Summary:

What does self-love really mean? In this episode of Selves Unedited, Dr. Maria-Christina Stewart and Dr. Danielle Colborn explore the deep and often misunderstood concept of self-love—beyond affirmations, self-care routines, and the pressure to always feel good about yourself. They discuss how self-love is rooted in self-acceptance, grace, and authenticity, and why it’s a lifelong process, not a destination.

If you’ve ever felt like you need to "fix" yourself to be worthy of love, or if you've struggled with self-criticism and perfectionism, this conversation is for you.

Notable Moments from the Episode:

💡 “Self-love isn’t about reaching a perfect state—it’s about embracing yourself as you are.”

💡 “We would never tell a friend, ‘I’ll love you more if you change.’ Why do we do that to ourselves?”

💡 “Rest isn’t something you earn after being productive. It’s something you deserve because you’re human.”

Key Topics Covered:

✅ The difference between self-love and self-care – and why both matter

✅ Why self-love isn’t about feeling great all the time – but about self-acceptance

✅ The myth that "you must love yourself before others can love you"

✅ How societal pressures & perfectionism get in the way of self-love

✅ The role of authenticity and setting boundaries in loving yourself

✅ Self-love in relationships: treating ourselves with the same kindness we show others

✅ The connection between self-love, rest, and emotional well-being

Resources & Links:

📖 Resources by Dr. Kristin Neff on self-compassion

🎧 Previous episode on self-care: What Does Taking Care of Yourself in 2025 Really Mean?

Connect with Us:

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LinkedIn: Dr. Maria-Christina Stewart & Dr. Danielle Colborn

Substack: Dr. Maria-Christina

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Episode Summary:

In this episode, Dr. Danielle Colborn and Maria-Christina Stewart dive into what self-care truly looks like in 2025. With the rise of wellness trends, hustle culture, and digital overwhelm, taking care of yourself has never been more important—or more complicated. They explore the myths around self-care, the pressures of modern life, and the real strategies that actually make a difference in physical and mental well-being.

Key Topics Covered:

• Why the traditional definition of self-care needs to evolve
• How societal pressures make it harder to prioritize well-being
• The fine line between self-improvement and self-criticism
• The role of technology in both helping and harming mental health
• Why self-care isn’t about perfection but about sustainability
• Practical ways to care for yourself in 2025 without guilt

Chapters:

00:00 Redefining Self-Care in 2025

02:53 The Importance of Mindfulness and Meaning

05:18 Navigating Discomfort in Self-Care

08:16 Setting Boundaries for Wellbeing

10:47 Finding Balance and Moderation

13:27 Realistic Goal Setting for Self-Care

16:19 Holistic Approaches to Physical Health

23:30 Redefining Exercise and Self-Care

25:49 The Dangers of Goal-Oriented Fitness

29:41 Embracing Imperfection in Life

35:08 Authenticity vs. Perfectionism

39:17 Parenting and Self-Care in Challenging Times

Welcome to the First Episode of Selves Unedited!

Co-hosted by Dr. Maria-Christina Stewart and Dr. Danielle Colborn, Selves Unedited is your go-to podcast for exploring eating difficulties, body image, and self-love through heartfelt conversations and evidence-based insights. In our debut episode, we dive into the unique challenges of the holiday season and share practical strategies to help you navigate this time with intention, grace, and self-compassion.

In This Episode, You’ll Learn:

• How to create a holiday season based on your values and what brings you meaning
• Practical tips for planning meals, managing stress, and finding balance during the holidays.
• Why living by your values and practicing self-compassion, especially during the stressful holiday season, are essential—and how to start.
• How parents can support their children in recovery while taking care of their own well-being.
• The role of discomfort in recovery and how to approach it in manageable steps.
• The importance of seeking professional support.
• How to support yourself and loved ones with grace, especially when managing recovery.

Whether you’re in recovery, supporting a loved one, or just looking to foster a healthier relationship with food and yourself, this episode offers meaningful insights to guide you through the holiday season.

Chapters

00:00 Introduction

04:08 Setting Intentions for the Holidays

07:41 The Importance of Flexibility

11:55 Managing Eating During the Holidays

15:27 Building a Healthy Relationship with Food

20:47 Refocusing on Values and Enjoyment

21:48 The Impact of Negative Self-Talk

22:47 Acceptance and Mindfulness in Social Settings

26:19 The Importance of Grace

27:31 Navigating Holiday Challenges for College Students

31:22 Conscious Choices and Intentions

32:48 Self-Compassion and Grace in Recovery

33:51 Supporting Parents of Children with Eating Disorders

38:18 Addressing Eating Challenges During the Holidays

Join Us on This Journey:

We’re so excited to launch Selves Unedited and share this space with you! If you enjoy this episode, please subscribe, leave a review, and share it with someone who might benefit.

Connect with Us:

• Dr. Danielle Colborn: Check out her website and find her on LinkedIn and X (formerly Twitter).
• Dr. Maria-Christina: Check out her website and connect with her on LinkedIn and Instagram.

Let’s build a community of support and understanding together. Live fully, love yourself, and embrace what truly makes life meaningful.

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