本期《MEEEI: 心光集 · HeartLight》播客，我们继续与洪菲博士的深度对谈。
作为心理治疗师与大学职业规划导师，洪菲博士结合自身20年的心理学经验，分享了她如何从“急于改变他人”到“尊重自由意志”的转变旅程。

她诚挚地提醒我们，父母真正的爱，是懂得在孩子的人生旅程中——退一步。

✨ 如何支持孩子探索内在天赋而不是替他们规划道路？
✨ 为什么“先做擅长的，再找到热爱的”，比“从兴趣出发”更适合当下的教育？
✨ 怎样在AI迅猛发展的时代，培养孩子的独立、自信与创新力？

这一集不仅对父母有启发，对正在教育路上摸索的所有人，也是一份深深的安慰与鼓励。

💛 请关注「海外游子心理健康联盟 Mental Health Network」，成为联盟的会员，通过志愿者方式或捐款支持联盟的工作，详情请查看网页：https://mental-health.network/

💛 你可以通过【心灵热线 Free Soul Hotline】，获得免费的、匿名的心理支持服务：
Zoom-Link
Zoom Meeting: 886 1813 8556
Password: 112112
每周三 欧洲中部时间（CET）20:30–22:30
每周日 欧洲中部时间（CET）12:00–14:00
让我们一起支持这样一个有爱、有光的公益组织，也让更多需要帮助的人找到这份温暖的陪伴。

🔹 In this episode, Dr. Fei Hong shares her professional and personal journey:
From a young therapist wanting to “change lives” to a mature clinician who deeply honors each person’s free will.

She also offers heartfelt guidance for parents:
🌱 How to step back while still lovingly supporting our children?
🌱 Why starting from what a child is good at might lead more sustainably to what they love?
🌱 And how we can prepare our children to thrive in a world shaped by AI, change, and uncertainty?

This is a conversation full of compassion, reflection, and practical tools—for every parent, educator, or guide.

💛 Please follow the International Mental Health Network for Expatriates and consider becoming a member.
You can support their work by volunteering or making a donation.
For more details, visit: https://mental-health.network/

💛 You can receive free and anonymous mental health support through the Free Soul Hotline:
Zoom Link
Zoom Meeting ID: 886 1813 8556
Password: 112112
🕗 Every Wednesday (CET): 20:30–22:30
🕛 Every Sunday (CET): 12:00–14:00

点击链接注册 Soest 和 Hoofddorp 的家庭系统排列工作坊： https://hipsy.nl/shop/meeei

这一周，我在疲惫中坚持创作，也在写作与冥想中获得滋养。
我分享了自己的真实状态、与家人相处的温暖时刻，以及放下手机、走进自然的假期计划。
也预告了我年底回国的两个线下工作坊，以及我的第一本书的进展。

希望这一集的分享，能带给你陪伴与启发。
愿我们都在自己的节奏中，一步步活出梦想中的自己。

📍系统排列工作坊预告：
• 8月23日（周六）14:00–17:00，Soest 森林生态农场

• 9月7日（周日）14:00–17:00，Hoofddorp 社区中心

📅播出频率：

每周两集播客：周三、周六

如果你喜欢这集的内容，请：

• 到 Spotify / Apple Podcasts / YouTube 点赞、评分或留言

This week, I share a heartfelt reflection on navigating fatigue, finding joy in writing and meditation, and preparing for a phone-light family vacation.
I also offer a glimpse into my upcoming workshops in China this December and the progress on my first book.

May this episode gently inspire you to live your own dream life, step by step, with presence and self-compassion.

📍Upcoming Family Constellation Workshops:

• August 23 (Saturday), 14:00–17:00 | Forest Eco-Farm, Soest
• September 7 (Sunday), 14:00–17:00 | Community Center, Hoofddorp

📬 To register or inquire, please check the registration links in the show notes.

