This week, I had the absolute pleasure of speaking with Dakini Leah, founder of Living in Tantra and a true ray of sunshine from Grand Junction, Colorado (even if she admits she misses tea with clotted cream).

We dove headfirst into the world of Tantra—what it is, what it isn’t, and why it’s definitely not just about long orgasms or bizarre religious rituals, thanks in no small part, to its association with Sting. Here’s a sneak peek at what we covered:

* Erectile Dysfunction: Or as I prefer to call them, “unreliable erections.” We explored how Tantra can help men embrace this stage of life without shame, and even turn it into an opportunity for deeper intimacy.

* Soft Lingam Techniques: We got into the nitty-gritty of why even a non-erect penis is still an incredible source of pleasure - Leah calls it ‘the wand of light’.

* Libido Changes in Women: We talked about how midlife doesn’t mean the end of sensuality—in fact, it’s just the beginning of a richer, more radiant connection with yourself and your partner.

* Grieving the Old You: Both Leah and I opened up about the process of letting go of who we used to be and embracing the new, more self-assured versions of ourselves. We agreed it’s not always easy, but it’s so worth it.

This episode is packed with practical tips, heartfelt moments, and lots of laughs (because let’s face it, sex after 50 is full of surprises). Plus, Leah shares free tantric exercises you can try tonight - be sure and check out her website.

Grab a cup of tea (or a glass of wine), settle in, and enjoy our chat!

00:00 Introduction to Tantra and Personal Journeys

02:48 The Essence of Tantra: Beyond Sexuality

05:39 Tantra for Midlife: Embracing Change and Sensuality

08:26 Unreliable Erections: A Tantric Perspective

11:23 Navigating Libido Changes in Women

14:24 The Importance of Self-Discovery in Relationships

17:01 Exploring Joy and Connection in Relationships

19:29 The Role of Tantra in Aging Gracefully

22:19 Grieving and Embracing New Selves

25:19 Conclusion: The Journey of Tantra and Self-Acceptance

On this episode of Sex Advice for Seniors, I had the absolute pleasure of chatting with the brilliant Avivah Wittenberg-Cox, author of Late Love: Mating in Maturity. We dove into everything from relationships after 50, to why women are leading the "gray divorce" trend, to the surprising ways men and women experience this stage of life differently.

This stage of life—what Avivah calls Q3—isn’t about decline. It’s about reinvention, exploration, and finally putting yourself first. Whether you’re single, married, or somewhere in between, it’s about finding what works for you.

And for those of you who feel like the dating pool at this age is too small, just remember: It’s not about quantity, it’s about quality. There are good ones out there—you just have to know what you want and go for it.

If you’re curious about how to navigate love, sex, and relationships in later life, this episode is a must-listen. Avivah and I covered so much ground, and I promise you’ll walk away feeling inspired (and maybe even ready to shake things up in your own life).

You can buy Avivah’s book: Late Love: Mating in Maturity here.

Avivah’s website is here.

Thanks for listening, and let me know what you think!

00:00 Introduction to Late Love

02:54 The Journey of Finding Love in Later Life

05:37 The Impact of Divorce on Women

08:30 Redefining Relationships in Midlife

11:34 Sex and Relationships in Later Life

14:09 The Quest for Happiness and Self-Discovery

16:56 Gender Dynamics in Ageing

20:00 Challenges in Finding Love

23:04 The Role of Confidence in New Relationships

25:46 Navigating the Dating Landscape

28:39 The Importance of Self-Love

31:28 The Gendered Experience of Leaving Relationships

34:25 Conclusion: Embracing New Possibilities

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