This week, Naomi explores what happens when you start setting boundaries after trauma and why it often feels more painful than empowering. She breaks down the guilt, the nervous system response, and the grief that comes with choosing yourself for the first time. You’ll get self-reflection tools, calming affirmations, and reminders that boundaries are not betrayals. They are acts of self-respect.
About the host, Naomi Sparks:
Naomi Sparks is a mom, wife, healing coach, and a cult survivor. She grew up in a tightly controlled religious cult in Northern California and spent years disconnected from hertrue self. Her work now centers around helping others reclaim their voice, heal generational pain, and step into wholeness without apology.
Quote of the episode:
“Boundaries are not betrayals. They are self-respect in action.”
❤️🩹 Validation statements:“My needs are valid, even if they make others uncomfortable.”“I am allowed to protect my peace.” “Saying no doesn't make me mean or selfish.”“It makes me honest.”“I don't have to overexplain or justify why something doesn't feel right.”“I can love people and still say, this isn't okay with me.”
❤️🩹Self-awareness questions:“What do I need right now?”“Does this feel good, or am I trying to avoid conflict?”“Am I choosing this from fear or from alignment?”“Would I still say yes if I knew they wouldn't be mad at me?”“Do I feel safe, or am I just trying to feel liked?”
❤️🩹 Grounding statements (for new choices):
“It's okay to pause before I respond.”“I don't owe anyone instant access to me.”“I can sit with discomfort.”“It's not permanent.”“I'm allowed to take care of myself, even if it disappoints someone else.”“The people meant for me won't leave just because I set a boundary.”
❤️🩹 Post-boundary support statements:“That was hard, but I'm proud of myself for speaking up.”“Just because they're upset doesn't mean I did something wrong.”“Every time I choose myself, I'm rewriting the story I was given.”“This gets easier the more I practice.”
Connect with Naomi:
Instagram: @theunapologetictruthh
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