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On the Regular version …

In this episode of Sexy Marriage Radio, we dive into the complex dynamics of obligation sex and mercy sex within marriage.

We explore how these concepts can create harmful patterns for both spouses, leading to resentment, control, and a lack of genuine connection. The discussion emphasizes the importance of self-reflection and differentiation in understanding one's desires and needs in a sexual relationship.

We hope to encourage listeners to ask themselves critical questions about their roles in these dynamics and to seek deeper connections with their spouses.

Takeaways

Obligation sex can create resentment and frustration in relationships.

Mercy sex is often a way to avoid deeper issues in the marriage.

Self-reflection is crucial in understanding sexual dynamics.

Both partners can feel a lack of genuine connection due to obligation sex.

Differentiation helps partners maintain their sense of self in a relationship.

The higher desire spouse may feel rejected even during sex.

It's important to recognize the harmful patterns in sexual relationships.

Connection is essential for a fulfilling sexual experience.

Asking the right questions can lead to better understanding in marriage.

Enjoy the show!

On the Xtended version …

What can you do when you find yourself in a pattern of obligation sex?

What questions should I ask of myself?

We will answer these questions, and more.

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In this conversation, Dean Pohlman of Man Flow Yoga joins me again as we discuss the importance of self-care for men, particularly through yoga and exercise.

We explore the resistance many men face in prioritizing their health, the significance of consistency in fitness routines, and how adapting exercise as we age is crucial. We also touch on the mental wellness aspect of creating space in our lives and the ripple effect personal growth can have on those around us.

To learn more about Dean check out https://manflowyoga.com/

Takeaways

Men often resist self-care due to responsibilities to others.

Taking care of oneself is essential for being able to care for others.

Exercise can lead to a cascade of positive lifestyle changes.

Sticking with an exercise program is challenging due to societal pressures.

Setting short-term goals, like 28-day challenges, can help maintain motivation.

As we age, we need to adapt our fitness routines to include flexibility and mobility work.

Just because something is normal doesn't mean it's acceptable.

Enjoy the show!

On the Xtended version …

Let's pick up the conversation from Christmas Day episode of is sex an acceptable gift to give?

There are two sides to this ... let's explore them both.

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In this episode of Sexy Marriage Radio, we discuss the importance of understanding readiness for penetrative sex.

What are the biological markers, communication cues, and the emotional aspects necessary for enjoyable sex for her? And for him?

How does this apply particularly in the context of pain and trauma?

Our conversation highlights the need for both spouses to be attuned to each other's bodies and desires, fostering a deeper connection and understanding in their sexual relationship.

Takeaways

Understanding readiness for penetrative sex involves both partners.

Biological markers include physical signs of arousal.

Communication is key in understanding each other's readiness.

Emotional and mental readiness is as important as physical readiness.

Pain and trauma can affect sexual experiences and readiness.

Exploring one's own body enhances sexual experiences.

Both partners should be aware of their own and each other's bodies.

Enjoy the show!

On the Xtended version …

We explore more about the idea of Collaborative Alliances. What makes them more difficult in marriage as opposed to other relationships?

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In this conversation pulled from the vault, we revisit a conversation with John Eldredge as we discuss the impact of busyness and unhealed trauma on relationships.

John brings up the concept of inner ages and how unresolved childhood trauma can surface in adult relationships. It is important to create space for our younger selves and having honest conversations about the needs and fears that arise.

We also discuss the fragility of the world and how it can affect individuals and relationships.
Learn more from John here - https://wildatheart.org/

Takeaways

Busyness can take a toll on relationships, leading to a lack of leisure time and personal well-being.
Unhealed childhood trauma can resurface in adult relationships, causing emotional challenges and conflicts.
Tuning into inner ages and understanding the needs of younger selves can help navigate relationship dynamics.
Honesty and open communication about fears and needs can foster intimacy and understanding in relationships.

Enjoy the show!

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This week we discuss the nuances of married life and sex, emphasizing the importance of reframing conversations around intimacy.

We explore practical tips for enhancing sexual experiences in 2025 (but perhaps not in the way you may think intitially), the significance of body confidence, and the deeper understanding of adult desire.

Our conversation challenges societal norms and encourages you to embrace your unique sexual journeys.

On the Xtended Version ...

We continue the theme of the show by looking at bad sex words. What exactly does this mean?

Listen to the XTD to find out.

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In this episode of Sexy Marriage Radio, Pam and I discuss the complexities oral sex and the impact of past trauma.

A listener emails about the challenges faced in their sexual relationship, including feelings of resentment and the influence of past experiences. Which sets the stage for a conversation about the importance of communication, the significance of the 69 position, and the potential for personal growth and healing through intimacy.

Ultimately - we all need to face our issues head-on in order to explore new avenues of connection and pleasure.

On the Xtended Version ...

As we head into 2025, we use 3 words to help frame our new year goals.

Listen as we go through ours.

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In this Christmas Day episode of Sexy Marriage Radio, we discuss a particular nuance of marriage and sex - focusing on the idea of sex as a gift.

We explore the dynamics of power in sexual relationships, the importance of self-reflection, and how personal growth can enhance marital satisfaction.

Our conversation encourages listeners to consider their motivations and the spirit they bring to their relationships, emphasizing that the best gift one can give to their marriage is to work on themselves.

What's your thought? Call us and let us know 214-702-9565

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In this episode Pam and I discuss the complexities of pressure in marriage, focusing on the nuances of desire dynamics and the importance of collaboration.

We explore the challenges faced by higher desire spouses, the role of pressure in relationships, and the significance of maturity and growth in navigating these dynamics.

Our conversation emphasizes the need for open communication, understanding, and a commitment to learning from each other to foster a vibrant and fulfilling marriage.

On the Xtended Version ...

As we head into 2025, there are several truisms we look at that will help us all be better in life and marriage.

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