When the longest relationship I never had ended (not a typo), someone said to me, “New chapter, new year.” That was so not helpful.

Good is not a feeling I’ve ever felt at the end of a relationship. Even when ending it was good for me.

I know you get it.

This week on the pod, we are talking about five things nobody tells you about starting over.

This episode is a shorty — 5 minutes. But it’s juicy!

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Date: January 23, 2025
Time: 1pm PST / 4pm EST

Your calendar might be full, but what's really keeping you unavailable?

In this week’s episode, we are talking about why many of us are more comfortable with exhaustion than connection.

🔎 I have a simple practice for you: The Spacious Minute. It might reveal what your busy schedule is protecting you from. No meditation required.

🗣️ FREE Masterclass: Understanding Your Relationship Patterns

Date: January 23, 2025
Time: 1pm PST / 4pm EST

We'll skip the self-help clichés and dive straight into why we repeat patterns even when we see them coming.

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Mentioned in Episode 17:

FREE Masterclass: Understanding Your Relationship Patterns

Spacious Minute exercise: 60 seconds of intentional stillness. No need to fill up the space. No trying to relax. No breathing exercises. Just be —for one solid minute.

I spent years mistaking intensity for intimacy, choosing complicated over calm because at least I knew the steps to that dance. When someone consistently showed up—no games, no drama —it felt empty. But it wasn't about them. It was about how foreign safety felt to my nervous system.

In this week’s episode, we explore seven reasons why we sometimes distance ourselves from good love, heading straight for the familiar territory of "it's complicated."

Sometimes, the hardest part isn't finding good love – it's letting ourselves receive it.

Plus, exciting news about Sovereignty, my new program for women ready to move beyond understanding their patterns to actually changing them. Early bird pricing coming soon.

Mentioned in Episode 16:

Sovereignty. Four phases... one transformative journey.

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The Five-Second Pause (exercise)

When you feel that familiar urge to create chaos or pull away from something good, pause for five seconds (one one-thousand, two one-thousand, etc.) - just notice what's happening in your body without trying to change it. The pause isn't about choosing differently; it's about creating enough space to notice that you have a choice.