I have an old painful story that comes up in my body sometimes when I'm activated, and it says, “I'm alone in solving everything. No one's coming to help me.” But recently I had an experience with a dear friend that reminded me that I’m not alone, that I'm allowed to ask for help and help can come. That moment became the perfect metaphor for what this episode is all about: journaling and boundaries.

Journaling reveals the old stories that keep us stuck. It allows us to pause and get curious about what we really think and feel, and from there we can begin to apply this boundary work in a meaningful way. If you’ve never tried journaling or have no idea where to begin, don’t worry, I’m giving you eight prompts to help guide you on your journey to self-discovery.

Boundary work isn’t just about what we say ‘no’ to, it's about rewriting those internal stories about who we are and what we deserve. Through journaling, we can begin to rewrite our stories with more clarity, curiosity, and compassion, and I hope these prompts are a helpful guide in getting started.

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We've been taught that boundary work is mostly about communication, but that's only half of the story. We can’t talk about boundaries without also talking about how your nervous system responds. When we feel threatened, our body doesn't ask, ‘what's the best, most conscious choice here?’ It simply reacts.

Those reactive moments don’t mean you’re failing at boundaries; they’re signs that your body is feeling unsafe. That’s why, in this episode, we’re exploring what actually happens in those moments when you lose your boundary and how to gently find your way back to yourself using self-regulation techniques.

If you've ever asked yourself, ‘why did I just agree to that?’ ‘Why did I freeze?’ ‘Why can't I ever get it right in the moment?’ This episode is for you.

Resources

The Boundary Pyramid Graphic

Download the Boundary Category Cheat Sheet

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If you're anything like me, you know this feeling: you've done the journaling, you've listened to the episodes, you've started to understand your boundaries on paper and in your head, and then real life hits. Maybe it's a family gathering. Maybe it's a message from someone who drains you. A moment where your energy gets hijacked and you're right back in the pattern you swore you'd outgrown.

It's one thing to understand boundaries on a calm Tuesday morning, it's another to hold a boundary when you're emotionally activated or put on the spot. That's why in this episode, we're not just talking about boundaries, but how to actually live them in real time. I’ll be giving you practical tools that I call ‘boundary hacks,’ or micro tools that you can use in the moment when you need them, and then walking you through how to create your own personalized boundary roadmap.

Creating and holding boundaries can feel awkward in the moment, especially with the ones we love. The more self-regulating tools we have in our toolbelts, however, the more confidently we’ll be able to move through uncomfortable situations and the stronger our relationships will be as a result.

Resources

The Boundary Pyramid Graphic

Download the Boundary Category Cheat Sheet

Website: robinbreckenridge.com

Instagram: @coachwithrobin

TikTok: @robinbreckenridge

YouTube: @growwithrobinbreckenridge