📅 New Episodes Every Week:

Two episodes per week: Wednesdays and Saturdays

在本集中，心理学家洪菲博士带我们一起理解——
为什么父母和孩子明明都很努力，却常常彼此受伤？

当父母进入人生的“下坡期”，身心俱疲、身份迷失；
而孩子正处在“上坡期”，混乱、挣扎、自我探索——
两代人处在不同的节奏、状态和能量场中，
就像两个电台，频道不对，信号再强也无法对上。

🌿 在这一集中你会听到：

• 人生每7年一个阶段：我们与孩子，其实走在不同的山路上
• 内在小孩未被看见，是家庭冲突的隐性根源
• 为什么“你在崩溃，他在迷茫”，会让关系陷入循环冲突？
• 如何用理解、疗愈与对话，重新调频，建立深层连接
• 对父母最温柔的提醒：你也只是第一次在做这个角色

这一集，是为所有在育儿路上感到困惑、无力、愧疚的父母而录的。
愿我们在不同的坡道上，依然能相遇、看见，并选择温柔地靠近。

📺 推荐观看 YouTube / 哔哩哔哩视频版，完整感受洪菲博士的能量与情感共鸣。

请关注「海外游子心理健康联盟 Mental Health Network」，成为联盟的会员，通过志愿者方式或捐款支持联盟的工作，详情请查看网页：https://mental-health.network/

💛 你可以通过【心灵热线 Free Soul Hotline】，获得免费的、匿名的心理支持服务：

Zoom-Link
Zoom Meeting: 886 1813 8556

Password: 112112

每周三 欧洲中部时间（CET）20:30–22:30
每周日 欧洲中部时间（CET）12:00–14:00

让我们一起支持这样一个有爱、有光的公益组织，也让更多需要帮助的人找到这份温暖的陪伴。

📍系统排列工作坊预告：
• 8月23日（周六）14:00–17:00，Soest 森林生态农场

• 9月7日（周日）14:00–17:00，Hoofddorp 社区中心

点击链接注册 Soest 和 Hoofddorp 的家庭系统排列工作坊： https://hipsy.nl/shop/meeei

📅播出频率：

每周两集播客：周三、周六

如果你喜欢这集的内容，请：

• 到 Spotify / Apple Podcasts / YouTube 点赞、评分或留言

Parents Going Downhill, Teens Going Uphill:
How to Navigate “Frequency Mismatches” in Families

In this episode, clinical psychologist Dr. Fei Hong offers a powerful explanation for one of the most common yet painful family dynamics:
when parents are emotionally and physically drained, and teens are lost in self-exploration, conflicts seem inevitable.

🌀 You’ll hear:

• How life moves in 7-year stages—and what that means for intergenerational tension
• What happens when your inner child’s pain echoes through your parenting
• Why families often clash not from lack of love, but from being “out of sync”
• How to repair connection across the gap—through presence, self-compassion, and emotional honesty
• A gentle reminder for parents: You’re learning, too. Be kind to yourself.

💛 This episode is a soft, healing space for parents who are tired, hurt, and trying their best.
🎥 Watch the full interview on YouTube or Bilibili for a deeper, embodied experience.

Please follow the International Mental Health Network for Expatriates and consider becoming a member.
You can support their work by volunteering or making a donation.
For more details, visit: https://mental-health.network/

💛 You can receive free and anonymous mental health support through the Free Soul Hotline:

Zoom Link
Zoom Meeting ID: 886 1813 8556
Password: 112112

🕗 Every Wednesday (CET): 20:30–22:30
🕛 Every Sunday (CET): 12:00–14:00

Let’s come together to support this heartfelt and light-filled nonprofit — and help more people find the warmth and companionship they may need.

📍Upcoming Family Constellation Workshops:

• August 23 (Saturday), 14:00–17:00 | Forest Eco-Farm, Soest
• September 7 (Sunday), 14:00–17:00 | Community Center, Hoofddorp

📬 To register or inquire, please check the registration links in the show notes.

