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  • Anxiety and Burnout are Very Commonly Linked with Neurodiversity - Dr Martin Brunet on Autism and ADHD

    Anxiety and Burnout are Very Commonly Linked with Neurodiversity - Dr Martin Brunet on Autism and ADHD
    2025/07/09
    There has been a huge rise in the number of autism and ADHD diagnoses over the last two decades. And while many midlife men have spent years being treated for anxiety or depression without ever understanding the root cause, there could be a link between their mental health struggles and undiagnosed neurodiversity. This week Paul is joined by Dr Martin Brunet, author of the book Your Worry Makes Sense, to explore the hidden mental health struggles faced by midlife men and how neurodivergent conditions like autism and ADHD often go unrecognised in men in their 40s and 50s. Cultural and generational factors have led to underdiagnosis, but greater awareness today is helping men make sense of lifelong challenges. Martin discusses how understanding your own mental health and potential neurodiversity can lead to more compassionate self-management and a more sustainable lifestyle. The conversation also highlights the unique pressures midlife men face: career responsibility, caregiving roles, and the tendency to ‘push on’ rather than ask for help. And Martin’s message is clear: education is empowerment, and understanding your own mental landscape could be the first step to a more balanced, fulfilling life. --------------- You can follow Martin on Instagram and buy Your Worry Makes Sense on Amazon. If you’ve found this episode insightful or interesting, you can support the show at www.ko-fi.com/middlemanpodcast I'd love to hear about your experiences, so if you'd like to get in touch email me at paul@middlemanpodcast.com and let me know what's on your mind or sign up to the newsletter at www.middlemanpodcast.com Middle Man on Instagram: @middleman__podcast Middle Man on Facebook: @middlemanpodcast
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    54 分
  • A Man’s Guide to Menopause, with Dr Naomi Potter

    A Man’s Guide to Menopause, with Dr Naomi Potter
    2025/07/02
    Menopause exploded into the public consciousness a few years ago thanks largely to the book Menopausing by Davina McCall and Dr Naomi Potter. While a woman’s experience of menopause is deeply personal, it also touches the men around them - partners, colleagues, friends, and family. This week Paul is joined by co-author of Menopausing and founder of the UK’s leading menopause clinic, Dr Potter. Through the lens of the people who love the women going through it, they explore the realities of menopause and perimenopause in an attempt to gain a better understanding of their impact. Naomi explains the difference between perimenopause and menopause, highlighting the chaotic hormone fluctuations, the 70+ symptoms women may face, and the mental toll it can take, including loss of identity, confidence, and energy. The conversation delves into the stigma and misdiagnosis still surrounding menopause, and Naomi discusses how awareness is growing and encourages men to educate themselves, listen with empathy, and avoid personalising the emotional and behavioural changes they might witness. This episode is a must-listen for any man wanting to better support the women in his life and for anyone curious about the emotional, physical, and relational impacts of menopause. --------------- You can follow Naomi on Instagram and buy Menopausing on Amazon. If you’ve found this episode insightful or interesting, you can support the show at www.ko-fi.com/middlemanpodcast I'd love to hear about your experiences, so if you'd like to get in touch email me at paul@middlemanpodcast.com and let me know what's on your mind or sign up to the newsletter at www.middlemanpodcast.com Middle Man on Instagram: @middleman__podcast Middle Man on Facebook: @middlemanpodcast
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    42 分
  • Midlife Stories: Self Harm as a Coping Mechanism, with David Salmon

    Midlife Stories: Self Harm as a Coping Mechanism, with David Salmon
    2025/06/25
    Coping mechanisms can take many forms for midlife men, from drinking a bit too much to isolating oneself to overworking to emotional eating. Self harm can be at the more extreme end of the scale, but it is not uncommon for a man experiencing burnout, anxiety or depression to use this as a way of getting through life. This week Paul is joined by David Salmon for a deeply personal and raw conversation. David has been though a number of traumatic life events in recent years, and opens up about confronting in midlife a deep-rooted coping mechanism that no longer served him. He describes the challenges that have shadowed him since his teenage years and culminated in a crisis during the pandemic. Through therapy, self-reflection, and supportive relationships, David has gradually learned to understand his mental health, identifying patterns of self-criticism, stress responses, and the shame that often keeps men suffering in silence. He speaks candidly about the emotional toll of being a people pleaser in high-pressure work environments, the loneliness of modern male life, and the importance of creating space for meaning and connection beyond career achievements. If you or anyone around you is affected by this episode, you can contact The Samaritans on 116 123 or text 'SHOUT' to 85258. --------------- You can connect with David on LinkedIn. If you’ve found this episode insightful or interesting, you can support the show at www.ko-fi.com/middlemanpodcast I'd love to hear about your experiences, so if you'd like to get in touch email me at paul@middlemanpodcast.com and let me know what's on your mind or sign up to the newsletter at www.middlemanpodcast.com Middle Man on Instagram: @middleman__podcast Middle Man on Facebook: @middlemanpodcast
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    46 分
  • Divorce is The Second Most Traumatic Life Event - Sara Davison on Surviving Relationship Break Ups

