00:00 Feeling love through movement, intimacy, and creating community

02:19 Why Spike loves tall nerds, clumsy weirdos, and lovers who help him learn

05:40 Catholic altar boy guilt and reflecting on shame with partners

07:51 Taking control and inviting audience and partners into play

11:37 Embracing being nasty and a suitcase full of safety

15:23 Discovering sex, reclaiming their body, and post cum clarity

19:56 Survival sex work, living in a cage, and unlocking sexual freedom

26:06 Dominance, secrecy, and tips for topping

31:08 Turned on by dancing for money and attention

34:30 What Spike loves about carnal and casual intimacy

36:36 Highly sensitive nipples and tender sensuality

41:01 Spit, self-flagellation, and casting spells

44:01 Solo toy explorations, strokers, and masturbation climaxes

46:56 Personal and pro partnered play

52:36 Foot play, power dynamics, and leather

58:15 Drag shows, male attention, and trying new things

1:00:52 Loving community, communication, and consent

🔗 SPIKE LINKS | @spikeprinceofcats / @spikesauce7 / OF

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Part two of Luna's self-interview about love, connection, and mission to make the world a sexier place with the current set of podcast questions.

[01:30:12] What makes me go WOO? The moon, croissants, and learning from others

[01:31:30] How learning about others' experiences shapes understanding of connection

[01:33:37] The reality of projections in new relationships and meeting expectations

[01:35:14] My obsession with "lining things up"

[01:37:41] How “lining things up” applies to photography, podcasting, and all creative work

[01:40:19] How I woo me: the importance of alone time

[01:45:06] How to woo me: food, touch, and engagement with creative work

[01:48:55] Building safety and trust in relationships

[01:50:44] Requirements for physical intimacy and love of clear containers

[01:54:22] Evolution from early podcast days to embracing all erotic arts

[01:56:56] Dreams of creating edurotic content and spaces

[02:00:13] Ongoing learnings navigating personal relationships

[02:01:29] Health, safety, and communication practices

[02:05:02] Patterns of boundaries in vanilla vs kinky connections

[02:15:52] Ongoing project: organizing my ultimate bucket list of pleasure exploration

[02:21:56] Vision for Explicit Negotiation edurotic series

[02:32:15] Future goals: redefining sex education and creating safe spaces for deep connection

[02:35:12] Dreams of co-creating a more connected, loving world together

🔗 PEOPLE & RESOURCES MENTIONED

Marc Brackett (Yale researcher, creator of RULER emotional intelligence program) - marcbrackett.com

Lisa Feldman Barrett (Neuroscientist, emotions researcher) - lisafeldmanbarrett.com

Esther Perel (Psychotherapist, relationships expert) - estherperel.com

Brené Brown (Researcher focusing on vulnerability and shame) - brenebrown.com

Andrew Huberman (Stanford neuroscientist, host of Huberman Lab podcast) - hubermanlab.com

Emily Nagoski (Sex educator and researcher, writer on sexuality and stress) - emilynagoski.com

Amelia Nagoski (Choral conductor, co-author on burnout research)

Cherie DeVille (Adult performer, former pod guest) - cheriedeville.com

Ophelia Kaan (Adult performer) - x.com/OpheliaKaan

Tyler Poelle (Acting teacher at Lesly Kahn) - tylerpoelle.com

RESOURCES: BOOKS:

"Come As You Are" by Emily Nagoski

"Come Together" by Emily Nagoski

"Burnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle" by Emily & Amelia Nagoski

FreeSTDCheck.org

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Luna revisits her very first episode where she interviews herself and updates it with her current, six-years-later perspective and reflections.

Inspirations of MeToo and sex ed gaps

Reflections on oversharing, shame, friendship and parasocial relationships

Updates on sexuality labels, erotic artistry and sex work

Formative experiences, masturbation discovery

Understanding rejection and communication

First blowjob experiences, deep throat learning

Evolution of oral sex skills and preferences

BDSM discovery and communication growth

Safety protocols and boundary setting

Protection discussions and body hair preferences

Updated views on hygiene and consent

Relationship styles and touch needs

Professional boundaries and parasocial dynamics

Double penetration hopes and gangbang fantasy sharing

Evolution of fantasies and connection needs

📚 | BOOKS MENTIONED

Show Me by Will McBride and Dr. Helga Fleischhauer-Hardt

Atlas of the Heart by Brené Brown

Hot Sex: How to Do It by Tracey Cox

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