• Ep 285 - Navigating Conflict Styles in Relationships
    2025/07/15

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    In this episode of the Mr. and Mrs. Therapy podcast, hosts Brian and Ruth discuss conflict styles in relationships and how they can either drive couples apart or bring them closer together. They explore the Thomas-Kilmann Conflict Mode Instrument, which identifies five primary conflict styles: avoiding, accommodating, competing, compromising, and collaborating. Each style is examined in detail, including its root causes, physiological responses, strengths, and pitfalls. The hosts emphasize the importance of understanding one's own conflict style and that of their partner to improve communication and resolve conflicts effectively. Practical tools and strategies are shared to help listeners shift towards healthier conflict resolution patterns, ultimately fostering deeper connections in their relationships. 00:00 Introduction to Conflict Styles 00:26 Understanding the Thomas Kilman Conflict Mode Instrument 02:53 Avoiding Conflict: Pros and Cons 07:04 Accommodating Conflict: Balancing Cooperation and Assertiveness 09:56 Competing Conflict: The Win-Lose Approach 13:09 Compromising Conflict: Finding Middle Ground 16:10 Collaborating Conflict: Achieving Win-Win Solutions 19:23 Identifying Your Conflict Style 20:29 Conclusion and Final Thoughts

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    21 分
  • Ep 284 - Harnessing the Power of the Pygmalion Effect: Elevate Expectations, Elevate Performance
    2025/07/11

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    In this episode of the Mr. And Mrs. Therapy podcast, the hosts explore the Pygmalion Effect—an intriguing phenomenon where higher expectations can enhance performance and growth. They discuss its origins, mechanics, and applicability in various contexts such as education, parenting, marriage, and self-improvement. Personal anecdotes and actionable strategies are shared to help listeners leverage this principle effectively in their own lives. Key emphasis is placed on balancing high expectations with grace and realistic perspectives to foster positive outcomes and self-fulfilling prophecies. 00:00 Introduction to the Pygmalion Effect 00:32 Origins and Mechanics of the Pygmalion Effect 01:25 Personal Story: Rising to Expectations 02:34 Parental Perspectives on Expectations 05:30 Balancing High Expectations with Grace 06:07 Applications in Daily Life 18:11 Strategies to Leverage the Pygmalion Effect 21:45 Conclusion and Final Thoughts

    [Remember, our podcast is here to spark conversations and offer insights. Join our community on our Mr. and Mrs. Therapy Podcast Group, share your experiences at podcast@mrandmrstherapy.com, and if you're seeking more personalized advice, consider booking your free coaching consultation. Please note, this podcast is for informational purposes only and is not intended to provide diagnosis or treatment.]

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    22 分
  • Ep 283 - Navigating Negativity: Why Bad Feels Bigger
    2025/07/09

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    In this episode of the Mr. And Mrs Therapy podcast, the hosts explore the concept of negativity bias, which is the tendency to focus more on negative experiences than positive ones. They discuss the evolutionary roots of this bias, its impact on our emotional well-being, and how it manifests in self-talk, relationships, and stress. The hosts then provide five practical tools to help shift towards a more balanced perspective: maintaining a three-to-one positivity ratio, implementing a bad day buffer ritual, practicing gratitude, asking reframing questions, and creating a positive data bank. These strategies aim to retrain the brain and improve overall mental health. 00:00 Introduction to Negativity Bias 01:02 The Science Behind Negativity Bias 02:22 Negativity Bias in Daily Life 04:53 Impact on Relationships 11:49 Tools to Combat Negativity Bias 17:12 Conclusion and Final Thoughts

    [Remember, our podcast is here to spark conversations and offer insights. Join our community on our Mr. and Mrs. Therapy Podcast Group, share your experiences at podcast@mrandmrstherapy.com, and if you're seeking more personalized advice, consider booking your free coaching consultation. Please note, this podcast is for informational purposes only and is not intended to provide diagnosis or treatment.]

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    19 分
  • Ep 282 - Transforming Parenting: The Power of Empathy, Expectations, and Empowerment
    2025/07/03

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    In this episode of Mr. Services Therapy podcast, listeners are introduced to a simple yet effective parenting tool called the 'Three E's': empathize, expect, and empower. The hosts discuss how to transform daily power struggles with children into moments of connection by using empathy, setting clear expectations, and empowering children with choices. They provide detailed examples of how to implement each step in various scenarios, such as daily routines and homework time. Emphasizing empathy helps children feel seen, clear expectations eliminate confusion, and providing choices fosters autonomy and cooperation.

    [Remember, our podcast is here to spark conversations and offer insights. Join our community on our Mr. and Mrs. Therapy Podcast Group, share your experiences at podcast@mrandmrstherapy.com, and if you're seeking more personalized advice, consider booking your free coaching consultation. Please note, this podcast is for informational purposes only and is not intended to provide diagnosis or treatment.]

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    13 分
  • Ep 281 - Raising Kids Who Obey with Joy
    2025/07/01

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    In this episode, the we delve into the crucial topic of raising children who obey with a joyful heart, rather than begrudging compliance. They discuss the importance of attitude in fostering respect, self-control, and empathy in children. By addressing behaviors consistently and early, parents can minimize resentment and conflict, creating a harmonious home environment. The episode highlights the mantra 'right away, all the way, with a joyful heart,' and offers practical advice on encouraging compliance without arguments, completing tasks fully, and responding positively. The discussion also emphasizes the role of parents in modeling calm behavior and the significance of emotional contagion.

