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在这期反思集中，我分享了这一周的真实挣扎与深刻觉察。
因为举办一场大型社区活动，我筋疲力尽，却又想守住更新承诺。
内心两个声音争执不下——“坚持录制”和“允许休息”。

我用正在学习的 IFS 内在家庭系统方法，与这些内在部分对话。
我听见了它们，也被它们提醒：比“按时”更重要的，是“真实”。

我也分享了一个重要的决定：将播客更新频率从每周三次，调整为两次。
这是为了给 IFS 的深入学习腾出空间，去学习掌握 一个宝藏般的系统，将内在与外在家庭疗愈智慧融合，为更多的家庭带来变革的力量。

🎧 本集亮点：

• 如何用 IFS 方法面对内耗与自我批评
• 为什么“休息”也是一种深度的坚持
• 我为什么决定减少更新频率，投入更深的专业成长
• 来自第34集的温柔提醒：真正的亲子修复，从爱自己开始

✨ 邀请你一起思考：

1. 最近你有没有对自己太苛责？有没有一个需要被温柔回应的部分？
2. 有没有一件事你差点放弃？但如果换一种方式对待自己，也许就能继续？
3. 你是否也渴望在自我成长中，找回一个更有力量、更有爱的人自己？

🌱 愿你在这期播客中，找到一份对自己的理解与温柔。

📍系统排列工作坊预告：
• 8月23日（周六）14:00–17:00，Soest 森林生态农场

• 9月7日（周日）14:00–17:00，Hoofddorp 社区中心

📬 报名或咨询请查看节目简介中报名链接。

📅播出频率：

每周两集播客：周三、周六

如果你喜欢这集的内容，请：

• 到 Spotify / Apple Podcasts / YouTube 点赞、评分或留言

如果你觉得这个播客让你有所收获，也欢迎你在 Patreon 上支持我的创作——每一杯咖啡的价格，都是对我持续创作的鼓励：

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In this reflective solo episode, I open up about a moment of real inner conflict this week:
Exhausted from organizing my largest community event so far, I found myself torn—
Should I skip this week’s episode? Push through and perform? Or... simply pause and listen within?

Thanks to IFS (Internal Family Systems), I was able to turn inward and meet my parts with compassion:
The exhausted part was allowed to rest.
The critical voice was heard and thanked.
And I made a different choice: record this episode, not out of pressure, but out of presence.

I also share a personal shift:
Reducing my podcast frequency from 3 to 2 episodes per week,
so I can dedicate more energy to deepening my IFS training—
a powerful complement to the systemic constellation work I already practice.

🎧 In this episode:

• A behind-the-scenes look at burnout and self-compassion
• Why taking a break is sometimes the truest form of persistence
• My growing vision of integrating internal and external systemic healing
• Reflections from Episode 34 on healing the parent-teen relationship by healing ourselves first

💭 Reflective prompts:

1. Where in your life are you pushing too hard… and forgetting to care for yourself?
2. What would shift if you replaced criticism with curiosity?
3. Is there something you've almost given up—because you forgot to be kind to yourself?

🌿 May this episode offer you a moment to breathe, soften, and come home to yourself.

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青春期的孩子，为何总像一堵冷冰冰的墙？
你曾经用尽全力去爱，却总觉得碰壁、被拒绝？
在这一期播客中，我想邀请你走近孩子，也走近你自己。

💗 本集内容源于我最近陪伴辅导的几个家庭。母女之间完全失联，父母深感无助和心碎。但奇迹是可能的——只要我们从向内探索开始，从每天一个小小的举动，重新连接那道断裂的亲子之桥。

🔑 本集你将听到：

• 如何觉察自己对孩子的控制欲和焦虑，是如何阻碍爱的流动；
• 如何练习无条件的爱，停止用交换的方式“付出”；
• 修复关系的“拆墙练习”——从敲门、叫吃饭、晚安拥抱开始；
• 父母的快乐和轻松，是孩子最大的情绪安全感；
• 如何用祝福替代焦虑，让爱重新流动在你们之间；
• 每天一个小练习：写下感恩，写下祝福，让爱的种子在夜晚发芽。

