In this episode, Evan Marc Katz joins Adam Lane Smith for a fiery and thought-provoking debate on one of the most challenging questions in relationships: Can we truly change our partner—or is it all about accepting them as they are? From practical dating strategies to deeper emotional dynamics, this conversation dives into the complexities of modern love and long-term compatibility.

✨ Key Topics Covered: 👉 Can good relationships be effortless—or do they always require "hard work"? 👉 Why trying to filter a future husband through dating profiles might be sabotaging your chances 👉 The hidden danger of rushing relationships due to urgency or age 👉 Do men doing more chores really lead to higher divorce rates? 👉 Why chemistry fades—and what truly keeps couples together long-term 👉 Understanding attachment styles: anxious vs. avoidant in real-life dynamics 👉 How discomfort can be a sign of growth in a healthy relationship 👉 Can emotionally avoidant men become devoted, secure partners? 👉 The power of conflict resolution and reading emotional cues 👉 What makes two people truly compatible—beyond cliches

Whether you're single and searching or in the middle of navigating a tough dynamic, this conversation offers powerful insights into love, growth, and emotional responsibility. To dive deeper into relationship skills, check out Adam's retreat offerings at https://adamlanesmith.com/retreat/?utm_source=youtube.com&utm_medium=social&utm_campaign=avoidant&utm_content=descriptionlink

Stay tuned for more expert insights and relationship advice in future episodes! If you enjoyed this episode, you will probably love our episode titled ‘Attachment Specialist Fixes an Avoidant Woman’ https://youtu.be/zSaZrRedRUc

Need more help with your attachment? Work with Adam: www.adamlanesmith.com

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Brandon Doerkse opens up about how he nearly lost his marriage due to emotional numbness, distraction, and addiction. For years, he struggled with avoidance, failing to recognize how his actions were eroding the trust and intimacy in his relationship. It wasn’t until he hit rock bottom that he realized the painful truth—his marriage was falling apart, and he was the one responsible.

Topics Covered: 👉 The impact of emotional disconnection in marriage 👉 How avoidance and addiction sabotage relationships 👉 Why men must take the first step in healing a broken relationship 👉 Understanding attachment styles and their effect on marriage 👉 The painful realization that led Brandon to transformation 👉 How honesty and accountability helped rebuild trust 👉 The importance of integration with God, family, and self 👉 What true masculine leadership in marriage looks like

Brandon’s journey proves that no matter how broken a relationship may seem, healing is possible when a man is willing to confront his shortcomings and take responsibility. His story is a powerful testament to the importance of emotional awareness, faith, and intentional action in restoring love and trust.

If this conversation spoke to you, share your thoughts in the comments. Have you faced similar struggles in your relationship? What steps have helped you move forward? Let’s continue the conversation below.

Stay tuned for more expert insights and relationship advice in future episodes! If you enjoyed this episode, you will probably love our episode titled ‘Attachment Specialist Fixes an Avoidant Woman’ https://youtu.be/zSaZrRedRUc

Need more help with your attachment? Work with Adam: www.adamlanesmith.com

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In this episode, Adam Lane Smith, the Attachment Specialist, navigates the challenges of a toxic marriage. Through raw and honest conversations, Adam uncovers the root causes of their struggles and offers practical guidance to rebuild trust, communication, and emotional connection. Whether you’re facing similar issues or just want to strengthen your relationship, this episode is packed with insights and advice that can make a real difference.

Topics Covered: 👉 The impact of unresolved trauma on marriage and relationships 👉 How pressure and past experiences shape relationship dynamics 👉 Addressing touch aversion and intimacy issues 👉 The importance of emotional regulation and safe communication 👉 Building a healthy legacy for children and breaking toxic patterns 👉 Strategies to create a secure and loving environment for the whole family

Adam provides powerful insights and actionable steps to help couples rebuild connection and create a healthier, more fulfilling relationship. No matter where you are in your journey, this episode offers hope and practical guidance to transform your relationship dynamics. Don’t miss this transformative conversation—tune in now!

Stay tuned for more expert insights and relationship advice in future episodes! If you enjoyed this episode, you will probably love our episode titled ‘Attachment Specialist Fixes an Avoidant Woman’ https://youtu.be/zSaZrRedRUc

Need more help with your attachment? Work with Adam: www.adamlanesmith.com

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