You don’t need more discipline, you need a better system.

In this follow-up episode inspired by Atomic Habits, we dive into the science behind behavior change and explore the four keys to building lasting habits and the reverse formula for breaking the ones that are keeping you stuck. You’ll learn how to make new habits obvious, attractive, easy, and satisfying, and how to design your life to support the person you’re becoming.

This one’s for anyone who wants change that actually lasts.

You’ll learn:

• The 4 laws of habit formation (and how to apply them today)
• A gentler approach to breaking bad habits
• Why “don’t miss twice” is a game-changing mindset shift
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Big changes don’t start with willpower; they start with one small step.

In this episode of Here Comes Sunshine, we explore key takeaways from James Clear’s Atomic Habits, including why tiny changes are more powerful (and sustainable) than big goals. You’ll learn how to shift your identity, create habits that stick, and build real momentum by doing less, not more. Whether you're trying to develop confidence, consistency, or just get unstuck, this episode will help you start small and keep going.

You’ll learn:

• Why identity is the real foundation for habit change
• How to shrink your goals to something unskippable
• Simple ways to design your environment for success
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Have you ever felt like an extra in your own life, watching from the sidelines, downplaying your voice, or shrinking to stay safe?

Let's discuss rewriting the stories we tell ourselves and explore what it means to reclaim your main character energy, not from ego, but from truth. Together, we’ll explore how social conditioning, comparison, and outdated relationship dynamics can lead us into roles we never intended to take on.

I’ll share personal moments of when I forgot I was the lead in my own story, and what helped me step back into that power. We’ll also dig into the psychology behind why we defer to others, and how to start showing up differently today.

This is your reminder: You’ve always been the main character.You just might need to rewrite the script.

Resources & Support:Newsletter & reflections: sarahvalentinemusings.substack.comCoaching tools & offers: stan.store/the_sarah_valentineContact me: sarah@intimateconsciousness.com

Ever stop to wonder where that voice in your head came from? The one that says you’re not good at something, not safe, not capable?

Today, I share a personal story, and we delve into the roots of those old beliefs, asking the powerful question: Who told you that?

Sometimes it’s an ex, a parent, a coach, or even a joke that wasn’t funny. However, when we hear something repeatedly, especially from someone we once trusted, we begin to accept it as truth.

Today, I share one of my own personal stories, along with insights from psychology and neuroscience about how these messages take hold, and how to begin letting them go.

Want to go deeper?Subscribe to my newsletter (hopefully soon) on Substack: sarahvalentinemusings.substack.comFind coaching tools and resources at: stan.store/the_sarah_valentineContact me: sarah@intimateconsciousness.com

Are you feeling more forgetful, reactive, or emotionally flat lately? You’re not broken, you might just be caught in what Chase Hughes calls “The Glitch.”

Watch the YouTube Here: https://youtu.be/wsF3REbr-44?si=kKGnRRgERH6su8vA

In this episode of Here Comes Sunshine, we explore why so many of us feel off right now, what’s happening in our minds and nervous systems, and how to reclaim clarity in a world always demanding our attention.

You’ll get:

• Grounding questions to help you reconnect
• A 7-day clarity check-in challenge
• Simple rituals to reset your nervous system

We also discuss how the glitch affects intimacy, emotional connection, and how we show up in relationships.

Let’s move from fog to freedom, together.

Resources:

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Stan Store: stan.store/the_sarah_valentine⁠

Contact Sarah: ⁠sarah@intimateconsciousness.com⁠

Letting go isn’t weakness, it’s a powerful act of self-respect.

In the final part of this 4-episode series, we talk about how to release a relationship that no longer honors who you are.

Not with bitterness or blame, but with clarity, intention, and grace. You’ll learn how to grieve what’s ending, set firm boundaries, and create a healing plan to guide your next chapter. If you’re ready to stop living in limbo and start choosing growth, this episode will walk you through the first steps of moving forward, calm, clear, and grounded in your worth.

Not revenge. Not bitterness. Not ghosting or disappearing in silence. But the kind of letting go that says:

“I love myself enough to walk away from what no longer honors me.”

You’re not alone.

And you’re not stuck.Sunshine is always waiting.Find more reflection tools and support:Email: sarah@intimateconsciousness.comStan Store: https://stan.store/the_sarah_valentine

Sometimes we’re not ready to leave, but we don’t want to stay stuck. In Part 3 of this series, we explore what it looks like to give your relationship one more try, with clear intention and emotional integrity. If you’re wondering, “Can this still be rebuilt?”—this episode will walk you through how to show up differently, invite connection without pressure, and listen for the truth in her response because trying again doesn’t mean losing yourself. It means leading with love and letting the outcome reveal what’s real.

1. Create a 30-Day Reconnection Plan. This isn’t about changing her. It’s about showing up differently and seeing what’s possible.

Examples:

• Plan a meaningful date night.
• Ask her an open-ended question you’ve never asked before.
• Express one honest feeling a day, without blame or bitterness.

• “I’ve been thinking a lot about us and what I hope we can rebuild.”
• “I want to feel closer to you again. Would you be open to trying something together, one step at a time?”

• Am I willing to try without controlling the outcome?
• Can I stay grounded even if she shuts down?
• Am I doing this from love or fear?

2. Use Clear, Compassionate Communication. Say things like: This is not about begging. It’s about an invitation.

3. Ask Yourself: This kind of effort takes strength. And if she responds? Beautiful. If she doesn’t? You have your answer.

And you tried with your whole heart.

You can find more support and resources at my ⁠Stan Store⁠or by contacting me directly at ⁠sarah@intimateconsciousness.com⁠.See you next time!

Welcome back to Here Comes Sunshine. In Part 2 of our Deciding to Stay or Go series, we're turning the focus inward. You can’t make a grounded decision about your relationship until you know what you're truly looking for.

So many men over 40 have never fully asked themselves:

• What kind of connection do I crave?
• What does intimacy look like for the man I’ve become?
• What type of partnership feels aligned with my values?

• How to define your relationship vision in just five powerful sentences
• How to name your non-negotiables and core values
• How to recognize old patterns that are no longer serving you

• Have I outgrown this version of love?
• What part of me have I been silencing to avoid conflict?
• What would it look like to love—and be loved—in a way that honors who I am now?

Today’s episode will help you reconnect with your emotional, physical, and relational needs. You’ll walk away with practical tools and clarity, not about what your partner wants, but about what you want in this next season of life. We’ll cover: You’ll also get reflective prompts like: You deserve clarity. And you’re allowed to want more.

Find more support and resources at my Stan Store, or reach out to me directly at sarah@intimateconsciousness.com.

Let’s keep walking this path together.

You’re doing the brave work.