这是一封写给每一位在育儿路上迷惘的父母的温柔来信。
我想告诉你——只要你愿意走出第一步，关系总有修复的可能。

🌿 如果你也在经历与青春期孩子的张力与冲突，愿这期播客成为你的一束光。
你并不孤单。爱，从此刻重新流动。

📅播出频率：

每周三集播客：周三、周六

如果你喜欢这集的内容，请：

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A heart-to-heart invitation for parents in conflict with their adolescent child

Is your teenager shutting you out with silence?
Do your efforts to love and care seem to bounce off a wall of coldness?

In this heartfelt episode, I share the journey of supporting several families—especially mothers and daughters—who had lost emotional connection during the teen years. Through systemic coaching, deep emotional healing, and small daily rituals, these families began to reconnect and rebuild trust.

🌱 In this episode, you'll explore:

• Why unconditional love—not control or fear—is the foundation of healing;
• How to stop projecting your anxieties and start connecting from your heart;
• Tiny “wall-melting” moments: knocking gently before entering, saying goodnight with a hug, calling your teen to dinner with warmth;
• The healing power of blessing your child instead of worrying about them;
• How your own joy, calm, and self-care affect your teen more than any lecture;
• A simple daily practice of gratitude and blessing to shift your energy and nurture the relationship.

✨ This episode is not about fixing your child—it’s about softening your own heart, rediscovering your strength as a parent, and remembering that even the most distant teen still longs for love and connection.

If your relationship with your adolescent feels broken or strained, this episode is a gentle guide back home—to your child, and to your own heart.

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在这一集中，我回顾了本周发布的两期播客，分享了家庭系统排列现场带来的深刻触动：那些无法流出的眼泪、那些压在心底多年的悲伤，终于在一个陌生人的一句话中被唤醒，缓缓融化。
“泪水，是融化灵魂深处冰块的力量。”

我也分享了我在学习和实践 IFS（内部家庭系统）过程中的体会。这一段旅程，让我每天都能带着更多的Self能量与内在的不同“部分”对话，这些焦虑的、怀疑的、努力想要保护我的部分。这种自我陪伴，给我带来了很多内心的平静和对自己的信任。

🌿在这里我想邀请你暂停片刻，想一想：
你有没有一个梦想，藏在心底很久了，却始终没有勇气行动？
有没有一个声音，在你内心轻轻低语：“也许我可以试一试”？

📍系统排列工作坊预告：
• 7月13日（周日）13:30–16:30，Hoofddorp 社区中心

• 8月23日（周六）14:00–17:00，Soest 森林生态农场

📬 报名或咨询请查看节目简介中报名链接。

📅播出频率：

每周两集播客：周三、周六

如果你喜欢这集的内容，请：

• 到 Spotify / Apple Podcasts / YouTube 点赞、评分或留言

如果你觉得这个播客让你有所收获，也欢迎你在 Patreon 上支持我的创作——每一杯咖啡的价格，都是对我持续创作的鼓励：

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In this episode, I reflected on the two podcast episodes released earlier this week, and shared the deep emotions evoked during recent Family Constellation workshops: the tears that had never been shed, the grief that had been buried for years—suddenly awakened and gently melted by a single sentence from a stranger.

“Tears are the force that melts the ice in the depths of the soul.”

I also shared my experiences learning and practicing IFS (Internal Family Systems). This journey has helped me connect with my anxious, doubting, and overprotective parts each day—with more Self energy and compassion. Through this daily inner dialogue, I’ve found greater peace and deeper trust in myself.

🌿 And here, I want to gently invite you to pause and reflect:
Have you been holding onto a dream, quietly hidden in your heart, yet never found the courage to act on it?
Is there a voice inside you, softly whispering: “Maybe… I could give it a try?”

💌 Event links for my upcoming Family Constellation workshops and online IFS sharing can be found in the description.

If you find value in this podcast, you're warmly invited to support my work on Patreon — even the price of a coffee can be a meaningful encouragement for me to keep creating:
👉 https://www.patreon.com/c/yangmei/membership