📅 New Episodes Every Week:

Two episodes per week: Wednesdays and Saturdays

点击链接注册 Soest 和 Hoofddorp 的家庭系统排列工作坊： https://hipsy.nl/shop/meeei

这一集我想与你分享一段让我深深共鸣的灵性智慧——来自卡巴拉的教导，关于杂物、空间与光。

我们常常以为整理只是生活琐事，但卡巴拉告诉我们，物品承载能量，杂乱会阻碍生命的光流动。
当我们勇敢告别那些不再需要、不再喜爱的东西，我们其实是在为灵魂腾出空间，让喜悦、创造力、丰盛和爱重新流入。

在这一集你会听到：

• 卡巴拉如何看待「杂物」与能量的关系
• 如何通过「扩大内在的容器」，迎接生命的更多光
• 清理的四个灵性洞见，帮助你放下、祝福、腾空、再生

✨ 如果你也正在思考如何简化生活、腾出身心空间，欢迎你跟我一起，在这集播客中开启一个温柔而有力量的清理旅程。

📍系统排列工作坊预告：
• 8月23日（周六）14:00–17:00，Soest 森林生态农场

• 9月7日（周日）14:00–17:00，Hoofddorp 社区中心

📅播出频率：

每周两集播客：周三、周六

如果你喜欢这集的内容，请：

• 到 Spotify / Apple Podcasts / YouTube 点赞、评分或留言

In this episode, I share a piece of spiritual wisdom that deeply touched me:
Kabbalah’s perspective on clutter, space, and light.

Kabbalah teaches that everything in our physical space carries energy.
When our homes are filled with unused, unloved things, that stagnant energy can block the flow of divine Light—joy, clarity, creativity, and love.

In this episode, you'll hear:

• How clutter affects your energy and emotions
• The Kabbalistic idea of “expanding your vessel” to receive more Light
• Four soulful principles to help you let go, bless, and clear space

✨ If you’re yearning for more clarity, peace, and flow in your life—this episode offers both reflection and a gentle invitation to reset your space.

📍Upcoming Family Constellation Workshops:

• August 23 (Saturday), 14:00–17:00 | Forest Eco-Farm, Soest
• September 7 (Sunday), 14:00–17:00 | Community Center, Hoofddorp

📬 To register or inquire, please check the registration links in the show notes.

📅 New Episodes Every Week:

Two episodes per week: Wednesdays and Saturdays

点击链接注册 Soest 和 Hoofddorp 的家庭系统排列工作坊： https://hipsy.nl/shop/meeei

这周，我有意识地为自己留出了休息和滋养的时间，花时间陪伴我的丈夫和女儿，走进花园，做冥想，去锻炼，聆听让我内在充满力量的播客。这不仅让我恢复了精力，也让我更深刻地体会到：要想改变世界，我们必须从自己的家庭开始。

这一集中，我也提到了一个让我深受触动的播客分享：许多人对世界上的不公愤怒，但却忽略了自己在亲密关系和家庭关系中制造的冷漠与伤害。如果我们不能善待身边的人，那我们如何去改变更大的世界？

真正的改变，从一顿温柔的晚餐、一句真诚的道歉、一段静静的陪伴开始。

我想邀请你也停下来，问问自己：我是否点亮了内心那盏温暖的灯？那盏灯还亮着吗？如果它熄了，也没关系。你可以慢慢地点一根火柴，再次点亮那份爱、光亮与温柔。

📍系统排列工作坊预告：
• 8月23日（周六）14:00–17:00，Soest 森林生态农场

• 9月7日（周日）14:00–17:00，Hoofddorp 社区中心

📅播出频率：

每周两集播客：周三、周六

如果你喜欢这集的内容，请：

• 到 Spotify / Apple Podcasts / YouTube 点赞、评分或留言

如果你觉得这个播客让你有所收获，也欢迎你在 Patreon 上支持我的创作——每一杯咖啡的价格，都是对我持续创作的鼓励：

👉 https://www.patreon.com/c/yangmei/membership

This week, I consciously chose to rest. I spent time with my husband and daughter, walked in the garden, listened to soul-nourishing podcasts, and returned to myself. These moments of peace and intention reminded me:

💡 To change the world, we must first change how we live and love at home.

