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It’s not always easy to tell when you’re dealing with a narcissist. One day they draw you in with their confidence and charisma, the next they gaslight you, wreck your self-confidence, and leave you wondering, What could I have done differently? As Dr. Ramani Durvasula reveals in It's Not You, the answer is: absolutely nothing. Just as a tiger can’t change its stripes, a narcissist won’t stop manipulating and invalidating you. To heal in the aftermath of their abuse and protect yourself from future harm, you first have to accept that you are not to blame.

One of the best-known motivational guides in history, Dale Carnegie’s groundbreaking book has sold tens of millions of copies, been translated into almost every known language, and has helped countless people succeed.

★照れるのを乗り越えてやるから、相手の心は動きます。恥ずかしいことを言えるから、相手の心に届きます。照れる、恥ずかしいでは、何も進みません。それを乗り越えてこそ、大人の仕事、大人の恋愛です。相手の心を鷲掴みにする方法、中谷さんに伺いました。★こんな方に有効です。□気持ちが相手に伝わりにくい方。□照れ屋さん。恥ずかしがり屋さん。□「いい人」で終わってしまう方。●「目の前の人を、大切にしよう。」●「万人に『いい人』になると、つまらない人になる。」●「照れることをやるから、相手の心が動く。」●「ダイレクトに伝えるのが、カッコイイ。」●「被害者意識の人は、反省しない。」●「好奇心とリアクションのある人は、モテる。」●「振り回されるのが、恋愛の快感。」 ★何度も聴いて、もっとダイレクトに!

Babies don't automatically know how to sleep through the night; they need to be taught. The Sears family has learned from decades of pediatric practice, bolstered by their own parenting experiences, that different babies have different nighttime temperaments - and, of course, different families have different lifestyles. Instead of espousing the kind of "one method fits all" approach advocated in other baby sleep guides, the Sears family explains how you can create a sleep plan that suits the needs of your entire family.

★さげまんは、他人の文句ばかり言って、自分を変えようとしない人。自己変革するのが、あげまん。あげまんになるための自己変革術を、中谷さんから教わりましょう。●「さげまんは、今の状態を変えることが嫌。」●「さげまんは、『私、運が悪いんです。』と言う。」●「さげまんは、運のいい人を、ねたむ。」●「さげまんは、グチ・悪口・うわさ話が大好き。」●「救いの道は、一つ。運のいい運命の男に助けてもらうこと。」●「あげまんとさげまんは、オーラでわかる。」●「『独り占めしたい』は、さげまん思考。」●「自分を『あげちん』という人には、感謝の気持ちがない。」●「運は、魂に存在する。」●「さげまんは、全て良くない方に解釈する。」●「さげまんを、あげまんにしようとすると、巻き込まれる。」●「さげまんは、風邪と同じ。弱っているときに、感染する。」★何度も聴いて、どんどん進化していきましょう!

It turns out giving up your "right" to be offended can be one of the most freeing, healthy, simplifying, relaxing, refreshing, stress-relieving, encouraging things you can do. It's a radical, provocative idea: We're not entitled to get offended or stay angry. The idea of our own "righteous anger" is a myth. It is the number one problem in our societies today and, as Dallas Willard says, Christians have not been taught out of it. But what if Christians were the most unoffendable people on the planet?

This best-selling book examines childhood trauma and the enduring effects it has on an individual's management of repressed anger and pain. Why are many of the most successful people plagued by feelings of emptiness and alienation? This wise and profound audiobook has provided millions of people with an answer—and has helped them to apply it to their own lives.

Most of us are unable to develop our capacities for love on the only level that really counts — a love that is compounded of maturity, self-knowledge, and courage. Learning to love, like other arts, demands practice and concentration. Even more than any other art, it demands genuine insight and understanding.

At work, we’re taught to lead the conversation. On social media, we shape our personal narratives. At parties, we talk over one another. So do our politicians. We’re not listening. And no one is listening to us. Despite living in a world where technology allows constant digital communication and opportunities to connect, it seems no one is really listening or even knows how. And it’s making us lonelier, more isolated, and less tolerant than ever before. A listener by trade, New York Times contributor Kate Murphy wanted to know how we got here.

Dr. Neufeld and Dr. Maté explore the phenomenon of peer orientation: the troubling tendency of children and youth to look to their peers for direction—for a sense of right and wrong, for values, identity and codes of behavior. But peer orientation undermines family cohesion, poisons the school atmosphere, and fosters an aggressively hostile and sexualized youth culture. It provides a powerful explanation for schoolyard bullying and youth violence; it is an escalating trend that has never been adequately described or contested until Hold On to Your Kids.

What are we going to do with those 20 or 30 years we didn’t expect? Due to unfounded fears of unhappiness and regret, many intelligent, otherwise rational people, even into their 40s and 50s, are so convinced that old age is a time of misery that they simply deny any other outcome and refuse to plan their own destiny. This optimistic and highly informative guide to smart aging will detail for listeners the steps they need to take to ensure that long life becomes synonymous with good life.

