In this episode of the Wet Dreamz Podcast, Jose and Brad get real about divorce—how messy, confusing, and emotionally tough it can be, especially for guys. They talk about everything from couples using divorce as a threat, to the weird “should we/shouldn’t we?” dynamic around sex during and after splitting up. The hosts dive into how divorce can seriously mess with a guy's sexual confidence, self-worth, and even lead to things like erectile dysfunction, especially when jumping into new relationships too soon.

They also tackle the myth of staying together “for the kids” (spoiler: the kids almost always know what's up), and remind listeners that it’s way more important to work on yourself, figure out what went wrong, and give yourself time before diving into something new. There’s a lot of honesty here—about heartbreak, confusion, and healing—and the big message is: don’t go it alone. Therapy, reflection, and reaching out for support can make a massive difference when you’re picking up the pieces after a divorce. If you’re in the thick of it or just coming out the other side, this episode is a comforting, no-judgment look at how to move forward with a little more clarity and self-compassion.

Timestamps

00:00 "Divorce and Sexual Health"

06:18 Sex During Imminent Divorce

07:44 Confusing Intimacy and Relationship Status

13:03 Divorce: Men's Sexual Self-Esteem

16:14 Sex, Relationships, and Emotional Confusion

18:40 Misconceptions After Relationships End

20:53 Fear of Vulnerability and Intimacy

23:40 "Double Heartbreak Reflection"

28:49 "Relationships Complicated by Kids"

32:40 Kids Sense Troubled Relationships

34:56 Triggers in New Relationships

37:30 Post-Divorce Therapy Guidance

40:21 Divorce and Sexual Health Strategies

43:42 Self-Reflection for Personal Growth

47:53 "Growth Through Divorce Challenges"

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In this episode of the Wet Dreamz Podcast, host Jose Gonzalez and guest Dr. Brad Hinman dive into the topic of men experiencing lower libido than their partners—an issue they note is more common than people might think. They discuss the emotional challenges men face, such as feelings of shame, fear of rejection, and worries about not living up to societal expectations regarding masculinity and sexual desire. The conversation covers various factors that can impact male libido, including stress, mental health, medications, sleep habits, and relationship dynamics.

Jose and Dr. Hinman also explore how comparison—whether through social media, friends, or unrealistic cultural narratives—can create added pressure and dissatisfaction. They tackle the misconception that men should always be ready for sex and highlight the importance of open communication between partners. The episode concludes with practical advice for men, emphasizing the value of emotional connection, taking personal responsibility for one’s sexual experiences, and seeking support when needed.

Whether you’ve found yourself questioning your own libido or are supporting a partner through this experience, this episode offers validation, insight, and actionable tips for navigating sexual desire and fostering healthier relationships.

Timestamps

00:00 Addressing Lower Male Libido

03:47 Male Compartmentalization Myth

07:33 "Stress, Sex, and Personal Relief"

11:17 Rejection Anxiety in Relationships

15:56 Newness vs. Monotony in Desire

19:08 Porn, Masturbation, and Sexual Desire

22:43 "Importance of Open Communication"

25:35 Enhancing Desire Through Connection

26:43 Owning Your Sexual Desire

31:51 Wet Dreams Podcast Disclaimer

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In this episode of the Wet Dreamz Podcast, host Jose Gonzalez and guest Dr. Brad Hinman discuss STEP 3 of their eight-step recovery model for addressing out-of-control sexual behavior—"Progression." Building on previous steps (creating distance from the behavior and examining sexual history), they dive into understanding the ups and downs of sexual behavior over time. They explore why it's crucial to identify periods of high and low use, examine what circumstances contributed to those patterns, and discuss the importance of recognizing escalation or tolerance in behavior. The conversation highlights the value of looking beyond surface-level triggers to understand the underlying reasons and needs driving the behavior, while also emphasizing the importance of focusing on healthy coping mechanisms and not falling into shame. The episode is practical, encouraging listeners to reflect deeply on their own patterns and to recognize hope and personal agency in their recovery process.

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Timestamps

00:00 Behavioral Reset and History Analysis

03:58 Addiction: Understanding Progression

08:20 "Internal vs. External Influences"

10:18 "Coping with Life's Challenges"

13:59 Empowering Control Over Life Choices

16:58 "Building Emotional Depth"

19:39 Reflect on Internet Usage Patterns

23:04 Extracurricular Sexual Activity's Impact

27:12 Escalation of Content Tolerance

29:19 Assessing Progression in Relationships

32:28 Cycle of Addiction Explained

35:54 Finding Lessons in Life's Challenges

39:22 Revisiting Past Efforts for Success

44:02 "Client Empowerment in Next Steps"

46:27 Wet Dreams Podcast Disclaimer

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