    [Remember, our podcast is here to spark conversations and offer insights. Join our community on our Mr. and Mrs. Therapy Podcast Group, share your experiences at podcast@mrandmrstherapy.com, and if you're seeking more personalized advice, consider booking your free coaching consultation. Please note, this podcast is for informational purposes only and is not intended to provide diagnosis or treatment.]

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    19 分
  • Ep 180 - Navigating Emotional Flooding: Regain Control and Heal
    2025/06/26

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    Welcome to another insightful episode of Mr. and Mrs. Therapy. Today, Tim and Ruth Olson, experienced marriage and family therapists specializing in trauma, explore the concept of emotional flooding - a state of overwhelming emotion where the logical brain takes a backseat. This episode is designed to help listeners recognize, understand, and manage the intense emotional responses often referred to as the 'amygdala hijack.'

    The Olsons dive deep into the science behind emotional flooding, explaining how past trauma can trigger the body's survival mode, characterized by the fight-flight-freeze-or-fawn response. They discuss how the brain, despite knowing situations logically, often misinterprets non-threatening scenarios as danger due to past experiences.

    Listeners will learn practical strategies for calming the nervous system, such as grounding techniques, deep breathing, and using the 5-4-3-2-1 method to bring oneself back to the present. The Olsons also cover the importance of stepping away and managing emotional states before attempting to resolve conflicts.

    If you’ve ever felt overwhelmed by your own emotions or noticed how they impact your relationships, this episode is filled with valuable insights on transforming emotional flooding into an opportunity for growth and understanding. Join the journey to heal from the past, foster better communication, and develop deeper, more fulfilling relationships.

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    13 分
  • Ep 179 - Unveiling the Myths of Divorce: What You Really Need to Heal
    2025/06/24

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    In this eye-opening episode of Mr. and Mrs. Therapy, licensed marriage and family therapists Tim and Ruth Olson delve into the often misunderstood topic of divorce. With years of experience in trauma and mental health, the Olsons provide a compassionate and insightful perspective on why divorce might not be the solution many believe it to be.

    The episode begins with an important caveat: while the discussion centers on the complexities of divorce, it acknowledges that in cases of abuse or unsafe relationships, separation is crucial. However, for many experiencing conflict, disconnection, or betrayal, divorce may offer a false sense of resolution.

    Listeners will gain insights into the unspoken challenges that come with divorce, such as emotional hangovers, continued conflicts, especially in co-parenting, and how unresolved personal wounds can carry into future relationships. The Olsons bring to light the hidden costs of divorce, touching upon its financial and emotional toll, and how societal and familial pressures can impact both individuals and children.

    Throughout the episode, Tim and Ruth stress the importance of personal growth and healing from past traumas as a means to improve current and future relationships. They discuss practical strategies like individual and couples therapy, learning to articulate personal needs, rebuilding trust, and the role of spirituality in enhancing relational bonds.

    The episode wraps up with a message of hope, encouraging listeners to seek clarity and understanding before making life-altering decisions. Whether you are currently in a challenging marriage, contemplating divorce, or healing post-divorce, this episode offers valuable insights and practical advice to foster healthier relationships and personal well-being.

    [Remember, our podcast is here to spark conversations and offer insights. Join our community on our Mr. and Mrs. Therapy Podcast Group, share your experiences at podcast@mrandmrstherapy.com, and if you're seeking more personalized advice, consider booking your free coaching consultation. Please note, this podcast is for informational purposes only and is not intended to provide diagnosis or treatment.]

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    15 分
  • Ep 287 - The Myth of Mind Reading: Unlocking Healthy Communication
    2025/06/19

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    In this episode of Mr. and Mrs. Therapy, hosts Tim and Ruth Olson, both licensed marriage and family therapists, delve into the pervasive relationship challenge of expectation without communication. Many partners, families, and friends expect their loved ones to understand what they need without expressing it, leading to frustration and resentment. This episode focuses on debunking the myth of mind reading and explores practical strategies for openly expressing one's needs in relationships.

    Tim and Ruth discuss how expecting someone to intuitively know your needs can harm relationships, perpetuate misunderstandings, and breed emotional distance. They emphasize the importance of healthy communication, kindness, and clarity when expressing needs. Listeners will gain insight into the significance of speaking up and the potential consequences of staying silent.

    Through real-life examples and expert advice, the episode provides essential tools to help listeners identify their needs, use "I" statements, and choose the right timing for conversations. By offering sentence starters and highlighting the importance of staying open to dialogue, the Olsons aim to guide individuals towards creating meaningful connections with their loved ones. Listen as they unpack practical tips on how partnering and teamwork can aid in building enduring love and fulfilling relationships.

    [Remember, our podcast is here to spark conversations and offer insights. Join our community on our Mr. and Mrs. Therapy Podcast Group, share your experiences at podcast@mrandmrstherapy.com, and if you're seeking more personalized advice, consider booking your free coaching consultation. Please note, this podcast is for informational purposes only and is not intended to provide diagnosis or treatment.]

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    14 分