When Dr. Michaeleen Doucleff became a mother, she examined the studies behind modern parenting guidance and found that the evidence was frustratingly limited, and the conclusions often ineffective. She began to wonder if an opposite approach was needed – one founded on traditional wisdom, like the knowledge and experience passed down over hundreds, even thousands, of years within ancient cultures.

Difficult Conversations teaches you how to handle even the toughest conversations more effectively and with less anxiety. Based on 15 years of work at Harvard Negotiation Project and consultations with thousands of people, the authors answer the question: When people confront the conversations they dread the most, what works? Difficult Conversations walks you through a proven, concrete, step-by-step approach for understanding and conducting tough conversations.

■内容紹介 あっさり、さっぱり、きっぱり――これが、あげまん3カ条。一方、さげまんは、こってり、ぐちぐち、ねちねち。あげまんになるには、日々の修行が必要です。中谷さんのあげまん修行道場。 ○あげまんは、迷いがない。 ○あげまんは、やきもちを焼かない。 ○あげまんは、とやかく聞かない。 ○準備は引き算。余計なものを失ったとき、運命の人が現れる。 ○日々の鍛錬が、美しい女性を作る。 ○あげまんは、くよくよ考えない。 ○何を言われても気にしないのが、あげまん。 ○さげまんの言葉が耳に入らないのが、あげまん。 ※本商品は、CDセミナー(「別冊・中谷彰宏」17「成長し続けている人は、飽きない。」――相手の成長を応援する恋愛術、5,000円、2008年、リブラ・エージェンシー刊)のダイジェスト版です。

Have you ever looked around and wondered, “Why has everyone found love except me?” You’re not the only one. Great relationships don’t just appear in our lives - they’re the culmination of a series of decisions, including whom to date, how to end it with the wrong person, and when to commit to the right one. But our brains often get in the way. We make poor decisions, which thwart us on our quest to find lasting love.

大人にならないと、わからない味覚があります。たとえば、京都料理。淡泊の向こうにある深い味わいは、子供にはわかりません。京都料理を満喫できる味覚は、人生修行のたまものです。同様に、「寂しさ」も大人にしか味わえない境地。俳句や茶道に代表される日本の伝統芸術を味わうにも、往年の日本映画の恬淡とした境地を味わうにも、「寂しさ」というものを堪能できる感性が不可欠です。「嬉しい楽しい」は子供の味覚。大人の味覚は「寂しさ」にあり。寂しさを味わい尽くす方法、中谷さんから教わりました。★こんな方にオススメです♪□寂しさに苦しんでいる方。□孤独で、人恋しい方。□打ち込めるものが見つからない方。★別ナカ72――7つの学び○「好きなものにのめりこめば、寂しさはなくなる。」○「幻想を打ち砕くために、一度その世界に入ってみよう。」○「驚けるのは、才能。」○「寂しさを克服しないで、味わおう。」○「物語で、語ろう。」○「逆境は、映画のワンシーン。」○「寂しさを味わえなければ、大人とはいえない。」 ★何度も聴いて、人生の醍醐味を味わい尽くしましょう!

★エネルギーが高い。拘束しない。空気が読める。あげまんが、運命の人をつかまえる。選ばれる、あげまんになるための、中谷流恋愛術。...

★嫌な人を、かわいく思おう。相手を１段も２段も上回る、中谷流・度量拡張術。

★けんか腰、決めつけ、大騒ぎ――さげまんの行動は、幼稚です。成熟した大人になりきれないさげまん、今のうちに何とかしたいもの。中谷流・さげまん脱出法。●「男性がさげまんに関わると、相手をさげまん菌に感染させることになる。」●「さげまんとは、別れるしかない。」●「子供をさげまんにしたくなかったら、離婚も選択肢。」●「さげまんは、親の責任。」●「さげまんは連鎖していく。そして、連鎖はそう簡単には途切れない。」●「さげまんから、上手に嫌われよう。」●「さげまん菌は、メールでも感染するので、すぐ削除。」●「けんか腰メール、決めつけメール、大騒ぎメールなどは、即削除。」●「さげまんは、判断が間違っているのではなく、行動が間違っている。」●「自覚していても、やめられないのが、さげまん。」●「ビジネスでは、あげまん客と深く、長くつき合っていくのがいい。」●「お金が入っても、運気を減らしてしまっては、未来はない。」●「大富豪が慈善事業をするのは、あげまん原理。」★何度も聴いて、あげまん行動原理をインストール。

Most men today are sent off into society with a broken belief system, which they use to make choices that get them terrible results with life and women. Men have been conditioned to be the quintessential “nice guy.” They’re trained to be overly humble, kind to a fault, and that just “being themselves” is enough to attract the women of their dreams. Men are told to believe that conventional masculinity is toxic, and to put women ahead of their own interests, passions, and purpose.