Hey, badass babes! In this episode, I’m getting raw and real about self-sabotage—that sneaky voice that stops me (and probably you) from shining. Inspired by The Mountain Is You by Brianna Wiest, I share my journey with self-sabotage, from struggling with body image as a kid to wrestling with fear of success. I’m unpacking why we sabotage ourselves, how to spot the triggers, and practical steps to break free and own our worth. Grab your journal, your coffee, or just vibe with me on your walk—this one’s for all of us climbing our mountains!

Key Points

• What Is Self-Sabotage? It’s when I’m my own worst enemy—procrastinating on dreams, ghosting healthy relationships, or telling myself I’m “not ready.” It’s a coping mechanism to stay in my comfort zone, but it’s keeping me small.
• My Story: Growing up, I wasn’t the “skinny girl.” Finding jeans that fit my thick thighs and curves was a nightmare, and I felt ashamed sitting on that Zellers bench, believing I was “big boned” and unworthy. When I started getting healthier, attention from others freaked me out. My low self-worth triggered binge eating, pulling me back to my “safe” overweight self—because that’s where I felt comfortable.
• Triggers to Watch For:
  • Fear of failure or success: I avoid risks because I’m scared of bombing or what success might demand.
  • Low self-worth: If I don’t believe I deserve good things, I prove it by sabotaging myself.
  • Old stories: Beliefs like “I’m not enough” or “rich people are greedy” keep me stuck. (Spoiler: I’ve learned rich people can be game-changers who help others!)
• Breaking Free:
  • Pause and Reflect: When I catch myself sabotaging, I take a deep breath and ask, “Is this choice aligning with the life I want?”
  • Reframe Fears: Fear is a sign I’m growing, not a stop sign. It’s proof I’m on the right path.
  • Take Tiny Actions: I don’t have to leap—just take one step, like sending an email or keeping a promise to myself. Small wins build big momentum.

Actionable Steps

1. Journal Prompt: I’m grabbing my journal to write down one self-sabotaging behavior I’ve noticed lately (like procrastinating or pushing people away). Next to it, I jot down the fear or belief driving it (like “I’m not enough”). Then I ask, “Is this story really true?” You do it too!
2. Weekly Challenge: This week, I’m picking one scary action—like reaching out to someone or starting a project—and doing it. Join me! Share your win on Instagram and tag me (@manifestbossbabe) or post it in my Unleash Your Inner Boss Babe Facebook group so we can cheer each other on.

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Resources Mentioned

• The Mountain Is You by Brianna Wiest – The book that shook me to my core and inspired this episode.

Call to Action
If this episode hit home, drop a review, share it with your bestie, and tag me (@manifestbossbabe) in your stories. Let’s spread the love and keep owning our worth together!

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• Tune in next week for another episode to help you live unapologetically.

Stay bold, stay badass, and let’s keep climbing our mountains together!

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Hey, Babes! Here’s What I’m Sharing in This Episode

I’m diving into how gratitude journaling totally flipped my world, rewiring my brain to spot the good stuff everywhere. I’m breaking down the reticular activating system (RAS)—yep, my brain’s Google search engine—and how it helps me find hearts in nature and manifest magic. I take you back to my skeptical 8th-grade self, rolling my eyes at my intern Miss Orthner’s gratitude obsession, and share a wild story about scoring free hockey game tickets just by vibing high. Plus, I’m giving you my go-to journaling prompts and a 7-day heart-finding challenge to unleash your own magic!

What I Learned (Key Takeaways)

• Gratitude Changes Everything: Writing down what I’m thankful for trains my brain to seek more positivity, boosts my happiness by over 10%, and chills out my stress—science says so!
• My RAS is a Game-Changer: My reticular activating system filters 11 million bits of info per second to focus on what I care about—like spotting red cars when I’m car shopping or pregnant women when I was expecting.
• Vibe High, Attract Magic: When I’m rocking a positive mindset with gratitude, I become a magnet for amazing people and opportunities. Vibing low? I just get more of the same old crap.
• Stay Present, Drop the Judgment: Gratitude keeps me in the moment and helps me see the good in everyone, breaking those negative cycles for good.

