A total power exchange with his wife, partner-focused pleasure, and exploring piss play—Steve shares how his 20-year vanilla relationship transitioned into a consciously designed, mutually nurturing connection.

00:00 Scalding hot baths, outdoorsy adventures, and grounding in himself

06:16 A magnetic spiritual connection with his partner and how they balance their disparate relationship needs

12:17 How a 24/7 dynamic with contracts and monthly meetings helped him connect more fully with his partner

19:59 Protecting mental well-being + preparing safety measures following sub drop and top drop

24:56 CUM PLAY!!!

26:59 Growing up feeling like an outsider with Protestant, Catholic, and Jewish influences

32:43 Condom lessons from his classmate’s nurse mom, detailed anatomical drawings, and watching a graphic sex ed video with his family

37:38 How a book from his grandfather led to his first masturbation session

42:57 Why pleasing his partner is always his focus

44:16 Early masturbation exploration, bedsheet burns and baby powder on private parts

47:49 AOL phone sex adventures with “hot babes” to practice flirting

54:43 Rediscovering his innate confidence through Dominance and plans for writing smut

58:01 Early softcore and R-rated film influences on his sexuality

1:02:53 Making classic movie moves on a first date and his first sexually exciting touch

1:08:33 His first time fingering and revisiting sexy shared memories during sex

1:11:41 An absolute love of blowjobs and navigating his “unreasonable” shameless desire with partners

1:16:41 How a mismatch of communication and sexual needs led to consciously designing a D/s dynamic

1:23:32 Breaking out of the relationship rut of a rare sexual “rewards” system to embrace explorations like watersports and cum play

1:29:19 Daddy Dom bedtime rituals and his ongoing Domination development

1:34:46 Piss play and watching his partner pee

1:38:14 How a college class helped him talk openly about sex and why he thinks everyone is sexy

1:42:52 Looking forward to progressing as a Dominant, building community, and working through mutual jealousy to ultimately add more play partners

1:48:15 Shared desire for accessible sex ed + teaching that it’s okay to explore and break out of expected “norms”

📈 STATS | 40 heteroflexible Dominant white dude, he/him pronouns, monogamous, 24/7 power dynamic, married with kids, works in education, US east coast, into: spanking, cum play, watersports, and his submissive

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Mermaid roleplay, creating sexy safe spaces, and de-stigmatizing sex work—Kaylani shares how working at a legal brothel has led her down a path of self-discovery, independence, and deeper human connection.

00:00 Why sex work is “intimacy therapy”

03:20 Community, conquering shame, and feeling empowered as a legal courtesan

09:15 Creating safe judgement-free sexy spaces that allows lovers to express their vulnerability

12:51 Mermaid role play and fulfilling partners’ fantasies

17:19 Client success stories and the magic of changing mindsets

19:21 Why do people go to the legal brothel?

23:45 Noticing relationship patterns and what she’s learned from toxic partnerships

27:26 Growing up boy crazy with mixed sex ed messaging

30:13 A long-time lesbian porn fantasy come true

33:28 All-girl orgy configurations

34:43 How she goes deep with clients

36:47 Virgin parties, foreplay tips, and teaching partners how to make her cum

39:05 Why she likes to connect with words before connecting physically

42:51 Feeling supported by her partners and debunking the “transactional” nature of sex work

45:38 Consistent self-care routines and staying curious

48:45 A future of intimacy coaching and helping women leverage sexual energy into financial freedom

51:44 How she’s spreading happiness, acceptance, and compassion

📈STATS | 32 heteroflexible multicultural female, she/her pronouns, single, elite companion, Las Vegas-based legal courtesan, into: meeting new people, deep conversations, spending time with partners, initiating the inexperienced, playing with lady friends, role play, and creating safe spaces for partners

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Voyeurism, non-monogamy, and exploring partner-specific kinks—Nico shares deep noodles on the power of permission and how he’s fortifying humanity through the gift of his own personal “medicine.”

00:00 Hedonism, collective enjoyment, and connecting with animals

05:20 How granting himself permission to be “selfish” allows him to experience what he loves and consciously gift himself to others

10:12 Practicing balance in all things and reflecting on past experiences to shape his future

15:44 Why he loves being asked to share present moments with others

17:40 Generosity tattooed on his soul and the gift of sharing “medicine”

23:46 Intense moments and out-of-body experiences for him and his partners

26:45 Laughter and communal joy that lead to intimacy

29:36 the ways he grounds himself in everyday moments and connecting with others during hard times

32:44 Eye gazing as his ultimate connector

39:20 Layering sensory pleasures and empowering humanity to find his own nirvana

42:51 Ego death and the cyclical nature of destruction and creation

47:26 Joyful non-monogamous explorations and preferred relational structures

53:50 Balancing his all-or-nothing tendencies and investing in his needs

1:02:14 Scandinavian influences: sex ed, a taboo-free night of freedom, and his first cougar encounter

1:10:36 How “self-preservation” and a fear of rejection in his early 20s led to pursuing older women

1:13:46 Public libraries, pin-up porn, and photographic voyeurism

1:19:05 Ambidextrous masturbations, scramble porn, and erotic supermarket magazines

1:23:35 Teasing and denial kink origins + an unexpected first handjob

1:31:07 Why he initiates sex with enthusiastic oral + pros and cons of being performance-focused

1:38:06 Energetic erogenous explorations and sharing sex-inspired creativity

1:46:20 Why he loves satisfying divorced women and the unparalleled pleasure in permission to pour his passion into lovers

1:51:10 Enabling his most Dominant self with his submissive Good Girl partner

1:55:13 How non-monogamy helps him discover the different sides of himself and noodles on “mating for life”

2:01:11 Sharing sensuality and embracing wildness

2:03:06 Swedish orgies and finding kinksters wherever he goes

2:06:50 Voyeurism and double-teaming at a sex party

2:09:39 Subtle voyeuristic dreams and why he wants everyone to discover their North Star

📈 STATS | 39 straight Scandinavian-American, he/him pronouns, non-monogamous, film professional, California-based, world traveler, into: sensual self-discovery, sexuality and brain chemistry, hedonsim, reinvention, ethical non-monogamy, kink, partners’ pleasure, emotional sensuality, existentialism, non-attachment

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