A total power exchange with his wife, partner-focused pleasure, and exploring piss play—Steve shares how his 20-year vanilla relationship transitioned into a consciously designed, mutually nurturing connection.

00:00 Scalding hot baths, outdoorsy adventures, and grounding in himself

06:16 A magnetic spiritual connection with his partner and how they balance their disparate relationship needs

12:17 How a 24/7 dynamic with contracts and monthly meetings helped him connect more fully with his partner

19:59 Protecting mental well-being + preparing safety measures following sub drop and top drop

24:56 CUM PLAY!!!

26:59 Growing up feeling like an outsider with Protestant, Catholic, and Jewish influences

32:43 Condom lessons from his classmate’s nurse mom, detailed anatomical drawings, and watching a graphic sex ed video with his family

37:38 How a book from his grandfather led to his first masturbation session

42:57 Why pleasing his partner is always his focus

44:16 Early masturbation exploration, bedsheet burns and baby powder on private parts

47:49 AOL phone sex adventures with “hot babes” to practice flirting

54:43 Rediscovering his innate confidence through Dominance and plans for writing smut

58:01 Early softcore and R-rated film influences on his sexuality

1:02:53 Making classic movie moves on a first date and his first sexually exciting touch

1:08:33 His first time fingering and revisiting sexy shared memories during sex

1:11:41 An absolute love of blowjobs and navigating his “unreasonable” shameless desire with partners

1:16:41 How a mismatch of communication and sexual needs led to consciously designing a D/s dynamic

1:23:32 Breaking out of the relationship rut of a rare sexual “rewards” system to embrace explorations like watersports and cum play

1:29:19 Daddy Dom bedtime rituals and his ongoing Domination development

1:34:46 Piss play and watching his partner pee

1:38:14 How a college class helped him talk openly about sex and why he thinks everyone is sexy

1:42:52 Looking forward to progressing as a Dominant, building community, and working through mutual jealousy to ultimately add more play partners

1:48:15 Shared desire for accessible sex ed + teaching that it’s okay to explore and break out of expected “norms”

📈 STATS | 40 heteroflexible Dominant white dude, he/him pronouns, monogamous, 24/7 power dynamic, married with kids, works in education, US east coast, into: spanking, cum play, watersports, and his submissive

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