In this heartfelt episode of The Fabric of America, we (Melissa and Matt) sit down with Kristiann Vargas, an inspiring chef and the mind behind Distinctive Ideas at Auerfarm. Together, we explore the power of food to bring communities together, support local farms, and create lasting memories. Kristiann shares her journey as a business owner and caterer, her challenges, and the importance of grounding herself in community connections, both personal and professional. This episode dives deep into what it means to nourish not only ourselves but also the very fabric of our local community.

https://www.distinctive-ideas.com/about

https://auerfarm.salsalabs.org/farmtotable/index.html

Key Topics:

• Creating Meaningful Experiences: Kristiann describes her unique dining events, from intimate date nights to large gatherings, where people can unwind, enjoy farm-fresh meals, and connect. With goats grazing and the sunset painting the skies, each meal is more than food—it’s an experience.
• The Roller Coaster of Entrepreneurship: Kristiann opens up about the challenges of running her own business and the emotional highs and lows that come with it. Both Matt and Kristiann share their stories of nearly quitting their ventures, only to be pulled back by supportive friends, family, and even surprising clients.
• Sourcing Local and Giving Back: We talk about the devastating effects of unpredictable weather on local farmers and why supporting them through buying local is more essential than ever. Kristiann highlights how each local purchase directly impacts families and communities.
• Overcoming 'Too Much' Emotions: We share a few laughs and tears over the emotional challenges of being in high-stress roles, especially when society can make us feel "too emotional" or "too passionate." Kristiann, Matt, and I all reflect on embracing our emotional sides and finding strength in our vulnerabilities.
• Shout-outs to Our Rock: We each give a warm shout-out to the grounding people in our lives who make our work possible. Kristiann talks about her husband, Rob, who’s her "steady rock" through everything, while we nod along, knowing exactly what she means.

Takeaways:

• Support Local, Change Lives: By simply buying from a farm stand or choosing local vendors, you’re not just getting fresh food—you’re directly impacting lives in your community.
• Community is Built Around the Table: Taking time to connect over a meal has the power to strengthen relationships, build understanding, and support local economies.
• Resilience in Business: The road of entrepreneurship is rarely smooth. Even on days when you feel like giving up, the right support system can make all the difference.
• Embrace Your Emotions: Being emotional isn't a flaw; it’s a strength. It brings us closer to our work, to others, and helps us lead with empathy.

Melissa @ deMelis Atelier https://demelisatelier.com/

Matt @ Bards https://www.bardsclothing.com/our-story

Today we’re joined by the incredible Shelley from Married by Shelley, an officiant with a unique ability to connect people through their stories. Shelley shares with us how she turned her passion for storytelling and connecting with couples into a successful officiating business. We dive into the intricacies of weddings, how she became a go-to person for all things officiant-related, and what keeps her motivated to make every ceremony personal and meaningful. Join us as we uncover how Shelley brings love stories to life!

https://www.marriedbyshelley.com/

https://www.instagram.com/marriedbyshelley/

Key Topics:

• Shelley’s journey into officiating and how her love for storytelling inspired her.
• The importance of sonder and connecting complex human experiences during weddings.
• How Shelley became the resource for couples and vendors alike by always knowing the right people and places.
• The balance between introversion and extroversion in her role and how she navigates her way through social situations.
• The importance of community and support within the wedding industry.

Takeaways:

• Storytelling is at the heart of every great wedding ceremony, and Shelley’s expertise lies in connecting people on a deeper level.
• Don’t be afraid to push past your comfort zone to achieve your dreams — even if you’re introverted.
• Finding what you love to do can change everything, even if it takes a while to get there.
• Shelley’s advice for officiants: listen deeply, understand the couple’s journey, and bring everyone together through their story.

Melissa @ deMelis Atelier https://demelisatelier.com/

Matt @ Bards https://www.bardsclothing.com/our-story

In this episode, we dive deep into the concept of consumer power and its influence on the fashion industry, comparing it to the evolution of food consumption. We explore how fast fashion parallels the processed food revolution and how each purchase we make is essentially a vote for the kind of world we want to live in. Join us as we discuss the importance of thoughtful consumption and how small actions can collectively create significant change.

Key Topics:

• The concept of the dollar as a vote: every purchase is a decision for one company over another.
• How fast fashion is similar to processed food, and the need for a Whole Foods-like revolution in clothing.
• The history of how food and fashion industries have evolved in America, and how that’s impacted society.
• Predictions on the future of fashion, including the rise of made-to-order clothing and the use of AR technology.
• The role of social media and the internet in speeding up consumer awareness and accountability.

Takeaways:

• Every small change counts, and we don’t need to be perfect to make a positive impact.
• Consumers have more power than they think; each dollar spent can shape the future of industries.
• The shift towards more mindful consumption in fashion is starting, and we can all contribute to this change by staying informed and making thoughtful choices.
• Get ready for more guest experts in upcoming episodes, where we'll continue these important discussions with leaders in various industries.

Melissa @ deMelis Atelier https://demelisatelier.com/

Matt @ Bards https://www.bardsclothing.com/our-story