Are you someone who believes great sex should just… happen? Like chemistry either exists or it doesn’t?

This episode unpacks one of the biggest invisible roadblocks to intimacy: our beliefs about how sex is supposed to work. We break down a fascinating study on “sexual growth vs. destiny beliefs” and why couples who believe sex takes effort tend to experience more passion, responsiveness, and long-term satisfaction.

You’ll learn:

→ Why expecting sex to be effortless can damage connection

→ How believing sex takes effort is linked to greater support, responsiveness, and satisfaction — especially when things aren’t going smoothly

→ How to unpack your own beliefs using the free reflection exercise I’ve included

The study covered in the episode is: Responsiveness in the Face of Sexual Challenges: The Role of Sexual Growth and Destiny Beliefs by Uppot et al. and can be found here: https://www.tandfonline.com/doi/full/10.1080/00224499.2023.2175194

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