My Favorite Gratitude Journaling Prompts
Ready to start journaling? Grab a notebook and spend 5-10 minutes daily with these prompts to fire up your RAS:

Prompt 1: “Write down three things you’re grateful for today, no matter how small—like a warm cup of tea or a smile from a neighbor. Why do these moments matter to you?”

Prompt 2: “Reflect on a challenge you faced recently. What’s one thing you can be grateful for in that situation, like a lesson learned or support you received?”

Prompt 3: “Think of someone who made a difference in your life. Write a short letter thanking them, even if you don’t send it. How does it feel to focus on their impact?”

Prompt 4: “List three things in nature that brought you joy this week (e.g., a sunset, a bird’s song). How can you notice more of these moments?”

Prompt 5: “Imagine your ideal day. What are you grateful for in this vision? How can you take one step toward it today?”

My Tips for Making It Work:

• Write by hand—it’s like a direct line to my brain.
• Journal in the morning to set my vibe or at night to wind down.
• Get specific—details make my RAS lock onto the good stuff like a laser.

My 7-Day Heart-Finding Challenge
Let’s train your RAS to spot joy! For the next 7 days:

• Look for hearts in nature—clouds, leaves, rocks, even my breakfast toast.
• Snap a pic or write about one heart I find daily and how it makes me feel.
• Why it works: This fun game keeps me present and programs my brain to seek beauty everywhere.
• Share your hearts in my Unleash Your Inner Boss Babe Facebook group—let’s vibe together!

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Spread the Vibe
If this episode lit you up, share it with a friend who needs a gratitude glow-up! Tag me on social media with #GratitudeGlowUp

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Is your libido stuck on snooze? Ready to crank up the heat and strut like the sexy, confident queen you are? In this fiery episode, I’m spilling the tea on how to unlock your libido, own your worth, and live unapologetically. Buckle up, babes—this one’s gonna light you up!

What You’ll Learn:

• My Story: I get raw about how kids, stress, and low confidence dimmed my spark—and the daily habits (journaling, exercise, clean eating) that brought my sexy back.
• Why Libido Matters: It’s not just about sex—it’s your life force, your confidence, your unapologetic vibe. It’s the key to owning your worth!
• Libido Blocks: Stress, body image struggles, mental noise, and relationship ruts can kill your mojo. I break down why and how they happen.
• Science-Backed Boosts:
  • 2.5 hours of weekly exercise can spike testosterone by 15%, igniting your desire.
  • Workouts pump out endorphins, boosting mood and arousal by 50%.
  • HIIT skyrockets dopamine by 250%, flipping your “let’s get it on” switch.
  • Yoga or journaling slashes stress hormones by 20-30%, clearing the way for your inner fire.
• 5 Fierce Tips to Unlock Your Libido:
  • Dance or try sultry yoga to reconnect with your gorgeous body.
  • Journal three things that make you feel sexy as hell to own your worth.
  • Explore what lights you up—lingerie, spicy books, or bold chats.
  • Speak your desires loud and proud—your voice is pure power.
  • Burn those “good girl” rules and embrace your unapologetic desires.

Take Action - Don’t let your spark stay dim! Join my FREE Unleash Your Inner Boss Babe Facebook group for spicier tips, a badass community, and exclusive content to keep your fire blazing. Starting Monday, jump into my 7 Days to Unleash Your Inner Fire Challenge—daily, juicy tips to crank up your confidence and libido. Click here to join: https://www.facebook.com/share/g/1AqM2faPxY/

Get Hyped for Good Girl Unleashed! Ready to dive deeper into owning your body, confidence, and desires? My Good Girl Unleashed program is your roadmap to living like the fierce, unstoppable goddess you are. Join the Unleash Your Inner Boss Babe group for updates on the launch—you won’t want to miss this!

Connect with Me:

• Tag me on Instagram (@manifestbossbabe) with your favorite libido-boosting tip!
• DM me which stat got you hyped—let’s keep this fire burning!

Resources:

• Exercise boosts testosterone: Medical News Today, 2024
• Endorphins and arousal: U.S. News, 2008
• Dopamine and HIIT: Asystem, 2020
• Stress reduction via yoga: Asystem, 2020

You’re a fucking catch, babe—go unleash that inner fire!

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