Join me in a fabulous interview with Catherine Borgman-Arboleda, Founder of Collaborative-Insights Coaching, as we cover the vital importance of self-work. We hear that term everywhere, this Episode digs in to what self-work comprises of and how Catherine's insights can lead to a tremendous amount of healing, letting go false expectations and developing a deep connection with our loved ones, no matter where they are at in the walk of Recovery. I hope you gain as much knowledge as I did in this insightful dialogue. Please visit to Catherine's website for resources at https://www.collaborative-insights.com/.

2:15 - Introduction to Catherine's Global work on Policy and the work 'on ourselves'.
3:00 - Catherine's daughter's journey
3:30 - How it's easier to change a law than change our children
4:45 - Her daughter's journey through depression, self-harm, identity-issues
5:15 - The 'Fixing' journey
6:00 - Buddhism and discovering Dr. Shefali Tsabary , the concept of our children being sovereign beings and deconstructing the story that only we are the only teachers in our relationship with our Children
7:15 - Shifting the definition of 'Success' in the defined story of raising children
8:15 - Being aware of our own Agenda and feeling, instead of managing, our fears
10:00 - How we cannot orchestrate someone's healing
11:00 - Grieving the false expectations we've been fed in the Recovery process
12:15 - Father's and Mother's 'Letting Go' and the differences
13:30 - Thanking God that the Child is not buying INTO the concept of Expectations (or The Matrix)
14:15 - Conquering the Fear
15:15 - Trying to Control
15:30 - How fear blocks Connection
16:30 - Changing the External verses the Internal Environment
18:30 - How Culture can prioritize the "Wrong" traits
18:45 - Dr. Gabor Mate's training and Genetic transference of Addiction
18:55 - Dr. Gabor Mate's book, The Myth of Normal
20:50 - Going inward to heal, Wisdom Traditions, allowing the uncomfortable emotions
22:50 - The Efficient Parent, Rescuing, Solving the Problems and how that may not benefit your Child
24:35 - NARM Therapy identifying fear, sadness, anger and which emotions are the 'true' feeling we are experiencing
25:10 - Conscious Coaching and Catherine's resources to finding more self-awareness and shifting into greater Wisdom
28:30 - Our Children's self-blame and how our words are not magic to heal that shame
29: 45 - Can our Face be a Trigger to past strong emotions?
31:20 - The Energy you bring to engagements with our Children: holding the image of possibility
33:15 - The falseness of 'The Vision Board'
34:30 - How our efficiency counters our Children's Agency
36:45 - The Concept of 'Coming Home Contracts' and Catherine's Blog

Thank you for listening and please visit www.siblinghoodofrecovery.com for free resources, links to organizations, groups and individuals who can offer help in the Journey of Recovery towards healing from substance use disorders. If you like this Podcast, please leave a rating on wherever you're listening. It will help to get the word out.

If there is one message I can leave you with, the best you can offer your loved one battling addiction is love and a healthier you.

Walk gently, my friend.

Welcome to a Mom's Recovery Journey. Tracy offers a rich perspective on how Wilderness Treatment not only changed her daughter's life but positively impacted the entire Family System. The goal, as always, is to share experience, resources, and connection. We hope you'll find information here to help your own Recovery Journey.

1:40 - Tracy's Journey: the Pandemic's impact on her daughter's anxiety, depression, and safety.
3:30 - What Tracy would say to her 2020-self.
4:45 - Decision making with and without fear.
6:30 - Researching Residential Treatment Center (RTC): how to utilize communities, parents, interviewing the RTC Therapist, and creating your own foundation of personal support.
7:30 - How Al Anon and AA Meetings can heal the Family System.
10:10 - How an Educational Consultant can facilitate RTC engagement.
12:30 - Tracy's experience with the Oasis Treatment Center in Utah and Transport Companies.
15:00 - RTC research: go deeper than the reviews.
16:00 - What RTC's can teach parents about Self-Regulation and Self-Care.
20:00 - Discovering how what we lack impacts our children.
22:00 - How our children become a mirror and we can't just "fix" the mirror(see Episode 36 with Kevin Johnson).
23:30 - The shift from chaos to healing for Tracy's Family at Open Sky Wilderness.
25:00 - The Family Quest experience.
28:00 - Regulation in the Treatment Center industry.
29:15 - Wilderness Treatment Center costs, insurance, Scholarships like Sky's the Limit Fund, and negotiating the daily rate.
30:15 - Preventative Care cost vs RTC costs.
32:30 - Adult Children of Alcoholics & Dysfunctional Families The Loving Parent Guidebook and how this can break down Family System dysfunction.
33:15 - How Therapy is becoming more common, even with the NFL recommending BetterHelp .
35:30 - Tracy's recommended resources, Brad Reedy's Finding You Podcast, and books, The Audacity to be You and The Journey of the Heroic Parent. Krissy Pozatek's The Parallel Process. Daniel J. Siegel, M.D., and Mary Hartzell, M.Ed.'s book Parenting from the Inside Out. Tim R. Thayne PhD.'s book Not by Chance.

Thank you for listening and please visit www.siblinghoodofrecovery.com for free resources, links to organizations, groups and individuals who can offer help in the Journey of Recovery towards healing from substance use disorders. If you like this Podcast, please leave a rating on wherever you're listening. It will help to get the word out.

If there is one message I can leave you with, the best you can offer your loved one battling addiction is love and a healthier you.

Walk gently, my friend.

Welcome to 2024! If you're listening to this, you may have a child in recovery, in the chaos of substance use, or you are engaged with a Treatment professional to help your child. Here are Resources for you, as a Parent, to continue your own growth which is the best thing you can do as you support your child's journey through addiction.

Resources
4:10 - Local Al Anon Groups & Meetings
5:00 - Social Media Challenges: the mistake of perceiving your children as a Family Asset instead of an individual, the easy route of comparing your Family to the "perfect Families" portrayed on Social Media.
7:00 - Understanding the dysfunction we as Parents bring to the Family system.
7:40 - A commitment to doing your own work to understand yourself and avoid the Blind Spots of self-awareness.
8:25 - The value an Al-Anon Group can offer specific to treatment resources
9:20 - How to understand what a Treatment Center's focus is on and determining if that program is good for your child.
10:00 - Books and Podcasts, Evoke Therapy, Hopestream, Buddy C Tao of our Understanding, and the references available on my 'Educational Resources page on the Siblinghood of Recovery site.
10:515 - Networking with Other Parents who are in the same position, i.e., have a child in treatment or is working through a child with substance use disorder.

12:00 - Resources Recap
1) Go to 12 Step Meetings
2) Network at 12 Step Meetings
3) Manage Social Media seeking to filter healthy input into your brain
4) Separate your Self from your Child
5) Understand the Dysfunction You are bringing to the Family System
6) Stop thinking Other Families are Perfect (now!)
7) Commit to dealing and healing your own dysfunction
8) Vet any Therapist you plan to engage with for your Child
9) Research Treatment Centers to ensure it is a fit for your Child
10) Books (read) and Podcasts (listen) can further educate you for your Journey
11) Get a Lifeline, someone you can call, when you are freaking out to help talk you out of your Anxiety tree

Thank you for listening and please visit www.siblinghoodofrecovery.com for free resources, links to organizations, groups and individuals who can offer help in the Journey of Recovery towards healing from substance use disorders. If you like this Podcast, please leave a rating on wherever you're listening. It will help to get the word out.

If there is one message I can leave you with, the best you can offer your loved one battling addiction is love and a healthier you.

Walk gently, my friend.