Stop Trying to Fix Yourself: The Powerful Truth About Healing and Self-Love

So many ADHD women spend years thinking, “If I can just fix what’s wrong with me, I’ll finally feel okay.”

But what if there was never anything wrong with you to begin with?

In this episode, I’m sharing a different way to think about healing—not as a project to “get right,” but as a journey of becoming more of who you truly are, one layer at a time.

We’ll talk about:

• Why ADHD women often carry the quiet belief that they’re “wrong” or “too much”
• How healing invites you back to yourself over and over, instead of pushing you to try harder
• The shift from shame, to acceptance, to compassion, and eventually, to self-love
• A gentle reminder that you’re not broken—you’re becoming

If you’re tired of trying to fix yourself and you’re craving a softer, truer path forward, this conversation is for you.

✨ Mentioned in this episode: Grab your copy of the journal-book experience: The Self-Loved ADHD Woman Way: How to Stop Playing Small with ADHD 👉 https://jenbarnes.org/stop-playing-small/

—CHAPTERS—

00:00 Introduction: Embracing Your True Self

00:59 Welcome to the Podcast

01:42 The Myth of Fixing Ourselves

02:24 Recognizing Patterns and Burnout

04:50 The Journey of Healing

06:40 Acceptance and Compassion

08:33 Layers of Healing and Growth

13:01 Moving Out of Shame

16:47 Practical Steps to Self-Compassion

26:00 Conclusion: Embracing the Journey

28:39 Special Offer and Final Thoughts

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