This introductory episode lays the groundwork for the podcast's first season developed by two friends who share a passion for decoding narcissism and toxic behaviors as they are both healing from and prevailing over abusive past relationships. It is their hope through this podcast that they can reach others who are looking for insightful and empathetic conversation on the journey to healing from narcissistic and toxic abuse. This is a podcast of self discovery. We’ll be talking about personal freedom, safety, security, and strength while embracing our inner voice, recognizing and honoring our gut instinct, accepting imperfection, showing grace to ourselves, and starting anew. They are both in industries that seek to help others find relief and a future of mental health and happiness. Toni is a Board Certified Life Coach and Lisa is a high school teacher completing her final year of her master’s in counseling.

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Our personalities and relationship preferences are partly genetic and partly environmental. In this first episode, Lisa explains some of her childhood experiences, specifically her relationships with father figures, which hardwired the first forty-plus years of her life and led to love addiction and codependency.

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Lisa discusses her initial attraction to her second husband, "#2." She details the years of emotional and psychological abuse she suffered in their 7 year marriage and the many red flags she ignored. Trigger warning: this episode contains instances of severe abuse, please listen with care.

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Lisa details the escalating tension in her 7 year marriage with #2. Trigger warning: this episode contains instances of severe abuse, please listen with care.

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Trigger warning: this episode contains instances of physical abuse that may be difficult for some listeners.

The episode begins with Toni providing some context of what it looked like on the outside of this cult of two between Lisa and #2. Lisa continues her story of what her life was like living with an abusive spouse. She details several instances of the accelerating psychological, emotional and physical abuse that she endured prior to becoming aware that she was, in fact, a victim of domestic abuse. She lays out for listeners why she stayed so long and how she found the courage and way out of that abusive relationship.

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Lisa wraps up her story about leaving an abusive marriage. The abuse was increasing in frequency and intensity making the marriage very unsafe. She mentions the benefits of contacting the National Domestic Violence Hotline and how they assisted her in developing a safety plan and exit strategy. Upon informing #2 that she was divorcing him and wanted no further communication, he persisted in harassing and maybe even stalking her. This prompted her to obtain a protective order for her and her children’s safety. Though the road has been anything but easy, Lisa now lives a life of freedom from fear, control, and manipulation.

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If you or someone you know is experiencing domestic abuse please contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline https://www.thehotline.org

Episode 6 begins with Toni and Lisa laying the foundation of narcissism and abuse by describing and discussing: the Four Main Needs of a Narcissist (Power, Control, Manipulation and Admiration), The Three Es of Narcissists (Empathy, Entitlement, and Exploitation), The Cycle of Abuse (Tension, Incident, Reconciliation, and Calm), The Dizzying Cycle of Narcissism (Idealize, Devalue, Discard and Hoovering), and an explanation of the Cluster B Personality Disorders.

They take a deep dive into the most common buzzwords and concepts of narcissism using personal examples in their discussion. Hopefully gaining a knowledge of these concepts will help in the identification of red flags in relationships.

This episode is a great primer or refresher of these terms for listeners and us!

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The content in this podcast is for informational and educational purposes only. If you are experiencing an emergency, please contact the appropriate authorities.

If you or someone you know is experiencing domestic abuse please contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline https://www.thehotline.org

Boundaries, Updated and Expanded Edition: When to Say Yes, How to Say No to Take Control of Your Life by John Townsend, Henry Cloud, et al.

The Emotionally Destructive Marriage: How to Find Your Voice and Reclaim Your Hope by Leslie Veronica

A Glossary Of Narcissistic Slang Terms

https://abusewarrior.com/abuse/a-glossary-of-narcissistic-slang-terms/

50+ Crazy Gaslighting Phrases Narcissists Say – Direct From Survivors

https://abusewarrior.com/abuse/gaslighting-phrases/

Narcissism 101: A Glossary of Terms for Understanding the Madness

https://narcissistfamilyfiles.com/2017/09/19/narcissism-101-a-glossary-of-terms-for-understanding-the-madness/

20 Narcissistic Terms: A Glossary Of Terms For Understanding Narcissism by Anne McCrea

https://themindsjournal.com/twenty-common-terms-in-the-world-of-narcissism/