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Men often confuse trauma with everyday stress or pain—until it quietly reshapes their relationships, emotions, and identity. In this conversation, trauma therapist Eric Blommel breaks down how trauma actually works in men, why most of us miss the signs, and what real healing looks like.
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🔍 What We Cover in This Episode

· Why trauma in men often goes unrecognized (and how it hides in plain sight)

· The difference between discomfort, pain, and trauma

· Why men tend to resist therapy—and what actually helps

· How trauma bonding forms in relationships (and why it’s so hard to break)

· The surprising neuroscience behind empathy vs. compassion

· What childhood has to do with adult shutdowns

· One book every man should read to understand himself better

🧠 Guest Bio: Eric Blommel, MA, LPC

Eric Blommel is a senior psychotherapist with over 20 years of experience helping men recover from trauma, addiction, and the hidden wounds of early life. His clinical work blends neuroscience, depth psychology, and a no-BS approach to healing.

📚 Books & Research Mentioned

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Citations with ISBNs and source links available below.

• *How Emotions Are Made* – Lisa Feldman Barrett

• *Trauma and Recovery* – Judith Herman

• *Tribe* – Sebastian Junger

• *The WEIRDest People in the World* – Joseph Henrich

• TED Talk: *How to Make Stress Your Friend* – Kelly McGonigal

• Research on empathy vs. compassion (Tania Singer)

• The Replication Crisis in Psychology

• Meta-analysis on telehealth efficacy

📌 Research and Citations

• Empathy vs. Compassion in the Brain

Claim: Empathy activates pain centers, while compassion activates reward centers in the brain.

Source: Singer, T., & Klimecki, O. M. (2014). Empathy and compassion. *Current Biology*, 24(18), R875–R878.

Link: https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/25247366/?utm_source=chatgpt.com

• Stress Mindset and Health Outcomes

Claim: Viewing stress as harmful can negatively impact health, whereas embracing stress can lead to better outcomes.

Source: McGonigal, K. (2013). How to make stress your friend. *TED Talk*.

Link: https://www.ted.com/talks/kelly_mcgonigal_how_to_make_stress_your_friend?language=en&utm_source=chatgpt.com

• Efficacy of Telehealth in Mental Health Care

Claim: Telehealth interventions are generally as effective as in-person treatments for common mental health disorders.

Source: Hilty, D. M., et al. (2013). The effectiveness of telemental health: A 2013 review. *Telemedicine and e-Health*, 19(6), 444–454.

Link: https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC10063994/?utm_source=chatgpt.com

• Replication Crisis in Psychology

Claim: A significant number of psychological studies fail to replicate, indicating a replication crisis in the field.

Source: Open Science Collaboration. (2015). Estimating th

The American Masculinity Podcast™ is hosted by Timothy Wienecke — licensed psychotherapist, Air Force veteran, and men’s advocate.
Real conversations about masculinity, mental health, growth, and how men can show up better — as partners, leaders, and friends.
We focus on grounded tools, not yelling or clichés. If you have questions or want a tool for something you're wrestling with, leave a comment or send a message — your feedback shapes what we build next.
Note: While this doesn’t replace therapy, it might help you notice something worth exploring.

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Masculine Leadership: Lessons from an Air Force Leader
What happens when men lead from control instead of competence? This episode explores how fear-based leadership damages teams—and how to reset your leadership style with grounded authority.

Former Air Force instructor and Space Force advisor Stephen DeGuzman joins the podcast to share powerful insights on:
– Why masculine leadership often defaults to control
– The difference between fear-based leadership and real influence
– How the military culture both helps and hurts leadership development
– What men can do to grow beyond old leadership habits
– Why trust, not intimidation, builds effective teams

🎯 Whether you’re leading in the workplace, at home, or in uniform—this episode offers a tactical reset for men who carry too much.

🧰 Download the free leadership worksheet:
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⏱️ Chapters:

00:00 – Masculine Leadership vs Fear-Based Control
05:12 – Leadership Lessons from the Military
14:37 – What Happens When You Micromanage
22:40 – Respect, Dignity, and Modern Masculinity
36:20 – Personal Reflections on Leadership Failure
51:00 – A Tactical Reset for Men Who Lead

The American Masculinity Podcast™ is hosted by Timothy Wienecke — licensed psychotherapist, Air Force veteran, and men’s advocate.
Real conversations about masculinity, mental health, growth, and how men can show up better — as partners, leaders, and friends.
We focus on grounded tools, not yelling or clichés. If you have questions or want a tool for something you're wrestling with, leave a comment or send a message — your feedback shapes what we build next.
Note: While this doesn’t replace therapy, it might help you notice something worth exploring.

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What if embracing the gender spectrum could make you a better man? In this episode, host Tim Wienecke — therapist, veteran, and men’s advocate — breaks down how to show up in gender-diverse spaces without shutting down or taking over.

You’ll learn:

• Why gender isn’t just identity politics — it’s personal
• How masculine traits got confused with toxicity
• Five practical rules to avoid being the asshole in non-masculine spaces
• Why being a “good guest” and a “good host” matters more than ever

Whether you're navigating new social spaces, trying not to get canceled, or just want to be a better friend, partner, or leader — this conversation gives you grounded tools to move with clarity, respect, and confidence.

📝 Download the free worksheet: How to Walk Into Non-Masculine Spaces Without Shutting Down or Taking Over
👉 https://americanmasculinity.gumroad.com/l/xvcnj

Leave shame at the door. Bring curiosity instead.

The American Masculinity Podcast™ is hosted by Timothy Wienecke — licensed psychotherapist, Air Force veteran, and men’s advocate.
Real conversations about masculinity, mental health, growth, and how men can show up better — as partners, leaders, and friends.
We focus on grounded tools, not yelling or clichés. If you have questions or want a tool for something you're wrestling with, leave a comment or send a message — your feedback shapes what we build next.
Note: While this doesn’t replace therapy, it might help you notice something worth exploring.