This Week’s Listener Question:

My sister found out that her husband had an affair and he is promising to stop and wants to save the marriage. Can people truly get over an affair?

SOUL Group Questions:

To build connection with a friend or in your Soul Group, ask each other these questions.

1. When has triangulation effected one of your relationships?

2. What boundaries or expectations do you have in your most intimate relationship?

3. Think of a time when you were able to rebuild trust or reconcile a relationship. What were the steps you took?

4. How could you become a “better student” and learn more about your key relationships?

5. What is a relationship “master class” you’d like to take with someone you love? How could your invite them to lean in and learn with you?

Resources:

The State of Affairs by Esther Perel Book

Connect with Laura & Christine:

Have a question for us? Send it to questions@soulenchilada.com

To sign up for one-on-one grief and/or faith support with Laura, visit griefandhope.org

To ask Laura to speak at your event – laurabusse.com

Learn more about Laura’s ministry The 3 O’Clock Wake Up Call – HERE

Learn more about Christine Ruth, counseling practice, and future retreats – HERE

This Week’s Listener Question:

My sister found out that her husband had an affair and he is promising to stop and wants to save the marriage. Can people truly get over an affair?

SOUL Group Questions:

To build connection with a friend or in your Soul Group, ask each other these questions.

1. How would you define someone having a physical affair?

2. What crosses the line for you and indicates someone is having an emotional affair?

3. Would you be more upset if your partner had an emotional or physical affair?

4. Why do you think some people emphasis sexual sin more than other sins like greed, pride, or lying?

5. How can we express compassion and grace for ourselves or people we know in this situation?

Resources:

The State of Affairs by Esther Perel Book

Connect with Laura & Christine:

Have a question for us? Send it to questions@soulenchilada.com

To sign up for one-on-one grief and/or faith support with Laura, visit griefandhope.org

To ask Laura to speak at your event – laurabusse.com

Learn more about Laura’s ministry The 3 O’Clock Wake Up Call – HERE

Learn more about Christine Ruth, counseling practice, and future retreats – HERE

This Week’s Listener Question:

I feel like I’m running around doing a lot of things, but I’m not doing anything really well or making a difference. I’m skimming the surface, but never going deep. How do I know what to focus on so I’m not so scattered and can feel like I’m living my life on purpose.

SOUL Group Questions:

To build connection with a friend or in your Soul Group, ask each other these questions.

1. In what was do you struggle or identify with the listener’s question?

2. What competes for your time and energy every day?

3. If you could boil today down to one thing, what would be your BEST YES ?

4. What do you need to weed out of your garden to focus on your best yes?

5. What helps you lean in and listen to God’s voice, your soul, or yourself? How can you do that this week?

Resources:

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Have a question for us? Send it to questions@soulenchilada.com

To sign up for one-on-one grief and/or faith support with Laura, visit griefandhope.org

To ask Laura to speak at your event – laurabusse.com

Learn more about Laura’s ministry The 3 O’Clock Wake Up Call – HERE

Learn more about Christine Ruth, counseling practice, and future retreats – HERE

This Week’s Listener Question:

My partner has Early Onset Alzheimer’s and every day feels like another challenge, crisis, or fire to put out. This is going to be a long journey. How do I not lose myself in it and find just a little bit of peace in the process?

SOUL Group Questions:

To build connection with a friend or in your Soul Group, ask each other these questions.

1. When have you faced a chronic problem, crisis, or challenge that went on for a long time or is still going on?

2. In the midst of many challenges, what are some of your coping mechanisms? Which ones help you? Which ones hinder you?

3. How have you noticed other people dealing with challenges or crisis’ differently than you? What helps you communicate with each other without judgment?

4. When you’re walking through a hard season in life, what are some platitudes that really make you angry when someone says them to you?

5. In what ways have you found peace in life’s biggest storms? Who or what do you cling to for anchoring support? By sharing your insights, you might be encouraging someone else to try new ways of anchoring their soul in the storms of life.

Resources:

Have a question for us? Send it to questions@soulenchilada.com

To sign up for one-on-one grief and/or faith support with Laura, visit griefandhope.org

To ask Laura to speak at your event – laurabusse.com

Learn more about Laura’s ministry The 3 O’Clock Wake Up Call – HERE

Learn more about Christine Ruth, counseling practice, and future retreats – HERE

This Week’s Listener Question:

I’ve been invited to a silent retreat. I’d like to attend but honestly every time I try to meditate or sit in silent prayer, my mind races and I feel restless and distracted. What’s the point of sitting still?

