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Season 5, Ep 555: Writing the Queer Experience: Mx Sinclair Sexsmith on Kink Storytelling, Erotica, and D/s Relationships.
Meet the author!
SINCLAIR SEXSMITH (they/them) is a queer butch writer focusing on sexualities, genders, kink, and relationships. Their short story collection, Sweet & Rough: Queer Kink Erotica, was a 2016 finalist for a Lambda Literary Award, and they are the editor of 5 editions of Best Lesbian Erotica. Find more of their work at sugarbutch.net.

Books: Best Lesbian Erotica (affiliate links, podcast may receive commissions on sales through this link. Thank you!) https://amzn.to/3PurEo0
"Your Year in Kink" Workbook https://amzn.to/3WdrOUH
"The Harder She Comes: Butch Femme Erotica" https://amzn.to/424GWYb

Quotes from Sinclair Sexsmith:
"I can't stop writing. Like, I need to write to understand myself and understand the world."
"I think writer's block is a myth."
"I love the inner world stuff and I think writing is one of the best places to express that."
"I want to encourage more queers and trans folks, and like kinky folks, to write down their stories."

In this episode, Ruan and Sinclair discuss their shared passion for writing, the challenges of titling works, and the complexities of self-publishing in the erotica genre. They explore the nuances of writing about sex and intimacy, the importance of queer representation in literature, and the creative process behind crafting compelling narratives.

Sinclair shares their thoughts on the intersection of writing and sex work, the drive to create authentic queer stories and queer fiction, the writing process, publishing, and the transformative power of literature. They also discuss the upcoming platform Theo Reads, which promises to be a haven for erotica and romance writers and readers alike. https://theoreads.com/ Find both Sinclair's and Ruan's writing on Theo Reads.

Timeline:
02:41 Do you like the writing, the teaching or the creating
08:14 I feel pretty strongly that writing about sex is non sex work
10:09 There's still a lack of representation of queer sex in mainstream erotica
16:38 How are you with titles?
18:53 Pretty much everything I write has D/s
28:48 What are other are your favorite kinks to write
29:57 So when you're writing, do you start with your idea or do you
40:22 What is too personal to share, what is too vulnerable to share
43:39 Like separating the writing and publishing process is important
49:12 reading out loud is probably his number one editing tool
53:48 all about like your courses
56:54 This workbook is about reflecting on someone's kink life
01:01:42 What are you working on right now that you can share
01:02:59 When my dad died I was like, why am I not writing more
01:07:24 lgtbq and writing Coming out to your family can be tricky and painful
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Ep 554: Mallory and Derek Attend Swinger Parties, Part 13, The Spicy Video Shoot: Bisexual Women Mallory and Maria Woman on Woman Delights. IN THE SERIES Mallory and Derek Attend Swinger Sex Parties.

An Erotica Romance fiction Story of a Bisexual Couple who join an alternative lifestyle Sex Club where the leaders of the club throw sex parties at their house for their adventurous swinging members. Come on the journey as Mallory and Derek figure out how to have sexy fun with others while still being a devoted couple. This story contains polyamory, the swinging lifestyle, partner sharing, and kinky sex.

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Have fun listening to this erotic audio! Exploring erotica fiction and erotic romance are fabulous ways to exercise your self care time, to explore your sexuality and allow your brain to experience things you might not be able to do IRL. Enjoy the erotic fiction story and let the erotic romance of a couple expanding their sexuality in a sex positive way together satiate your own curiosities and fantasies. Give your sexual health and mental health a treat and have a listen!

Stay tuned for part 14 coming next week! Enjoy the kinky sex and spicy romance fiction!

Written and narrated by Ruan Willow.
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Ep 553: The Blow Job, My Night as a Truck Stop Hooker written by Kirsten McCurran, and erotic fiction excerpt narrated by the podcast host Ruan Willow.

"Kirsten McCurran" is a bestselling wife and husband writing team who've been sharing their sexy stories for over a decade. They love dreaming up fantasies about typical suburban couples finding their kinky side. Find Kirsten McCurran wherever ebooks are sold.

Get the spicy book! Erotica excerpt from: the charity anthology fiction book Not So Guilty Pleasures: 45+ Filthy Stories for a Cause, ALL PROCEEDS GO TO WORLD CENTRAL KITCHEN FOR HELP WITH HURRICANE RELIEF https://books.ruanwillowauthor.com/charityanthology
(any money made from my affiliate link usage to buy the anthology will also be donated to the same charity). It is also in Kindle Unlimited (for a limited time).

Anthology Blurb: We've got a smorgasbord of steamy delights that'll make your toes curl and your cheeks flush. From forbidden fruit to second helpings of love, we've got more flavors than your local ice cream shop - and trust us, you'll want to sample them all. Whether you like your romance sweet and subtle or hot enough to set off smoke alarms, we've got a story to tickle your fancy (and maybe a few other places).

So go ahead, indulge in these not-so-guilty pleasures. After all, it's for charity - you're practically a saint!

Not-So-Guilty Pleasures is a charity anthology benefiting World Central Kitchen (for help with the hurricane relief).

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Exercise your sexuality daily! Sexual health is mental health! Marinate in your sexuality daily and enjoy your relationships, cherish them! Enjoy the spicy entertainment!

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