What's the right type of surrogacy relationship?

Are you feeling pressured to have a relationship in surrogacy that isn’t what you really want?

When expectations aren’t met, things can fall apart.

If your relationship and communication styles don’t match your vision, it can lead to anxiety and frustration, potentially causing a breakdown in your surrogacy journey.

But you can prevent this! Learn what works for you and how to find a good match.

Episode Highlights:

• 07:28 - Discover the three different surrogacy relationship styles

• 09:09 - If you believe in strong emotional bonds, you’re this type

• 13:39 - The most misunderstood type of relationship revealed

• 18:44 - Understand how peer pressure in surrogacy may affect you

• 21:33 - Unpopular opinion: You don’t need a close relationship

• 31:22 - Take a quick quiz to find your ideal relationship style

Are you aware of how your preferred relationship style will impact your surrogacy journey? Don’t leave your dreams to chance. Prevent misunderstandings from derailing your plans.

Listen now and create the right relationship for you!

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Surrogate ID quiz

Your First Meeting with a Surrogate: 6 Key Topics You Must Cover to Prevent a Broken Match

Surrogate Vetting Essentials

Are you nervous about independent surrogacy?

Uncertain about managing it all yourself?

Afraid you'll miss a crucial step?

Or maybe you’re wondering if this is a barely legal, out of the box thing that puts you and your baby at serious risk.

You’re not alone in feeling this way because most people don’t know the truth about independent surrogacy.

Plus there’s a whole industry designed to keep it that way

But, as usual, we’re here to share secrets and help you make the rights decisions for you!

In this episode, you'll hear:

06:23 The basics: What is independent surrogacy and why do people choose it?

7:37 Why believing that independent surrogacy is “DIY” could lead to unnecessary stress

12:58 Independent surrogacy is not professional-free. The role of your expert team.

18:04 What skeptics won’t tell you: It’s perfectly legal

21:24 With the right resources and step-by-step guides, it’s easier than you think.

26:54 A surrogacy agency isn’t your only option for finding a surrogate

31:16 The truth about cost savings in independent surrogacy

Unpopular opinion… If you can manage a project, then you can handle independent surrogacy with confidence.

Ready to demystify independent surrogacy and take control of your journey? You’ve got to listen to this episode—get all the insights and tools you need to succeed!

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Step by Step Guide & Checklist

Surrogate Vetting Essentials

The New York State surrogacy agency license

Thinking about breastmilk?

You know breast milk has so many benefits, and you want baby to have it.

But it seems so hard to give breast milk after surrogacy.

A big part of that is having to pump at work. It can be overwhelming, especially if your job isn't supportive.

If you're a surrogate thinking about pumping or an intended mother inducing lactation, these concerns have likely been on your mind. You might even consider not pumping for too long—or not at all.

Thankfully, it just got easier.

Think breastfeeding at work means being stuck in a bathroom stall? Think again! The Pump Act changes everything.

In this episode, you'll learn how the PUMP Act provides essential protections for lactating workers, including surrogates and intended parents. Get ready to feel empowered

00:00 Women face issues pumping at work, discrimination.

06:05 If you tried breastfeeding and stopped early, you’re not alone

07:47 Pumping breast milk is time-consuming.

11:48 Discrimination and harassment around breastfeeding impacts health.

16:13 What you should NEVER accept as a lactation space at work—and how the Pump Act protects you.

19:22 What the Pump Act means for surrogacy and adoption.

23:21 More women likely to breastfeed at work.

24:54 Employers recognize importance of supporting breastfeeding employees.

28:19 Pump Act: supporting all ways of nourishment.

Are you aware of your rights under the PUMP Act, and how they can improve your breastfeeding journey while working?

Don’t miss this episode—it’s packed with essential tips and legal insights that can help you navigate lactation in the workplace effectively.

Listen now and unlock the support you need to help nourish a baby with human milk!

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Surprising Secrets Of Inducing Lactation For Surrogacy- Part 1 | Part 2

Center for WorkLife Law - Rights Guide & Legal Helpline

Pregnant @ Work - Learn more about your workplace rights

Need surrogacy baby bonding tips that actually work?

Having a baby through surrogacy can feel like loss on top of loss.

The loss that made you turn to surrogacy

The loss of being able to carry a pregnancy. The loss of little kicks and late night cravings.

And when you think about bonding with your baby, you may be worried about missing those first 9 months.

Thankfully, you can still have a strong beautiful connection with your baby before they even arrive.

In this episode, you'll hear:

04:38 If you struggle to connect, you are not alone

06:08 Even after tragedy, the surrogacy process can be joyful!

09:29 One daily habit that can change your thinking

13:38 8 ways you can bond with your baby

If you’re worried about missing out on bonding experiences, then this podcast episode is your ultimate guide.

You’ve got to listen to this episode—there are so many practical tips and insights that will really help you feel connected to your baby throughout your surrogacy journey.

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Surprising Secrets of Inducing Lactation for Surrogacy - with Alyssa Schnell Part 1 & Part 2

--> Worksheet download: The exact tool I give my coaching clients to help vet a surrogate from the first meeting. ⁠Surrogate Vetting Essentials

Are you feeling overwhelmed trying to find the right surrogate?