SOUL Group Questions:

To build connection with a friend or in your Soul Group, ask each other these questions.

1. How would you describe your comfort level with solitude and silence?

2. What comes up for you when you practice silence, meditation, or prayer?

3. What helps you drop into a quieter, slower mode? What benefits do you receive when you do?

4. Have you ever observed a “Sabbath”? What went well? What was hard? What did you learn about yourself or your faith?

5. Bonus – What’s the difference between solitude and loneliness?

Resources:

To sign up for one-on-one grief and/or faith support with Laura, visit griefandhope.org

To ask Laura to speak at your event – laurabusse.com

Have a question for us? Send it to questions@soulenchilada.com

Learn more about Laura’s ministry The 3 O’Clock Wake Up Call – HERE

Learn more about Christine Ruth, counseling practice, and future retreats – HERE

This week we interview Claire Allen, a survivor of the 2021 Marshall Fires in Colorado in hopes of supporting friends now enduring massive fires in Los Angeles. This podcast is for anyone who is walking through trauma, loss, and grief or lovingly supporting someone who is.

SOUL Group Questions:

To build connection with a friend or in your Soul Group, ask each other these questions.

1. When have you experienced a “fire storm” in your life?

2. In the early days of trauma or tragedy, how would you have described your body sensations, thinking, feelings, or responses? Did you speed up or slow down?

3. What have been your anchors during hard times? How have they helped or grounded you to stay standing in faith, health, or relationships during big storms?

4. Claire shared her unique reactions to trauma, loss, and grief after losing her home in the Marshall Fires. What are some helpful take aways or tools to support others or yourself in the most challenging seasons of life?

Resources:

Have a question for us? Send it to questions@soulenchilada.com

To sign up for one-on-one grief and/or faith support with Laura, visit griefandhope.org

To ask Laura to speak at your event – laurabusse.com

Learn more about Laura’s ministry The 3 O’Clock Wake Up Call – HERE

Learn more about Christine Ruth, counseling practice, and future retreats – HERE

This Week’s Listener Question:

I keep hearing that the new year is a perfect time to let go of the old in order to take hold of the new, but what does that really mean and how can I do it?

Would you like to be with Laura and Christine as they record their 100th Soul Enchilada episode? If so, email Laura at laura@3oclockwakeup.com to reserve your seat. The recording will be done the week of January 20, 2025. We hope you’ll be a part of this fun event!

SOUL Group Questions:

To build connection with a friend or in your Soul Group, ask each other these questions.

1. What do you need to let go of because it is no longer serving you or holding you back?

2. When you think about letting go, what emotions arise in you?

3. What rituals or actions could help you release what you need to let go of? How might this create more space for new things?

4. How can you organize your day / time to step into new things?

5. What are your 2025 intentions or highest priorities? How will you live these out?

Resources:

Laura is teaching a virtual women’s retreat on Saturday, January 11th 9:00 – 11:00 a.m. (MT). To learn more visit – 1/11/25 Women's Retreat

To sign up for one-on-one grief and/or faith support with Laura, visit griefandhope.org

To ask Laura to speak at your event – laurabusse.com

Have a question for us? Send it to questions@soulenchilada.com

Learn more about Laura’s ministry The 3 O’Clock Wake Up Call – HERE

Learn more about Christine Ruth, counseling practice, and future retreats – HERE

This Week’s Listener Question:

Even though I tried to make the holidays peaceful and wonderful for my family, everything seemed to blow up in my face. How is it that you can do everything “right” as a parent and your kids are still going through major mental health issues?

Would you like to be with Laura and Christine as they record their 100th Soul Enchilada episode? If so, email Laura at laura@3oclockwakeup.com to reserve your seat. The recording will be done the week of January 20, 2025. We hope you’ll be a part of this fun event!

SOUL Group Questions:

To build connection with a friend or in your Soul Group, ask each other these questions.

1. What mental health issues are talked about in your family? Which ones are kept secret?

2. Why do you think some emotions or experiences are easier to talk about then others, even though they’re universal?

3. How has a painful experience led you towards a career path, opened a door, or invited you into a new opportunity? Share your story.

4. How can you show up, be present, listen without judgment, and lean in with love to someone who is struggling with a mental health issue?

Resources:

To sign up for one-on-one grief and/or faith support with Laura, visit griefandhope.org

To ask Laura to speak at your event – laurabusse.com

Have a question for us? Send it to questions@soulenchilada.com