Dr. Rob Weiss and Tami answer participant questions about the importance of combining sex and drug addictions in treatment and recovery, the danger of staying stuck in the rage phase, and who you have control over in healing and recovery (it’s you and only you!).

TAKEAWAYS:

[:55] Does ‘vanilla’ porn really affect our relationship? I don’t believe it’s hurting my partner.

[5:53] What are the major differences between sex addiction treatment/recovery and drug addiction treatment/recovery?

[12:25] The importance of tackling both sex and drugs in addiction treatment and recovery.

[15:40] I’m stuck in the rage phase - how can I decide to heal or leave?

[23:05] You cannot drag someone else into healing, but you can heal YOU.

[27:18] My partner is so ill that I can’t help him anymore. What do I do now?

[35:24] Why do so many CSATs coddle their patients?

[41:11] My partner recently uncovered childhood sexual trauma. What should come first - couples therapy or CSAT work?

[46:48] Can my partner pray his way out of addiction?

[49:35] Write this down - there is nothing I have ever done or am currently doing or will ever do to make my partner act out.

RESOURCES:

Seekingintegrity.com

Email Tami: Tami@Seekingintegrity.com

Sexandrelationshiphealing.com

Intherooms.com

Out of the Doghouse: A Step-by-Step Relationship-Saving Guide for Men Caught Cheating, by Robert Weiss

Prodependence: Moving Beyond Codependency, by Robert Weiss

Sex Addiction 101: A Basic Guide to Healing from Sex, Porn, and Love Addiction, by Robert Weiss

Cruise Control: Understanding Sex Addiction in Gay Men, by Robert Weiss

Seeking Integrity Podcasts are produced in partnership with Podfly Productions.

QUOTES

• “If you have a sex addiction, I don’t want you to stop having sex. I want you to do it in a way that’s healthy and honest.”

• “Addiction is not about the behavior, it’s about the function it serves.”

• “You have the opportunity to choose. You don’t have to stay stuck in this.”

• “Give yourself the gift of getting the help you need.”