Links talked about in this episode: Mary's YouTube Channel
Mary's Website
Mary's book on Amazon

Summary:

In this conversation, Mary Knight discusses the profound impact of her book and personal experiences on her life and the lives of others. She emphasizes the importance of sharing survivor stories, the healing power of commonality, and the significance of memory recovery. Mary also shares insights into her film projects, the Recovered Memory Project, and various healing modalities she has explored. The discussion highlights the journey of recovery, the importance of support systems, and the possibility of achieving happiness after trauma.

Takeaways:

Mary's book has changed her life by allowing her to share her story.
Survivors often seek commonality to validate their experiences.
Talking to survivors who have read her book focuses on healing.
Trigger warnings in her book help readers prepare for sensitive content.
The Recovered Memory Project aims to document true recovery stories.
Mary emphasizes the importance of psychotherapy in healing.
Walking and yoga are key components of her healing routine.
She feels fortunate to have a happy life now after trauma.
Mary's films aim to empower and educate about abuse and recovery.
It's crucial for survivors to communicate with their partners about their experiences.

Chapters
00:00 The Impact of Sharing Personal Stories
02:14 Commonality and Healing in Survivor Stories
05:44 Empowerment Through Memory Recovery
08:17 The Recovered Memory Project
13:14 Healing Modalities and Personal Growth
16:29 Reflections on Regrets and Pride
17:48 Film Projects and Their Messages
24:03 Promoting Awareness and Support
26:12 Advice for Survivors on Recovery
34:29 The Possibility of Recovery and Happiness

#survivor stories, #healing, #empowerment, #memory recovery, #personal growth, #child abuse, #mental health, #psychotherapy, #support, #resilience

Links discussed in this episode: https://teamdau.my.canva.site/communication-and-connection-workshop

Summary:

In this episode, Vicki and Tom discuss the critical role of communication in marriage, sharing a personal story that highlights how misunderstandings can arise from internal narratives. They emphasize the importance of being aware of one's own feelings and perceptions, and how these can affect interactions with a partner. The conversation also introduces their upcoming workshops aimed at enhancing communication skills among couples, providing tools for conflict resolution and deeper intimacy.

Takeaways:
Communication is vital in any marriage, regardless of duration.
Awareness of personal feelings can improve relationship dynamics.
Misunderstandings often stem from internal narratives.
It's essential to clarify intentions in communication.
Taking responsibility for one's actions can prevent blame.
Our Workshop can provide valuable tools for couples.
Investing time in relationship education is crucial.
Conflict resolution skills can enhance intimacy.
Technology can complicate communication but also offers solutions.
Open dialogue can prevent prolonged misunderstandings.

Chapters:
00:00 The Importance of Communication in Marriage
08:06 Misunderstandings and Internal Narratives
11:34 Workshops for Better Communication

Keywords: communication, marriage, relationships, misunderstandings, workshops, conflict resolution, intimacy, connection, emotional awareness, couple dynamics

Links talked about in episode:

RAINN.ORG
Damage and Possibilities Guide
Work with Tom and/or Vicki
Survival Guide for Husbands
Guide for Wives

Summary

This conversation focuses on how to support survivors of trauma, particularly in the immediate aftermath of an incident. It emphasizes the uniqueness of each survivor's experience, the importance of addressing trauma, and the various coping strategies that can aid in recovery. The discussion also covers the impact of repressed memories and the necessity of seeking professional help, while encouraging survivors to prioritize their well-being and emotional health.

Takeaways:

Every circumstance is unique and different.
There is no timetable for recovery.
Abuse is abuse and it's equal.
It's better to do more than less if you can.
Stay grounded in the truth.
Buried things cause physical ailments.
The fear of addressing it is greater than actually addressing it.
Be intentional about your sleep patterns.
The stories that we create are where the problems lie.
You need to be good in you so that you can be good going out.

Chapters

00:00 Understanding Support for Survivors
09:49 Navigating Immediate Aftermath of Trauma
19:55 Processing Unaddressed Trauma
29:48 Repressed Memories and Their Impact
36:01 Tools for Healing and Moving Forward

Keywords: supporting survivors, trauma recovery, mental health, healing, emotional support, PTSD, coping strategies, trauma-informed care, survivor stories, repressed memories

Links talked about in the podcast:
BrinnLangdale.com

Summary

In this episode of the Reframing Life and Love podcast, hosts Tom and Vicki interview Brinn Langdale, a licensed psychotherapist and holistic coach. Brinn shares her personal journey of healing from trauma, including childhood abuse and the struggles she faced with mental health. The conversation explores the importance of self-work, understanding attachment styles, and the concept of parts work, which involves befriending the inner critic, soothing the inner child, and strengthening the adult self. Brinn emphasizes that healing is a lifelong journey, but it is possible and worth the effort. The episode concludes with encouragement for listeners to embrace their healing journeys and the importance of supportive relationships.

Takeaways

Healing is possible and living the life you want is within reach.
Self-work is essential for personal growth and healthy relationships.
Understanding attachment styles can improve relationship dynamics.
Parts work involves befriending the inner critic and soothing the inner child.
The adult self plays a crucial role in managing inner conflicts.
Victimhood is a phase, but it’s important to move forward.
Healing is a lifelong journey, not a destination.
Supportive relationships can motivate healing and growth.
Communication is key in relationships, especially during healing.
Life will always present challenges, but healing helps you handle them better.