    Divorce is The Second Most Traumatic Life Event - Sara Davison on Surviving Relationship Break Ups
    2025/06/18
    The divorce rate among men in their 40s is the highest of any age group, remaining stubbornly high at a time when the overall rate of divorce is falling. At a time when several other areas of life can be challenging, the failure of a marriage in midlife can have a devastating impact. This week Paul talks to Sara Davison, AKA The Divorce Coach, about why so many midlife marriages falter and how to regain momentum when they do. She describes the emotional paralysis many feel post-divorce, and explains how divorce in midlife isn’t just a legal process; it’s an emotional, financial, and identity-shattering event. Sara also shares her very personal journey from the trauma of a blindsiding breakup to becoming one of the UK’s most respected breakup and divorce coaches. Drawing on her own devastating experience and years of coaching, she explores factors such as unspoken resentments, poor communication, and simply growing apart. Sara also explains how men and women experience and process divorce differently, why midlife can be a period of profound self-reassessment, and how rebuilding a sense of purpose is essential. If you’re facing the end of a relationship or navigating the emotional aftermath, this episode is filled with compassionate insight, practical advice on regaining momentum, and the power of clarity to help you take back control of your life. --------------- You can find out more about Sara's work at saradavison.com or follow her on Instagram at @saradavisondivorcecoach If you’ve found this episode insightful or interesting, you can support the show at www.ko-fi.com/middlemanpodcast I'd love to hear about your experiences, so if you'd like to get in touch email me at paul@middlemanpodcast.com and let me know what's on your mind or sign up to the newsletter at www.middlemanpodcast.com Middle Man on Instagram: @middleman__podcast Middle Man on Facebook: @middlemanpodcast
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    45 分
  • Rebuilding Your Life When the Career Ladder Breaks, with Eleanor Twedell

    Rebuilding Your Life When the Career Ladder Breaks, with Eleanor Twedell
    2025/06/11
    Losing your job in midlife can be take a significant emotional and psychological toll. From guilt, shame and loss of identity, redundancy is often accompanied by a messy and non-linear form of grief. Making space for that pain is a vital part of recovery, but once you have acknowledged that it is time to start to embrace possibility. This week Paul talks to career change coach and the author of the book Why Losing Your Job Could Be the Best Thing That Ever Happened to You, Eleanor Twedell. She believes that in your darkest hour, you can begin to shape a life that’s more aligned, meaningful, and entirely your own. As such, she says that job loss can actually lead to empowerment and growth. Eleanor shares her deeply personal story of being made redundant at 40 during a time of immense personal upheaval. She also shares practical models to help others move forward. These range from identifying immediate needs v long-term wants, to choosing whether to stick, twist, or completely reinvent. For some, redundancy is a gateway to freedom, courage, and purpose. For others, it’s a route back into their careers - wiser, clearer, and on their own terms. --------------- You can find buy Why Losing Your Job Could Be the Best Thing That Ever Happened to You on Amazon, and connect with Eleanor on LinkedIn. If you’ve found this episode insightful or interesting, you can support the show at www.ko-fi.com/middlemanpodcast I'd love to hear about your experiences, so if you'd like to get in touch email me at paul@middlemanpodcast.com and let me know what's on your mind or sign up to the newsletter at www.middlemanpodcast.com Middle Man on Instagram: @middleman__podcast Middle Man on Facebook: @middlemanpodcast
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    54 分
  • Midlife Stories: From Trapped to Transformed, with Guido Regazzoni

