Jamie Lee is the Founder of JME Labs, a consulting business supporting startups and small businesses. Her husband, Jeff Okita, is the VP of Product at Tilt, a leave management platform. Together, they’re raising their 14-month-old daughter while managing demanding careers and a shared vision of parenting. We talked about:

• Building a strong support system: How Jamie and Jeff rely on an extended team of experts, family, and tools to make daily life manageable.
• Creating structure through rituals and check-ins: The methods they use to stay coordinated, including weekly planning and monthly reviews.
• Designing life around core values: Why they prioritize individual and shared time to stay connected to who they were before becoming parents.
• Traveling with a baby across continents: What 15 flights and two international trips have taught them about adaptability and preparation.
• Reevaluating the role of work: How becoming parents led both of them to rethink what success and fulfillment mean in their careers.
• Connection as a two-way street: Jeff’s take on bonding as a non-birthing parent and the moments that helped him feel truly needed.
• Challenging traditional roles in parenting: The decisions they’ve made to balance the mental, physical, and emotional load of raising a child.
• Preparing for an AI-powered future: Their early thoughts on how to raise a child in a world shaped by fast-moving technology.

Where to find Jamie Lee

• LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jamieannlee/
• JME Labs: https://www.jamiealee.com/

Where to find Jeff Okita

• LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jeffokita/
• Tilt: https://hellotilt.com/

Where to find Adam Fishman

• FishmanAF Newsletter: www.FishmanAFNewsletter.com
• LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/adamjfishman/
• Instagram: https://ww.instagram.com/startupdadpod/

In this episode, we cover:
(00:00) Introducing Jamie and Jeff

(02:20) What is the “extended team” in their household

(04:35) Emergency childcare plans and calendar blow-ups

(05:08) The four C’s of parenting: Coordination, Communication, Compromise, Creativity

(06:06) Running, nursing, errands, and multitasking hacks

(07:27) Rituals for communication and monthly check-ins

(08:38) Me, Me, and We Nights

(11:09) Where their parenting systems came from

(13:33) Hiring a postpartum doula and learning on the fly

(14:22) 15 flights with a baby and international travel strategies

(17:39) Potato, plant, and puppy phases of babyhood

(20:14) Blowouts on the road and travel horror stories

(24:34) Not losing yourself post-baby

(28:59) Rethinking the role of work after having a child

(34:07) Building connection with your baby and rejecting the parenting default

(54:57) Lightning Round: parenting quirks, pre-baby routines, and toddler travel wins

Resources from this episode:
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Die With Zero: Getting All You Can from Your Money and Your Life by Bill Perkins: https://bndl.co/3XlKH6e

Blank Check: https://imdb.to/3Vjc3T5

Planet Earth: https://imdb.to/3XlYoTo

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Alex Medick is the Director of Marketing at TensorWave, an AI infrastructure company. Prior to this role, he served as the President and Chief Marketing Officer of Inside.com.

He’s also a single dad to two kids, a son and a daughter, navigating the challenges of parenting while leading in the startup world.

We discussed:
- Balancing parenting with startup demands: How Alex manages being the primary parent while navigating the challenges of working at a fast-paced startup.
- Communicating with kids during a separation: The approach Alex took to talk to his young children about his separation and how it affected them.
- Unexpected fulfillment from fatherhood: How becoming a dad has brought a deeper sense of fulfillment and perspective to Alex’s life.
- Giving yourself grace as a parent: Why Alex’s motto is to give yourself grace, especially during the hectic and overwhelming times.
- The “sucky” moments that create lasting memories: Alex shares how saying yes to the challenging moments, like chaotic travel and events, leads to some of the most memorable experiences.
- Old school parenting in modern times: Alex talks about his approach to parenting, influenced by older generations, and why he believes kids need more structure and less coddling.

Where to find Alex Medick
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/ajmedick/
X: https://x.com/ajmedick
TensorWave: https://tensorwave.com/

Where to find Adam Fishman
FishmanAF Newsletter: www.FishmanAFNewsletter.com
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/adamjfishman/
Instagram: https://ww.instagram.com/startupdadpod/

In this episode, we cover:
(00:00) Introducing Alex Medick
(02:10) Balancing parenting with startup life
(03:15) Talking to kids about separation
(08:15) Unexpected fulfillment from fatherhood
(10:06) Giving yourself grace and embracing imperfection
(16:20) Old school parenting in modern times
(19:31) Hospital quarantine story and new perspective
(22:28) Travel chaos, flight disasters, and survival tips
(33:29) Raising kids with tech: balance needed
(36:03) Empathy and life principles guiding Alex
(39:50) Lightning round: must-haves and parenting quirks

Show references:
YouTube Kids: https://www.youtubekids.com/
iPad: https://www.apple.com/
Perplexity.ai: https://www.perplexity.ai/
Khan Academy: https://www.khanacademy.org/
Sound Machine: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B00A2JBMRE?th=1
Table top changing pad: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B08KHD615K

Unspeakable: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCwIWAbIeu0xI0ReKWOcw3eg
Blippi: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC5PYHgAzJ1wLEidB58SK6Xw
Moana: https://www.imdb.com/title/tt3521164/
Ghostbusters: https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0087332/
Porsche: https://www.porsche.com/usa/
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