Some of the best conversations happen when your clients can hear themselves clearly.

This is Part II on Depths of Conversation. See the Part I: We Are Hungry For Depth:

The five levels of conversation:

1. Informational

2. Emotional

3. Confessional

4. Experiential

5. Activational

Shownotes:

- Avoid TBU (True But Useless) Information

- Why You Need A Guide to Go Deep

- Dropout in Psychotherapy (Part I, II, III)

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We yearn not just for deeper conversations, but deeper connections. Connections that make us come alive.

The five levels of conversation:

1. Informational

2. Emotional

3. Confessional

4. Experiential

5. Activational

Shownotes:

- Main Full Circles essay: https://fullcircles.substack.com/p/depth

- Information is Not Transformation

- Listening into Speech: Will Say, Won't Say, Can't Say.

- PostSecret

- A Class Divided Documentary

- Invisible Wounds

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Today’s episode is dedicated to two readers of Frontiers of Psychotherapist Development (FPD): Austin Sparks and Ash Burton.

I answer both Austin’s and Ash’s question on working with more than just the individual youth in therapy. I address the challenge and merits, along with six guiding principles, and six strategies that I take.

Guiding Principles

1. Give Voice to the Voice-less

2. Listening to Each Other into Speech

3. Being a With-ness to Each Other

4. We are a Community of Internalised Others

5. When We Love, We Love Poorly

Strategies

1. Structure is “Where are we? were are we going? and why?

2. Mixing Individual and Conjoint Sessions

3. Allow Contradictory Perspectives

4. Express the Unspokens

5. How Healthy is the Family?

6. Practice of forgiveness

SHOWNOTES:

1. 10 Years of Frontiers of Psychotherapist Development (FPD). Frontiers Friday #189

2. Listening Into Speech: Will Say, Won’t Say, Can’t Say.

Quotes:

Understanding is love’s other name. If you don’t understand, you can’t love.

— Thich Nhat Hanh, in How to Love.

Forgiveness is the name of love practice among people who love poorly. The hard truth is that all people love poorly.

— Henri Nouwen.

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This is about the Difficult Conversations in Therapy (DCT) study that has just recently been released.

I talked about1. Main findings

2. Surprising findings

3. Uniqueness

4. The Evolution of the DCT Study

5. What I’ve learned from the DCT Project.

Main Study: https://www.growkudos.com/publications/10.1037%25252Ftep0000493/reader

See https://darylchow.substack.com/p/ff207 for shownotes.

A talk recorded at the Association of Counselling Psychologist (ACP) Conference, Oct 2024. Taking aim at doing the right thing, and not just doing things right.

Watch the video version to make sense of the references made in this talk: https://youtu.be/Pa-cv9V3_ZM?si=FTSstO9Ex8g-WLgr

CHAPTERS: - Intro: (0:00) - Performing vs. Learning (4:20) -Concept Creep ((10:40) - What is Deliberate Practice(11:39) - Profile of Highly Effective Therapists aka Supershrinks (15:45) The Seven Mistakes: 1. DP is Not Clinical Practice (22:55) 2. DP is Not Model Specific (25:36) 3. DP is Not Reflective Practice (32:48) 4. DP is Not Purposeful Practice (36:25) 5. DP is Not About You (38:04) 6. DP Needs Guidance (41:39) 7. DP Should Not Be Mandated (41:13) Closing: My Three Wishes for You (46:49) --- 🎁 Would like to receive 5 wicked recommendations to nourish your professional development each Friday? Subscribe to our Frontiers Friday newsletter: 🎯 https://darylchow.substack.com

An antidote to dogma.

See this Substack post for more:

https://darylchow.substack.com/p/ff205

Here’s the video version: https://youtu.be/wcU7ch-MFW0

This is a Q&A video and podcast series based on a question from a therapist in Glasgow, Scotland.

I hope this email finds you well.

I'm not sure whether this will get to you, but wanted to reach out as I have been feeling in a bit of a crisis with my practice as psychotherapist. And have been reading your book 'First Kiss'

To put it bluntly - there is too much choice! I am constantly distracted and preoccupied by the great myriad of trainings, books,  models, etc. And find myself paralysed at times on what to actually do with people. I want to help and be the best I can.

I have been excited and intrigued by your writings, and the writing of Dr. Scott Miller as well, and I appreciate that there are factors more important than the therapeutic school/model, but it still leaves me anxious about what do I actually subscribe to in a session, as I can't just do anything/everything, I still need to present a coherent narrative to my clients, and link that to the work we do together. Even integrative or transdiagnostic models (like PBT or Multimodal Therapy) feel overwhelming.

And when I look at Deliberate Practice, it seems great, but doesn't answer my overall questions.

I wonder, should i just pick a good, well-fitting for me, model, and then work at practicing the best version of that i can? Or whether I am missing something entirely?

So I wanted to write in case there was anything you could point me in the direction of reading or doing that could help.

Warmest regards

Peter

Timestamp:

00:00 Intro00:07 Email from a therapist in Scotland03:14 Step 1: What is your belief about how healing takes place?04:31 Step 2: Identify 2-3 approaches that resonnates with you. 06:34 Step 3: Your History of Change07:34 Step 4: Your Clinical History with Clients08:51 Step 5: Develop Your Own Blueprint of How You Conduct Therapy Sessions10:43 Step 6: Capture Weekly Therapy Learnings (WTL)12:29 Step 7: Retrieval Practice13:50 Our Misunderstandings of What "Evidence-Based Practice (EBP)" is.15:24 Invitation to Pose Your Questions

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Daryl Chow Ph.D. is the author of The First Kiss, co-author of Better Results, and The Write to Recovery, Creating Impact, and the new book The Field Guide to Better Results .