After betrayal, it’s easy to believe that your best days are behind you. That the pain you’re in now will always be part of you. But what if this isn’t the end of your story? What if it’s the beginning of something deeper, truer, and more aligned with who you really are?

In this uplifting episode, I share the often untold truth about healing from infidelity: that it doesn’t just break you, it can build you. From rock bottom, we talk about what it means to rise strong. You’ll hear how emotional resilience, self-trust, and clarity can grow not in spite of the betrayal, but because of how you move through it.

Whether you’re still in the thick of it or slowly finding your footing, this episode is your reminder: you are not broken. You’re becoming.

• Rock bottom is a foundation. It’s not the end of your story, but the start of intentional rebuilding.
• Post-traumatic growth is real. Betrayal can lead to deeper resilience, clarity, and self-trust.
• You don’t have to choose the betrayal to reclaim the power of choice. Your response is where your strength lives.
• Healing isn’t about perfection; it’s about becoming more fully you.
• You’re allowed to want more than survival. Joy, connection, and meaning are still available to you.

Reflect on this: What’s one positive shift, however small, you’ve noticed in yourself since the betrayal? Let that be your thread of hope.

I’d love to hear your story. Come share your reflections with me on Instagram or in the Facebook group. You’re not alone on this path.

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Disgust isn’t just a passing reaction. For many betrayed partners, it’s a visceral, body-based response that no amount of logic or reassurance can dissolve.

In this episode, we unpack one of the most misunderstood trauma responses after infidelity: disgust. Why it shows up. What it’s really saying. And how to respond to it without shame.

This is for anyone who’s ever recoiled at the sight or touch of the person they used to love, and then judged themselves for it.

• Disgust is a protective trauma response, not a moral failing.
• It often stems from your nervous system flagging something as unsafe, not from conscious thought.
• Shame often follows disgust, creating an inner loop of silence, self-blame, and confusion.
• Healing starts by validating your body’s response, not forcing it to move faster than it’s ready.
• Safety, not guilt, is the antidote to disgust

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Connect with Luke:

• Website: www.lifecoachluke.com
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• Email: luke@lifecoachluke.com

Join the After the Affair community at www.facebook.com/groups/aftertheaffaircommunity

Understanding why someone betrayed you can be helpful. It can explain what happened. It can offer context. It can even soften the sting, temporarily.

But it doesn’t erase the pain.

In this episode, we unpack the emotional tug-of-war between empathy and accountability after infidelity. We explore how understanding your partner’s internal struggles, their fears, avoidance, or disconnection doesn’t mean you're condoning their choices. It simply means you're starting to see the full picture.

You’ll learn how empathy and boundaries can exist side-by-side, and why making sense of the betrayal is only one part of the healing process.

• Empathy does not equal agreement, you can understand your partner without excusing their behaviour.
• Betrayal often stems from fear or disconnection, not just desire or malice.
• The pain doesn’t vanish just because you understand “why” it happened, and that pain still matters.
• You can hold compassion and boundaries at the same time.
• Real healing comes when you stop trying to make it all make sense, and start learning how to sit with what is

Have you struggled with the tension between understanding and hurt? Leave us a review or share this episode with someone who’s trying to make sense of their own betrayal story.

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Connect with Luke:

• Website: www.lifecoachluke.com
• Instagram: @mylifecoachluke
• Email: luke@lifecoachluke.com

Join the After the Affair community at www.facebook.com/groups/aftertheaffaircommunity