    Midlife Stories: From Trapped to Transformed, with Guido Regazzoni
    2025/06/04
    Many people fall into careers that are not necessarily of their own design, only to wake up two decades later feeling unfulfilled, stressed and miserable. And yet a career change in midlife seems daunting and impractical, and surrounded by potential problems that can seem insurmountable. This week Paul talks to Guido Regazzoni who, after finding himself struggling with stress, insomnia, antidepressants, and an overwhelming sense of dread about work, was made redundant. But after a period of reflection, rather than diving back into the high-pressure office politics that had been taking such a toll on his mental health and family life, he chose to reinvent himself. Guido shares the story of how this new chapter has not only improved his wellbeing, but also given him a renewed sense of purpose. He offers candid insight into the emotional and psychological shifts needed to break free from the ‘zombie state’ of an unfulfilling career and take a leap into something new, even at 49. His story is a powerful reminder that it’s never too late to reclaim your future and design a more joyful, meaningful life. --------------- You can find out about Guido's fitness studio at emsfitness.io If you’ve found this episode insightful or interesting, you can support the show at www.ko-fi.com/middlemanpodcast I'd love to hear about your experiences, so if you'd like to get in touch email me at paul@middlemanpodcast.com and let me know what's on your mind or sign up to the newsletter at www.middlemanpodcast.com Middle Man on Instagram: @middleman__podcast Middle Man on Facebook: @middlemanpodcast
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    38 分
  • Purpose Allows You to Thrive, Not Just Survive – David McNally on Meaning in Life

    Purpose Allows You to Thrive, Not Just Survive – David McNally on Meaning in Life
    2025/05/28
    The concept of purpose can be confusing and overplayed in some quarters, with much of the talk around this implying life missions that few can identify. But with questions like “is this it?” and “why am I here?” plaguing many midlife men, there can be little doubt that a sense of purpose is important if we want to thrive in the second half of life. This week Paul talks to keynote speaker and bestselling author David McNally to explore purpose not as a grand, elusive mission but as a series of meaningful contributions to family, community, and workplace. David believes that contributing to those around you can be just as meaningful as trying to tap into a passion that you may not understand or have, and that purpose should be reframed. He also draws a vital distinction between merely surviving and flourishing, arguing that true fulfilment comes from aligning your talents and values with how you serve others. The discussion delves into comparison culture, self-acceptance, shifting perspectives in midlife, and the importance of avoiding cynicism, and David also shares his personal journey, from early entrepreneurial success and sudden burnout in his 30s, to discovering a deeper sense of meaning. This episode is rich with practical insights for anyone questioning their direction in midlife. Whether you’re feeling stuck or simply seeking more joy, this conversation offers encouragement to pause, reflect, and reimagine your next chapter. --------------- You can find out about 'Mark of an Eagle - How Your Life Changes the World' and David's other books on his website. If you’ve found this episode insightful or interesting, you can support the show at www.ko-fi.com/middlemanpodcast I'd love to hear about your experiences, so if you'd like to get in touch email me at paul@middlemanpodcast.com and let me know what's on your mind or sign up to the newsletter at www.middlemanpodcast.com Middle Man on Instagram: @middleman__podcast Middle Man on Facebook: @middlemanpodcast
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    44 分
  • My Testosterone Increased by 50% Just Through Lifestyle Factors – James Davis on Andropause

    My Testosterone Increased by 50% Just Through Lifestyle Factors – James Davis on Andropause
    2025/05/21
    Testosterone levels in men typically decrease by 1% to 2% annually from age 30, and in midlife can fall below optimum. In fact, the average 22 year old today has lower testosterone than the average 70 year old had just 50 years ago. In an estimated 40% of men, this can lead to symptoms including low energy, brain fog, loss of motivation, emotional flatness and reduced libido. This week Paul talks to James Davis, the author of The Midlife Male Handbook, which takes a holistic view of transitioning through andropause. Drawing from his background in psychology and personal experience, James discusses how he naturally boosted his testosterone without turning to testosterone replacement therapy (TRT), and talks about the impact of elements such as diet, exercise, stress management, sleep, and the often-overlooked psychological tools that can restore vitality and self-worth during midlife. James also unpacks the societal stigma around male hormones, the lack of medical awareness about andropause, and how men often suffer in silence due to outdated ideas of masculinity. The conversation highlights why midlife is a critical turning point - not a crisis - and how embracing this phase can lead to a more fulfilling second act. This episode is a must-listen for any man in his 40s or 50s questioning his energy, purpose or direction and dismissing these questions as ‘just ageing’. It provides a better understanding of hormones, mindset, and how small, sustainable changes can have a huge impact on wellbeing. --------------- You can buy The Midlife Male Handbook on Amazon and follow @midlifementors on Instagram If you’ve found this episode insightful or interesting, you can support the show at www.ko-fi.com/middlemanpodcast I'd love to hear about your experiences, so if you'd like to get in touch email me at paul@middlemanpodcast.com and let me know what's on your mind or sign up to the newsletter at www.middlemanpodcast.com Middle Man on Instagram: @middleman__podcast Middle Man on Facebook: @middlemanpodcast
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    49 分