Some of the best conversations happen when your clients can hear themselves clearly.

This is Part II on Depths of Conversation. See the Part I: We Are Hungry For Depth:

The five levels of conversation:

1. Informational

2. Emotional

3. Confessional

4. Experiential

5. Activational

Shownotes:

- Avoid TBU (True But Useless) Information

- Why You Need A Guide to Go Deep

- Dropout in Psychotherapy (Part I, II, III)

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We yearn not just for deeper conversations, but deeper connections. Connections that make us come alive.

The five levels of conversation:

1. Informational

2. Emotional

3. Confessional

4. Experiential

5. Activational

Shownotes:

- Main Full Circles essay: https://fullcircles.substack.com/p/depth

- Information is Not Transformation

- Listening into Speech: Will Say, Won't Say, Can't Say.

- PostSecret

- A Class Divided Documentary

- Invisible Wounds

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Today’s episode is dedicated to two readers of Frontiers of Psychotherapist Development (FPD): Austin Sparks and Ash Burton.

I answer both Austin’s and Ash’s question on working with more than just the individual youth in therapy. I address the challenge and merits, along with six guiding principles, and six strategies that I take.

Guiding Principles

1. Give Voice to the Voice-less

2. Listening to Each Other into Speech

3. Being a With-ness to Each Other

4. We are a Community of Internalised Others

5. When We Love, We Love Poorly

Strategies

1. Structure is “Where are we? were are we going? and why?

2. Mixing Individual and Conjoint Sessions

3. Allow Contradictory Perspectives

4. Express the Unspokens

5. How Healthy is the Family?

6. Practice of forgiveness

SHOWNOTES:

1. 10 Years of Frontiers of Psychotherapist Development (FPD). Frontiers Friday #189

2. Listening Into Speech: Will Say, Won’t Say, Can’t Say.

Quotes:

Understanding is love’s other name. If you don’t understand, you can’t love.

— Thich Nhat Hanh, in How to Love.

Forgiveness is the name of love practice among people who love poorly. The hard truth is that all people love poorly.

— Henri Nouwen.

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