Can BDSM be a literary and philosophical pursuit?

In this episode of The Erotic Realm Podcast, I sit down with Lenny, a sadist, writer, and lifelong BDSM mentor whose journey explores the limits of pleasure, pain, and the mind’s role in eroticism.

Lenny shares his experiences with hypnotic states, non-physical orgasms, and BDSM as a vehicle for transformation—both in real life and in literature.

We discuss:

• The psychology of masochism and what pain really means in BDSM.
• Writing about dark desires and the philosophy of De Sade.
• Non-physical orgasms and how hypnosis can trigger deep pleasure.
• The intersection of tantra, breathwork, and erotic power exchange.
• Unusual fetishes he’s encountered including a garlic fetish!

Research Paper: A Case of Female Orgasm Without Genital Stimulation

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What happens when you embrace your true desires later in life?

In this episode I chat with Sean, a bisexual impact bottom and switch who came out at 43 and stepped into the world of kink. From breaking free of stigma to exploring the depths of masochism and power exchange, his journey is a testament to the transformative power of self-acceptance.

We discuss:

• Coming out as bisexual later in life and its impact on identity.
• Navigating stigma and mental health as a bisexual man.
• The psychology of impact play and the power in submission.
• How switching offers new perspectives on dominance and surrender.
• The emotional and physical highs of BDSM exploration.

Research Paper: Internalized Sexual Stigma among Lesbian, Gay, and Bisexual Individuals in Taiwan: Its Related Factors and Association with Mental Health ProblemsFollow for more insights into the psychology of kink and eroticism, and visit theeroticrealm.com to sign up for the newsletter or apply to be on the podcast- I'd love to chat to you!

Can BDSM change the way we experience pain?

In this episode I sit down with Jules, a submissive masochist and primal prey whose journey into BDSM has been shaped by chronic pain, storytelling, and the exploration of extreme edge play. Jules shares how BDSM has helped them reframe their relationship with pain, power, and pleasure, and how working as a phone sex operator deepened their understanding of erotic psychology.

We discuss: - How BDSM helps manage and reframe chronic pain. - The psychological appeal of masochism, edge play, and CNC. - The power of storytelling in shaping erotic identity. - What phone sex work reveals about the psychology of fantasy. - The fluidity of sexuality, gender, and fetish exploration.Research Paper: Chronic Pain as Fluid, BDSM as Control

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Can BDSM strengthen a long-term relationship?

In this episode I chat with Karl, a submissive-leaning switch and primal masochist whose exploration of kink saved his 30-year marriage.

While remaining sexually monogamous with his wife, he has embraced BDSM as a way to express his true self, deepen intimacy, and bring new energy into their relationship.

We discuss:

• How kink transformed his marriage after 30 years.
• The balance between sexual monogamy and an open kink dynamic.
• The surprising parallels between martial arts and BDSM.
• The primal side of his sexuality, from wolfpacks to submission.
• The psychology of pain, submission, and personal transformation.

Research Paper:Relationship status rather than sociosexuality or sexual orientation predicts male sexual functioning.

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What happens when fantasy turns into reality?

In this episode I sit down with Kay, an erotic fiction writer who discovered her submissive nature through fan fiction.

Now, she explores real-life submission while navigating a vanilla marriage and a dynamic with her Dominant.

We discuss:

• How writing fan fiction led her to explore real-life BDSM.
• The differences between fantasy submission and lived experiences.
• How submission and BDSM help regulate her mental health.
• Balancing a vanilla marriage with an active kink life.
• The psychology behind storytelling, power exchange, and erotic identity.

Research Paper:Perception Correction: Addressing Social Stigmatization Around BDSM and Mental Health.

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What happens when you break free from the expectations of traditional relationships to fully embrace your authentic sexuality?

In this episode of I sit down with Stephen, a 36-year-old sadomasochistic switch who spent 20 years in monogamous relationships before discovering his true desires.

Now living 24/7 in a polyamorous M/s dynamic, he shares how BDSM transformed his understanding of power, intimacy, and self-acceptance.

We discuss:

• The turning point after 20 years of monogamy and the path to self-discovery
• The psychology of power dynamics in BDSM and everyday life
• How pain enhances intimacy and the mental health benefits of kink
• Navigating polyamory and the complexities of a multi-partner household

Research Paper:Psychological Characteristics of BDSM Practitioners

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In this episode of The Erotic Realm Podcast, I sit down with Ancilla, a 33-year-old polyamorous writer, masochist, and slave who has dedicated her life to exploring power exchange, pain, and the art of kink education. Ancilla’s journey intersects with her roles as a emotional masochist, and educator, creating a deeply personal and transformative story.

We discuss:

• The strength in submission and what it means to her as a slave.
• The psychology of pain and how masochism connects to altered states and self-discovery.
• Her groundbreaking Sextbook Initiative and its mission to make kink education accessible and actionable.
• Balancing feminism and masochism in the kink world.
• And much more...

Research paper: No Pain, No Gain?: Therapeutic and Relational Benefits of Subspace in BDSM Contexts.

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In this episode, we delve into the rich experiences and wisdom of Marc, a bisexual hedonist, switch, and mentor with decades of involvement in the kink community.

We discuss:

• The evolution of the kink scene over the past few decades.
• The intersection of bisexuality and mental health in navigating identity.
• Lessons learned from living the lifestyle as a mentor and switch.
• Balancing power dynamics in relationships with his Domme wife.
• And much more...

Research paper: Disclosure and Concealment of Sexual Orientation and the Mental Health of Non-Gay-Identified, Behaviorally-Bisexual Men.

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