Picking a surrogate is one of the biggest decisions you’ll make.

The wrong choice can mean a broken match, lost time, wasted money and hard feelings

How you screen and vetting a surrogate could be the deciding factor in whether your surrogacy journey is smooth or fraught with challenges.

In this episode, you'll hear:

• 03:13 Choosing the right surrogate is essential.

• 06:28 Surrogacy mishaps that could have been avoided by proper vetting.

• 16:29 How a WTF meeting with a fertility doctor changed everything

• 26:19 Creating a stellar workflow to filter best candidates.

• 33:28 Grab our done-for-you worksheet for finding a qualified surrogate.

There are subtle yet powerful methods for choosing the ideal surrogate without overwhelming yourself.

It takes a little pre-planning, and we’ll guide you through. First step is pressing play!

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Surrogate Vetting Essentials Worksheet - Ask the right questions, find the right match

#5: Your First Meeting with a Surrogate: 6 Key Topics You Must Cover to Prevent a Broken Match

Safe Surrogacy - 6 tips to avoid scams and pitfalls: Watch the video

What happens when the fertility industry turns a blind eye?

The desire to have a child can be overwhelming, sometimes driving us to overlook potential red flags. But sometimes the people and systems we trust to guide us are the ones that let things slip by.

What happens when this industry, meant to help us build families, seemingly prioritizes profit over safety?

Have you thought about how vulnerable we are in our journey to parenthood? What if those we trust to help us are more interested in making money than ensuring our safety and happiness?

In this episode, we discuss a chilling case of a Dutch sperm donor who fathered over a thousand children. This story is a stark reminder of what can happen when things go unchecked in the world of sperm donation, surrogacy and fertility in general.

**In This Episode, You’ll Hear:**

2:12 The Jonathan Jacob Mayher case—a shocking example of industry negligence.

10:01 The genetic and public health implications of rampant sperm donation.

16:00 Struggles of surrogacy, avoiding pitfalls and solutions.

23:40 If you’re considering using a sperm donation in the US, these guidelines may shock you

32:15 How do you spot red flags in your surrogacy journey and protect yourself?

While most donors and surrogates have good intentions, your children’s future deserves a critical eye!

Tune in to this episode and gain the knowledge you need to protect your dream of becoming a parent.

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Safe Surrogacy - 6 insider tips to avoid scams and pitfalls

How long does surrogacy take? If you're feeling overwhelmed by how long it’s taking to have a baby, you're not alone.

Like you, so many others have had their parenthood timelines turned upside down. It’s natural to wonder… and worry that your surrogacy journey might take longer than you want.

The truth is, surrogacy does take a long time. And, if you don’t play your cards right, delays and setbacks can stretch your timeline.

But what if understanding how long surrogacy takes is the key to bringing your baby home quicker?

In this episode of the Surrogacy Made Simple Podcast, we're diving deep into the surrogacy timeline, exploring the key milestones and potential pitfalls that could impact how long surrogacy takes for you.

You'll discover:

- 2:15: How long surrogacy really takes (hint: it's not always as fast as you think)

- 7:30: The crucial steps in the surrogacy process that can make or break your timeline

- 15:20: How to find a surrogate match in 3 months or less (yes, it's possible!)

- 22:45: The hidden time-suckers that can derail your surrogacy journey (and how to avoid them)

- 29:10: Insider tips to speed up your surrogacy timeline and bring your baby home sooner

The simple fact is, you have more control over your timeline than you think.

Take a listen and get ready to understand how long surrogacy could take, and what to do to keep it on track

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5 Little Known Secrets to a Quick Match

Surrogacy Step-by-Step Guide (starter kit)

If you're thinking about having your friend carry your baby for free, we get it—it seems like the perfect solution! Imagine bypassing agency fees and jumping into the fast lane to having your baby.

But have you considered all the hidden costs and potential pitfalls?

It sounds great on the surface, but surrogacy, even with a friend, is more complex when you go deeper. There are important things you need to know and think about up front to avoid going down a rabbit hole of unexpected issues.

Think your friend carrying your baby will simplify everything? Here's why you might be wrong:

In this episode, you'll hear:

- [00:54]: Why a friend carrying for free doesn’t mean free surrogacy.

- [01:32]: The real costs involved, even when a friend offers to help for free.

- [11:30]: Why legal steps are non-negotiable even in altruistic surrogacy.

- [14:28]: The qualifications and readiness required for a friend to be a surrogate.

- [15:09]: The physical and emotional demands on your friend.

- [18:57]: How to support and show appreciation to your friend during the journey.

If you’re wondering how to ensure a smooth surrogacy process when your friend offers to carry for you, you found the right episode.

Listen now

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Surrogacy Start Kit with Step-by-Step Surrogacy Checklist

The Surrogacy Blueprint - Surrogacy accelerator course

Safe Surrogacy - 6 insider tips to avoid scams and pitfalls (premium training)

Episode 19- From Picture Perfect To The ICU – One Surrogate’s Story
Episode 15- Surrogacy Requirements Decoded: What You Need to Know Now!