You want to do the right thing but you’re so damn tired.

Do you say something? Keep the peace? Stay quiet even though your values are screaming?

In this episode, we break down how to navigate the messy tension between advocating for what matters and honoring your own limits.

You’ll learn:

• How to assess your priorities, capacity, and influence over the situation
• Using your body as a guide with “red light/green light” check-ins
• How to prioritize your energy without betraying your integrity
• Real questions to ask yourself when you’re stuck in indecision
• How to move from reactive to grounded when deciding whether to speak up

This episode is for the burnt-out advocate, the exhausted overfunctioner, and anyone navigating misaligned values in corporate spaces, friendships, or family. You’re not alone, and you don’t have to betray yourself to do what’s right.

OTHER HELPFUL EPISODES:

Staying in Your Seat - Episode 2

Dimensions of Wellness - Episode 4

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DISCLAIMER: The Self Centered with Katie and Allie Podcast is intended for entertainment, educational, and reflective purposes only. The views, opinions, experiences, and content shared by the hosts and guests are personal and subjective. They are not presented as objective facts or as representative of any professional body, organization, or field, including psychotherapy, coaching, or personal training.

This podcast includes personal reflections on dynamics in various relationships, platonic, family, romantic, and professional. General references to “family,” “an ex,” or “a friend”, for example, are intentionally vague to protect anonymity and do not refer to every individual in those categories. When names are used, they are fictitious, and identifying details are altered. Some information shared is based on research or professional experience, not personal history.

The information provided does not constitute medical, mental health, legal, or other professional advice, diagnosis, or treatment. It should not be relied upon as a substitute for consultation with qualified, licensed professionals. Listeners are strongly encouraged to seek the advice and support of appropriate professionals for their own needs.

The hosts, guests, and creators of the podcast disclaim all liability for any direct, indirect, incidental, or consequential loss or damages arising from the use of, reliance on, or interpretation of the podcast content or any linked materials. Use of this podcast and related content is at your own risk. By listening, you acknowledge and agree to these terms.

If you’ve ever struggled to say what you really mean, avoided conflict to keep the peace, or felt like your voice gets lost in relationships, this episode is for you. We’re diving into the four main communication styles: passive, aggressive, passive-aggressive, and assertive, and breaking down how each one shows up, why we default to them, and what it takes to move toward assertiveness. You’ll learn how emotional regulation and your core beliefs play a major role in how you communicate, and why assertiveness isn’t just the most effective style, it’s also the most self-honoring.

IN THIS EPISODE, YOU WILL LEARN:

• The four primary communication styles and how to identify your default
• Why assertiveness is the ideal communication style, and what makes it so hard to practice
• How emotional dysregulation can fuel passive, aggressive, and passive-aggressive tendencies
• Real-life examples of how communication patterns form in relationships, workplaces, and families
• The core beliefs that keep us stuck in unhelpful communication habits (like “I don’t matter”)
• Actionable steps to move from passivity to clarity and self-advocacy in your daily life

RESOURCES:

• The Ego Series: Episodes 27-30
• The Centered Framework: Episode 30
• How To Set and Keep Boundaries: Episode 6

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DISCLAIMER: The Self Centered with Katie and Allie Podcast is intended for entertainment, educational, and reflective purposes only. The views, opinions, experiences, and content shared by the hosts and guests are personal and subjective. They are not presented as objective facts or as representative of any professional body, organization, or field, including psychotherapy, coaching, or personal training.

The information provided on this podcast does not constitute medical, mental health, legal, or other professional advice, diagnosis, or treatment. It should not be relied upon as a substitute for consultation with qualified, licensed professionals.

Listeners are strongly encouraged to seek the advice and support of licensed healthcare providers, mental health practitioners, coaches, or other appropriate professionals regarding their individual circumstances.

The hosts, guests, and creators of the podcast disclaim all liability for any direct, indirect, incidental, or consequential loss or damages arising from the use of, reliance on, or interpretation of the podcast content or any linked materials. Use of this podcast and any related content is at your own risk.

By listening to this podcast, you acknowledge and agree to these terms.

You finally left the toxic job, the dysfunctional family, or the one-sided relationship, but now you’re exhausted, emotional, and weirdly resistant to rest?

You’re not broken. You’re just coming back to life.

In this honest episode, we talk about:

• What survival mode really looks like (and why it lingers)
• How trauma rewires your baseline and expectations, without you even realizing it
• Why your nervous system resists rest and joy
• Why healing often feels harder right before it gets better
• How to honor your healing while gently reorienting to joy, rest, and alignment

Perfect for anyone recovering from toxic relationships, chronic burnout, over-functioning, or high-stress work environments, this one is for the Selfies who are ready to get their sparkle back.

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DISCLAIMER: The Self Centered with Katie and Allie Podcast is intended for entertainment, educational, and reflective purposes only. The views, opinions, experiences, and content shared by the hosts and guests are personal and subjective. They are not presented as objective facts or as representative of any professional body, organization, or field, including psychotherapy, coaching, or personal training.

The information provided on this podcast does not constitute medical, mental health, legal, or other professional advice, diagnosis, or treatment. It should not be relied upon as a substitute for consultation with qualified, licensed professionals.

Listeners are strongly encouraged to seek the advice and support of licensed healthcare providers, mental health practitioners, coaches, or other appropriate professionals regarding their individual circumstances.

The hosts, guests, and creators of the podcast disclaim all liability for any direct, indirect, incidental, or consequential loss or damages arising from the use of, reliance on, or interpretation of the podcast content or any linked materials. Use of this podcast and any related content is at your own risk.

By listening to this podcast, you acknowledge and agree to these terms.