Welcome to Episode 420 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I’m excited to welcome a returning guest, Dr. Alison Ash who speaks to me about the fascinating realm of sexual fantasies, preferences, and the art of open communication with partners. Dr. Aly offers practical tools and exercises to help you uncover your deepest desires and navigate the delicate process of sharing these fantasies.

Dr. Alison Ash, aka Dr. Aly, is a trauma-informed intimacy coach and educator, Stanford University Lecturer, author, and founder of TurnON.love. As a sociologist with a PhD from Stanford, she understands the complex societal challenges that lead to unsatisfying and disempowering intimate experiences.

She has pioneered research on the orgasm gap, heterosexual dynamics, and queer and trans experiences. She has extensive training in Hakomi Mindful Somatic Psychotherapy, Innate Somatic Intelligence Trauma Therapy Approach, and Somatica Method. Dr. Aly designs workshops, courses, and retreats and offers coaching to support her clients to cultivate and sustain nourishing emotional and sexual intimacy.

In this episode, you will hear:

● How Common Fantasies Include Bdsm, Group Play, and Taboo Themes

● Guilt Around Fantasies is Normal; Understanding Emotions Helps

● Communicating Fantasies Requires Empathy and No-pressure Framing

● Saying “No” Strengthens Trust and Intimacy in Relationships

● Roleplay and Erotica Are Safe Ways to Explore Desires

● Creativity in Fantasies Can Be Expanded Through Journaling

● Respecting Boundaries Prevents Resentment and Deepens Connection

● Why Desire Discrepancy Requires Open, Pressure-free Dialogue

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Welcome to Episode 419 of the Sexology Podcast! Today is a special New Year's Episode, where I’m excited to be joined by six experts to uncover the most common mistake people make in their sex lives.

We’ll explore strategies for achieving a more exciting and passionate sex life, as well as sharing personal advice, emphasizing the importance of seeking help early for sexual concerns and the availability of various resources to improve sexual health.

The episode will feature insights from Dr. Stephanie Buehler, a psychologist and sex therapist whose current focus is on helping therapists and healthcare providers get the education and training they need to help clients with sexual concerns.

Raven O'Rourke, LCSW, MPH, a certified sex therapist working with high-achieving professionals in Tennessee. Lorean "L" Cassidy, a recent graduated with a Master's degree in Sexology and has been working as a sexual health educator in New York City for three years.

Mallory Hanfling, LCSW, a sex therapist in Philadelphia specializing in work with the late-in-life or firefly community. Dr. Evan Goldstein, Founder & CEO of Bespoke Surgical and the Co-Founder of Future Method and Adam Fields, M.A., LMFT, CST, an AASECT certified sex therapist, specializing in treating desire problems, couples affected by infidelity, compulsive sexual behavior, erectile difficulties and a myriad of other sexual issues.

In this episode, you will hear:

· How Unrealistic Expectations and Silence Hinder Sexual Satisfaction

· Why Communication is Key to Resolving Sexual Issues

· Seeking Help Early to Address Sexual Challenges

· Avoid Comparing Sex Lives to Media or Others

· How Planned Intimacy Strengthens Long-term Relationships

· Why Sex is About Connection, Not Just Orgasm

· Defining Your Own Sexual Norms and Preferences

· Understanding That Gradual Preparation is Crucial for Safe Anal Sex

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Welcome to Episode 418 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I’m excited to be joined by Keeley Rankin, a returning guest, to talk about sexual positions and how exploring them can enhance intimacy and pleasure. Keeley shares practical insights from her new course, “Sex Class,” designed to help people connect more deeply with themselves and their partners.

Keely Rankin, a leading sex and relationship coach based in San Francisco, has been helping men, women, and couples overcome intimacy challenges and achieve fulfilling sexual experiences since 2010. She holds a master’s degree in Counseling Psychology with a focus on marriage and family therapy from John F. Kennedy University. Keely is the co-founder of BetterSexEd.org and the co-creator of Sex as Meditation, an innovative workshop series that integrates mindfulness with sexuality.

Her credentials include being a Certified Somatica Method Practitioner (a relational and experiential body-based therapy), Certified Sexological Bodyworker, Certified Queer Conscious Educator, and training in Hakomi Therapy, a somatic and mindfulness-based method. She is also trained in Recreation of the Self, a system designed to help individuals live authentically and maintain deep, undivided relationships.

In this episode, you will hear:

· Practical Tips For Choosing Positions

· Common Mistakes Couples Make

· Building Confidence In The Bedroom

· Adapting Positions For All Body Types

· Communicating Effectively With Your Partner

· Managing Premature Ejaculation

· Addressing Delayed Orgasm

· Adding Playfulness To Intimacy

· Tools Like Swings And Wedge Pillows

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