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  • BPD On/Off Relationship Can You Change To Make It Work?

    BPD On/Off Relationship Can You Change To Make It Work?
    2025/05/13
    BPD On/Off Relationship Can You Change To Make It Work?

    In a BPD on/off relationship? Are you wondering, can I change, like heal some Codependency, and have more energy and tolerance to make a BPD relationship
    work?

    Have you been ghosted and so want your BPD Ex back? Maybe you've been
    discarded, and you are emotionally terrified that you won't hear from that person
    ever again? What can you do to change? Anything? Can it work?


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    1 時間 4 分
  • BPD Disconnectedness and Inability To Relate

    BPD Disconnectedness and Inability To Relate
    2025/05/08
    Borderline Disconnectedness and Inability To Relate

    As a BPD survivor, I recovered almost 40 years ago, I explain the deep and extremely pervasive abyss of Borderline Personality and the profound disconnectedness that drives all aspects of Borderline behaviour (abuse) and inability to relate in healthy, consistent, or congruent, even remotely healthy ways in relationships.

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    1 時間 19 分
  • Want BPD Ex Back and Holding Out Hope?

    Want BPD Ex Back and Holding Out Hope?
    2025/05/05
    Want BPD Ex Back Holding Out Hope?

    Are you holding out hope that you can get your BPD Ex back? Like so many people, most with Codependence, many Ex's of someone with Borderline Personality Disorder, continue to give so much power and control of their lives, and selves to a person with BPD.

    If you really believe that you need to contact your BPD Ex because if they respond angrily or in further devaluation of you then, and only then, they will "force" you into to having to accept that the "relationship is really over?" Your relationship is, actually, already over. If you make contact and reverse hoover your BPD Ex and they devalue you again, you are not going to be able to actually then just move on. You are trapped in the fantasy bond and the deeper trauma bond. Therapy is your only way out of all the pain and rumination.

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    46 分
  • BPD Emotional Arrested Development & Object Other Relating

    BPD Emotional Arrested Development & Object Other Relating
    2025/05/01
    BPD Arrested Emotional Development and Object Other Relating

    BPD arrested emotional development and Object Other Relating. For more people than not with Borderline Personality (male and female) their early childhood emotional development arrests by or before the age of 2 years. People with BPD and/or all the patterns of BPD were not able in childhood to go through the crucial stages of early childhood development and that arrested emotional development is when and why people with BPD don't know who they are.

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    40 分
  • Lost Yourself To A Borderline?

    Lost Yourself To A Borderline?
    2025/04/23
    Lost Yourself To A Borderline?

    Have you lost yourself to Borderline? A partner, Ex partner, girlfriend or boyfriend, or person close to you with Borderline Personality Disorder? Are you aware of Codependency? Are you learning any helpful lessons?

    One man blames God, calling him a "farce" after a relationship with a woman, who "trapped him into her getting pregnant" and now thinks the "farce relationship" was his relationship to and with God, when it was really the BPD relationship. This man whose comments I respond to also thinks, now, that God can't exists because Borderlines exist.

    Whether you can relate or not to this man's blaming God instead of the person with BPD and taking his small piece of personal responsibility or not please listen to see if you can relate and substitute your own lostness and feeling separated by something you valued in your life and/or about yourself before the devastation of the BPD relationship.

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    56 分
  • BPD Idealization Phase Causes Fantasy Bonding

    BPD Idealization Phase Causes Fantasy Bonding
    2025/03/17
    BPD Idealization Phase Causes Fantasy Bonding
    BPD idealization in the beginning of a significant other relationship
    creates a fantasy bond. People with BPD, not having any stable sense
    of self, are intense and want (often) immediate "relationship on". After
    the person with BPD splits you to a major devaluation, you will not ever
    be able to be re-idealized.
    People with Codependency (often unaware of this) are very emotionally
    hungry - needing validation and reassurance (from childhood woundedness)
    feel fantastic, your feelings in the BPD idealization phase increase your sense
    of self-worth and self-esteem until the ruptured splits of BPD devaluation start
    happening.
    If you are ghosted and/or discarded you've lost yourself so much to focusing
    intensely on the person with BPD, trying, in vain, to get back to that beginning
    and how great everything felt. Codependents after a BPD Breakup find it feels
    next to impossible to not get that idealizing person with BPD back to re-capture
    the elusive - not ever going to happen again - idealization phase and who you
    thought the person with BPD was.

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    28 分
  • Borderline Betrayal Its Insidious Impact on You

    Borderline Betrayal Its Insidious Impact on You
    2025/03/14
    Borderline Betrayal and Its Insidious Impact on You

    Borderline betrayal and its negative, painful impact on you.
    Anyone close to any person with BPD will experience Borderline
    Betrayal and the very real consequences to "self" that result from
    BPD betrayal.

    People with Codependency have a suggestible enough core wound
    that the impact of Borderline betrayal causes untold damage,
    rumination, cognitive dissonance, self-abandonment, and often longing
    for the person with BPD who betrayed you to still be in relationship with you
    or needing so badly to understand, to not feel like everything was your fault.

    The immense struggle of lack of closure also takes its toll in more cases than not.

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    45 分
  • BPD Awareness Can't Save Relationships

    BPD Awareness Can't Save Relationships
    2025/03/12
    BPD Awareness Can't Save Relationships

    BPD awareness can't save relationships and doesn't mean changed behaviour (spelling Canadian now :) When a person with BPD has
    intellectual awareness and can even talk about things at times, too many partners get fooled. Why fooled? Because too many people think that BPD awareness means "they get it" they can change. But emotionally, they don't get it. Whenever a person with BPD is triggered that awareness is lost and behaviour and lack of personal responsibility keep happening.

    BPD awareness without therapy can't save relationships and doesn't translate into actual change or better relating or any increased understanding of how they effect others. Codependents often feel more fantasy false hope believing that what a person with BPD can say intellectually, between episodes means "hope" for change and the relationship - sadly, this is not true.

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    22 分