I also shared a story from a podcast I listened to: many people are angry about war and injustice in the world, yet in their own homes, they hold their partners hostage with emotional pain. Real change doesn’t start with shouting—it starts with one kind dinner, one sincere apology, one moment of quiet presence.

📍Upcoming Family Constellation Workshops:

• August 23 (Saturday), 14:00–17:00 | Forest Eco-Farm, Soest
• September 7 (Sunday), 14:00–17:00 | Community Center, Hoofddorp

📬 To register or inquire, please check the registration links in the show notes.

📅 New Episodes Every Week:

Two episodes per week: Wednesdays and Saturdays

在这一集特别的采访中，我邀请了旅居德国的临床心理学博士——洪菲老师，与我们深入探讨海外家庭的心理挑战、跨代关系的复杂性，以及我们如何在“家庭这片洪流”中学会理解、接纳与连接。

洪菲老师不仅是一位专业的心理治疗师，也是一位用心倾听与讲述生命故事的“故事人”。她曾在德国公立精神科医院服务多年，也在大学里教授正念与生涯发展课程，并与许云容老师共同发起了公益组织「海外游子心理健康联盟」，致力于为海外华人提供免费的心理支持。

本期内容亮点包括：

• 为什么我们在家庭中常常感到无力和纠结？
• 当代青少年的心理困境，特别是疫情后00后的隐性创伤
• 父母如何更新“育儿导航”，真正理解孩子的心灵地图
• 用故事疗愈、打开心灵之门，建立深度的连接

💛 你可以通过【心灵热线 Free Soul Hotline】，获得免费的、匿名的心理支持服务：

Zoom-Link
Zoom Meeting: 886 1813 8556

Password: 112112

每周三 欧洲中部时间（CET）20:30–22:30
每周日 欧洲中部时间（CET）12:00–14:00

请关注「海外游子心理健康联盟 Mental Health Network」，成为联盟的会员，通过志愿者方式或捐款支持联盟的工作，详情请查看网页：https://mental-health.network/

让我们一起支持这样一个有爱、有光的公益组织，也让更多需要帮助的人找到这份温暖的陪伴。

📍系统排列工作坊预告：
• 8月23日（周六）14:00–17:00，Soest 森林生态农场

• 9月7日（周日）14:00–17:00，Hoofddorp 社区中心

点击链接注册 Soest 和 Hoofddorp 的家庭系统排列工作坊： https://hipsy.nl/shop/meeei

📅播出频率：

每周两集播客：周三、周六

如果你喜欢这集的内容，请：

• 到 Spotify / Apple Podcasts / YouTube 点赞、评分或留言

如果你觉得这个播客让你有所收获，也欢迎你在 Patreon 上支持我的创作——每一杯咖啡的价格，都是对我持续创作的鼓励：

👉 https://www.patreon.com/c/yangmei/membership

Within the Currents of Family: The Art of Understanding, Acceptance, and Connection

In this heartfelt episode, I sit down with Dr. Fei Hong, a clinical psychologist based in Germany, to explore the emotional complexity of family life—especially for overseas Chinese families navigating cross-cultural realities and generational gaps.

Dr. Hong is not only a professional therapist with decades of clinical experience in public hospitals and universities in Germany, but also a passionate storyteller and co-founder (together with Ms. Yunrong Xu) of the non-profit International Mental Health Network for Expatriates. Through her stories and wisdom, she offers compassionate insights into what it truly means to connect, support, and heal within families.

✨ In this episode:

· Why do we often feel powerless or stuck in our family systems?

· What silent struggles are today’s youth facing—especially after the pandemic?

· How can parents “update their GPS” and truly understand their children?

· The healing power of stories, and how to open our hearts to real connection

💛 You can receive free and anonymous mental health support through the Free Soul Hotline:

Zoom Link
Zoom Meeting ID: 886 1813 8556
Password: 112112

🕗 Every Wednesday (CET): 20:30–22:30
🕛 Every Sunday (CET): 12:00–14:00

Please follow the International Mental Health Network for Expatriates and consider becoming a member.
You can support their work by volunteering or making a donation.
For more details, visit: https://mental-health.network/

Let’s come together to support this heartfelt and light-filled nonprofit — and help more people find the warmth and companionship they may need.

