The Myth of the "Good Girl" & the Cost of People-Pleasing

Tired of shrinking yourself to make others comfortable? In this episode, we're dismantling the "good girl" myth that keeps women small, silent, and seriously exhausted. Discover the hidden psychology behind people-pleasing, learn practical strategies to reclaim your authenticity, and understand why disappointing others might be the most loving thing you can do - for everyone involved.

What You'll Learn:

• The neurological reasons why people-pleasing becomes addictive

• How cultural conditioning creates the "good girl" trap

• 5 practical strategies to break free from approval addiction

• Why your body's wisdom is your best boundary-setting tool

• How to disappoint people on purpose (and why it's necessary)

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References

1. Braiker, H. B. (2001). The Disease to Please: Curing the People-Pleasing Syndrome. McGraw-Hill Education.

2. Brown, B. (2010). The Gifts of Imperfection: Let Go of Who You Think You're Supposed to Be and Embrace Who You Are. Hazelden Publishing.

3. Gilligan, C. (1982). In a Different Voice: Psychological Theory and Women's Development. Harvard University Press.

4. Van der Kolk, B. (2014). The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma. Penguin Books.

5. Porges, S. W. (2011). The Polyvagal Theory: Neurophysiological Foundations of Emotions, Attachment, Communication, and Self-regulation. W. W. Norton & Company.

6. Dowrick, S. (2009). Choosing Happiness: Life and Soul Essentials. Allen & Unwin.

7. Research on dopamine and social approval: Rademacher, L., et al. (2010). "Dissociation of neural networks for anticipation and consumption of monetary and social rewards." NeuroImage, 49(4), 3276-3285.

8. Studies on gender socialization: Leaper, C., & Friedman, C. K. (2007). "The socialization of gender." Handbook of Socialization: Theory and Research, 561-587.