In this episode of Sexy Marriage Radio we explore the Love Languages from Gary Chapman. Specifically we dive into how there are some problems with them that can actually be harmful to relationships.

How exactly can something so widely known, and even loved, be possible?

Listen to find out.

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On the Xtended version …

An email from an Academy member wants to know about action steps to move beyond the "Nice Guy" - that's what we go through today.

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In this episode of Sexy Marriage Radio, we revisit an archive show with Dr Jennifer Finlayson-Fife. We dive into the topic of obligation sex.

Is it a part of every marriage?

Is it harmful to one, or both spouses?

To learn more from Jennifer and find her Room For Two Podcast – check out her site https://www.finlayson-fife.com/

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In this episode of Sexy Marriage Radio, we dive into an email from a listener wanting help with the complexities of desire and connection in marriage.

A husband is feeling used in a relationship where sexual interest seems limited to ovulation periods.

Our conversation dives into the dynamics of sexual desire, the impact of past trauma, and the importance of communication in navigating these challenges. We explore the need for emotional connection and understanding in relationships, highlighting the two-choice dilemma faced by spouses when their desires do not align.

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On the Xtended version …

We continue the conversation and go deeper into the moves they each can make to better face the gridlock in their marriage.

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In this episode of Sexy Marriage Radio, we explore common mistakes that couples make in their sexual relationships. They categorize these mistakes into those typically made by men and women, discussing issues such as communication, self-care, and understanding each other's desires.

The conversation emphasizes the importance of connection and intimacy over mere physical encounters, encouraging couples to engage in open dialogue and prioritize their emotional and physical well-being.

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On the Xtended version …

We covered the mistakes men make in the regular version - now we cover the mistakes women make.

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We go back into the archives to one of the Best of SMR episodes.

An email from a wife who has discovered the eroticism and freedom that can happen when masturbating together with her husband.

What’s the difference between sexual thoughts and lust?

A husband wanting to know what to do when he’s tried to live in a way that ignites his wife’s passion (according to an old post I wrote – https://smr.fm/heads-up-husbands-5-ways-to-ignite-your-wifes-passions/) and yet his wife had an affair.

Enjoy the show!

On the Xtended version …

How do you confront gridlock in your marriage and what are the forced choice dilemmas that come along with them?

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In this episode of Sexy Marriage Radio, we explore the complexities of relationships, focusing on the concept of regressions and how they affect emotional functioning.

We discuss the different types of regressions, the impact of stress, and the contagious nature of regression in relationships. Our conversation emphasizes the importance of self-awareness and understanding one's emotional state to improve relationship dynamics.

Takeaways

Understanding regressions can empower individuals in relationships.

Acute regressions are short-lived but impactful.

Steady state regressions can go unnoticed and affect daily functioning.

Stressful life events can trigger regressions.

Recognizing triggers is crucial for managing regressions.

The emotional state of one partner can influence the other.

Communication is key to navigating regressions in relationships.

Self-awareness helps in identifying personal regressions.

High meaning situations can exacerbate emotional challenges.

Assuming one is regressed until proven otherwise can lead to better self-management.

Enjoy the show!

On the Xtended version …

In the XTD, we described what regressions look like - now we cover what you can do about them.

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In this episode, Marni Battista shares her journey from blaming her husband for her dissatisfaction to embracing change and personal growth within her relationship. Through her experiences and insights, she emphasizes the importance of asking better questions, designing a life together, and taking responsibility for one's own happiness.

The discussion highlights the significance of collaboration, meaningful experiences, and the transformative power of change in relationships.

Learn more about Marni here - https://marnibattista.com/

Takeaways

Personal reflection is crucial for relationship growth.

Confronting change can lead to deeper connections.

Creating peak experiences can transform everyday life.

Building internal safety is essential for personal growth.

Setting boundaries can foster healthier relationships.

Collaborative alliances can enhance relationship satisfaction.

Designing life together requires patience and understanding.

Meaningful experiences are vital for relationship vitality.

Taking responsibility for one's part is key to relationship success.

Enjoy the show!

On the Xtended version …

In the XTD content Pam and I discuss the systemic dynamics at play during change.

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In this episode, we explore the complex dynamics of wanting to be wanted in relationships, emphasizing the universal nature of this desire.

What's the difference between wanting and needing? How does this play out in the context of intimacy and connection?

Our conversation encourages listeners to reflect on their own desires and the role they play in their relationships, ultimately advocating for a deeper understanding of oneself and one's partner.

Takeaways

Wanting to be wanted is a fundamental human desire.

There is a difference between wanting and needing in relationships.

Self-validation is crucial for healthy relationships.

Understanding your own desires can improve connection with your partner.

The dynamics of wanting play out in both sexual and emotional contexts.

Blame can hinder the ability to connect with a partner.

Recognizing the role of personal responsibility in relationship dilemmas is essential.

Creating something worth wanting involves self-awareness and growth.

The pressure of wanting can be alleviated through self-reflection.

Healthy relationships require a balance of self and other validation.

Enjoy the show!

On the Xtended version …

In the XTD content we dive into a dynamic that may be even more difficult that wanting to be wanted - Wanting to Want.

What exactly does this mean?

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