📍Upcoming Family Constellation Workshops:

• August 23 (Saturday), 14:00–17:00 | Forest Eco-Farm, Soest
• September 7 (Sunday), 14:00–17:00 | Community Center, Hoofddorp

📬 To register or inquire, please check the registration links in the show notes.

📅 New Episodes Every Week:

Two episodes per week: Wednesdays and Saturdays

点击链接注册 Soest 和 Hoofddorp 的家庭系统排列工作坊： https://hipsy.nl/shop/meeei

这一周，我经历了播客启动两个月以来最艰难的一周。
情绪低落、精力透支、录音出错、数据下降——甚至一度听见内心那个熟悉的声音在说：“放弃吧，没人会在意。”

我动摇了，也暂停了。
但在暂停的日子里，我静下来照顾自己，整理花园、陪伴家庭、倾听身体和心灵的声音。

我意识到：低谷不是终点，而是转折点。
就像花园里那些因为干旱而夭折的花骨朵，也在提醒我：别忘了浇灌自己内心的花。

于是，虽然晚了三天，我还是选择按下录音键，用真实、温柔的声音，和你分享这一周的挣扎与重生。

🎧 特别收录：

我在节目中也提到并分享了我为大家录制的 #36: 八分钟的冥想，放松身体：谢谢自己，辛苦了！冥想音频资源，帮助你在焦虑、疲惫或低谷时，重新与自己连结，安顿身心。

📍系统排列工作坊预告：
• 8月23日（周六）14:00–17:00，Soest 森林生态农场

• 9月7日（周日）14:00–17:00，Hoofddorp 社区中心

📬 报名或咨询请查看节目简介中报名链接。

📅播出频率：

每周两集播客：周三、周六

如果你喜欢这集的内容，请：

• 到 Spotify / Apple Podcasts / YouTube 点赞、评分或留言

如果你觉得这个播客让你有所收获，也欢迎你在 Patreon 上支持我的创作——每一杯咖啡的价格，都是对我持续创作的鼓励：

👉 https://www.patreon.com/c/yangmei/membership

This week has been the hardest one since I started this podcast two months ago.
I felt emotionally low, physically drained, made technical mistakes during recording, and saw my listener stats drop — and for the first time, I heard that familiar voice inside whisper:
“Just give up, no one really cares.”

I wavered. And I paused.

But during those quiet days, I slowed down to take care of myself — I tended to the garden, spent time with my family, and listened to the whispers of my body and soul.

Then I realized:
A low point isn’t the end. It’s a turning point.

Just like the flower buds in my garden that withered from drought before they had a chance to bloom — they were gently reminding me: Don’t forget to water the flowers inside your heart.

So even though I’m three days late, I chose to press "record" again, and share this week’s struggles and renewal with you — with honesty, softness, and presence.

🎧 Special Feature:

In this episode, I also mention and share the #36:An eight-minute meditation to relax your body and thank yourself for all you've been through.”
A short practice to help you reconnect with your body and emotions during moments of anxiety, fatigue, or sadness. You can find the meditation audio link in the show notes.

📍Upcoming Family Constellation Workshops:

• August 23 (Saturday), 14:00–17:00 | Forest Eco-Farm, Soest
• September 7 (Sunday), 14:00–17:00 | Community Center, Hoofddorp

📬 To register or inquire, please check the registration links in the show notes.

📅 New Episodes Every Week:

Two episodes per week: Wednesdays and Saturdays

If this episode resonates with you:

• Please like, rate, or leave a comment on Spotify / Apple Podcasts / YouTube
• If you’ve received any inspiration or support from this podcast, you’re warmly invited to support my continued creation on Patreon —
  Even the price of a coffee helps me keep creating from the heart:
  👉 https://www.patreon.com/c/yangmei/membership