Dr. Rob and Tami answer participant questions about rebuilding trust through intimate conversations, ideas for setting healthy boundaries after betrayal, and the danger of an addict swearing that they’re done acting out for the rest of their life.

TAKEAWAYS:

[1:15] Current and upcoming resources at Seeking Integrity.

[3:20] Do sponsees pay upfront or make monthly payments?

[4:45] Are there agnostic 12 Step programs?

[8:22] Ideas for connection activities that rebuild trust?

[16:01] My husband is attending groups to placate me but is not participating. Is this normal?

[20:04] Setting healthy boundaries after betrayal.

[21:35] What are the statistics surrounding porn sobriety?

[24:15] The danger of swearing that you’ll never act out ever again.

[31:39] You are the only person that can take care of you.

[33:30] Don’t believe an addict when they are love-bombing you.

[36:41] Are 30% of men on dating sites really already married?

[40:32] Recommended sources for healing the shame of my partner’s betrayal?

[49:52] Is there a way to engage in self sexuality that would not be considered acting out?

[53:40] What is the recommended protocol for moving through fallout from a therapeutic disclosure?

RESOURCES:

Seekingintegrity.com

Email Tami: Tami@Seekingintegrity.com

Sexandrelationshiphealing.com

Intherooms.com

Out of the Doghouse: A Step-by-Step Relationship-Saving Guide for Men Caught Cheating, by Robert Weiss

Prodependence: Moving Beyond Codependency, by Robert Weiss

Sex Addiction 101: A Basic Guide to Healing from Sex, Porn, and Love Addiction, by Robert Weiss

Cruise Control: Understanding Sex Addiction in Gay Men, by Robert Weiss

Seeking Integrity Podcasts are produced in partnership with Podfly Productions.

QUOTES

• “When people come together and try to support each other and find a way to heal as a group, to me, that is a spiritual experience.”

• “To understand what I’m going through and really listen to me, that is intimacy.”

• “The only thing I can guarantee is that I’m consistently working on this and I’m committed to it.”

• “You are the only person that can take care of you.”