Chapters

00:00 Biography of Brynn Langdale
02:21 Introduction to Brynn Langdale
09:57 Turning Points: Leadership Program and Self-Discovery
17:56 Understanding Attachment Styles
26:24 The Role of the Adult Self in Healing
31:33 Understanding Victimhood and Moving Forward
37:14 Shifting Perspectives in Relationships
43:08 Tools for the Healing Journey
47:10 Introduction to Reframing Life and Love
47:14 Actionable Insights for Enhancing Relationships

Keywords

healing, trauma, relationships, inner child, mental health, psychotherapy, self-work, attachment styles, personal growth, emotional wellness

Links talked about in this episode: https://teamdau.com
Get the list of information and choices Vicki and Tom have made.

Summary: Vicki and Tom have chosen lots of alternative ways of healing on Vicki's journey and thought you might be interested in hearing what they have personally done over the course of their marriage. In this conversation, Tom and Vicki express their frustrations with conventional medicine, particularly with doctors who focus solely on prescribing drugs without considering holistic approaches. They advocate for chiropractors, naturopaths, and functional medicine doctors who take a more comprehensive view of health, emphasizing the importance of diet, energy levels, and overall well-being.

Takeaways:

• Frustration with conventional medicine is not uncommon.
• Not all doctors take a holistic approach.
• Chiropractors and naturopaths are preferred by some.
• Holistic practitioners consider diet and lifestyle.
• Support for the body to heal itself is crucial.
• Energy levels are an important health indicator.
• A comprehensive view of health is essential.
• Personal health journeys are unique and ongoing.

Chapters:

00:00 Swimming Upstream: A Holistic Approach to Wellness
07:32 Navigating Vaccines: Personal Experiences and Choices
15:08 The Role of Doctors: A Critical Perspective
21:47 Finding the Right Products: Research and Recommendations
26:51 Empowerment Through Knowledge: Making Informed Choices
29:20 Introduction to Reframing Life and Love
29:24 Actionable Insights for Enhancing Relationships

Keywords: health, holistic medicine, frustration with doctors, functional medicine, naturopathy, chiropractic care

Links talked about in this episode
Teamdau.com

Summary
In this conversation, Tom and Vicki share a humorous anecdote about a dinner plan discussion, highlighting the differences in communication styles and expectations in relationships. The exchange illustrates how humor can diffuse tension and the importance of understanding each other's perspectives.

Takeaways

Communication styles can vary significantly between individuals. Humor can be an effective tool in resolving misunderstandings. Setting expectations in conversations can prevent frustration. It's important to be aware of how our words may be interpreted by others. Responding with humor can lighten the mood in tense situations. Understanding the context of a question can change our response. Being direct can sometimes lead to unexpected reactions. Relationships thrive on clear communication and mutual understanding. Exaggeration can be a playful way to express feelings. Every conversation is an opportunity to learn about each other.

Chapters
00:00 Introduction to Conflict Resolution
12:50 Understanding Intentions and Communication
19:19 Introduction to Reframing Life and Love
19:23 Actionable Insights for Enhancing Relationships

Keywords

dinner plans, communication styles, relationship dynamics, humor in conversation

Links talked about in episode:

Teamdau.com

Summary

In this conversation, Vicki Dau discusses the importance of self-love and acceptance, encouraging individuals to embrace their feelings and recognize their worth. She emphasizes that it is normal to feel guilty or uncomfortable when prioritizing oneself, but highlights the relief and positivity that can come from allowing oneself to feel and express love. She and Tom provide lots of possibilities to get your conversations going to create a holiday filled with peace.

Takeaways

It's okay to love yourself and give yourself grace.
You might feel guilty when prioritizing your feelings.
Look for the good in your feelings.
Embracing self-love can feel different at first.
Recognizing your feelings is a step towards acceptance.
Self-love is essential for emotional well-being.
It's important to allow yourself to feel relieved.
Your feelings matter, and it's okay to express them.
Personal growth often involves uncomfortable feelings.
Self-acceptance leads to a more fulfilling life.

Chapters

00:00 Navigating Holiday Challenges for Survivors
06:20 Confronting Secrets and Family Dynamics
15:05 Creating New Holiday Traditions
18:49 Introduction to Reframing Life and Love
18:53 Actionable Insights for Enhancing Relationships

Keywords

self-love, acceptance, emotional well-being, personal growth, mental health

Links talked about in this episode

EXPLAINING DARVO

Survival Guide for Husbands

Helping Your Husband Help You Guide for Wives

Summary

In this conversation, Vicki Dau shares a deeply personal experience of emotional vulnerability, highlighting the challenges of expressing feelings and the impact of silence from those around her. The discussion emphasizes the importance of communication and empathy in supporting individuals during difficult times.

Takeaways

Emotional vulnerability can be overwhelming and isolating.
The lack of communication can exacerbate feelings of loneliness.
Support from others is crucial during emotional distress.
Empathy and understanding can make a significant difference.
It's important to ask others how they are feeling.
Silence can be interpreted in many ways, often negatively.
Acknowledging someone's pain is the first step to support.
People may not know how to respond to visible distress.
Creating a safe space for emotions is essential.
Open dialogue about feelings can foster deeper connections.

Chapters

00:00 Introduction to Repressed Memories
08:27 Navigating Family Dynamics and Secrets
14:56 Confronting the Past
21:12 The Aftermath of Speaking Out
27:03 The Healing Process
34:21 Making Choices for a Better Future
43:24 Introduction to Reframing Life and Love
43:28 Actionable Insights for Enhancing Relationships

Keywords

emotions, vulnerability, communication, mental health, support, empathy