/4lqajtT

The conversation weaves through various themes, from the success of Sam's erotic bestseller to the importance of challenging societal norms around sexuality. Sam's 61-year marriage serves as a testament to his advocacy for open communication and the exploration of desires in relationships. The discussion touches on vital topics including:

- The role of ethical non-monogamy in modern relationships, & ethical non monogamy marriage
- Combating ageist beliefs about sexuality
- The importance of maintaining intimate connections and communication
- The power of erotic storytelling in challenging conservative attitudes

Ready to challenge your perspectives on love, relationships, and sexual freedom? Don't miss this enlightening conversation with a true pioneer of the sexual revolution.

Key Takeaways:

• Open relationships can be celebrated and embraced, challenging traditional views on sexuality.
• Communication is highlighted as the cornerstone of healthy relationships, even in humorous and unconventional contexts.
• Literature plays a significant role in promoting understanding and acceptance of diverse sexual experiences and desires.

Timeline:

00:00:00 - Interview with Sam L. Feldman
00:04:44 - Butch, Kathy, and Sugar's Night
00:11:07 - Writing Erotic Tales and Inspirations
00:13:00 - Miscommunication and Betrayal in Storytelling
00:17:49 - Understanding Ethical Non-Monogamy
00:21:51 - Sexual Revolution and Modern Relationships
00:30:43 - Importance of Printing Your Story
00:33:13 - Challenges in Sexuality After Mastectomy
00:38:42 - Book Selling Challenges and Bikini Culture
00:41:14 - Success and Challenges on TikTok
00:43:27 - Promoting My Book Journey
00:47:12 - Creating a Unique Erotic Narrative
00:50:09 - Validation Through Award-Winning Writing
00:52:18 - AI's Role in Creativity and Art
01:00:24 - Understanding Opinions and Generational Differences
01:03:18 - Empowerment Through Reading and Writing

Connect with Sam L. Feldman: https://www.samlfeldman.com/

Quotes from Sam L. Feldman
"Don't let them take the joy out of sex."
"These stories may never be told again."
"Communication is the key."
"Sex can relieve stress, can relieve pain, it can boost moods."

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