This episode is going to challenge everything you've been told about abusive men and why they do what they do. We're ditching the "he's just hurt" narrative and getting real about what's actually happening here.

What You'll Learn:

• Why therapy can't fix what isn't actually broken (spoiler: it's working exactly as designed)

• The difference between trauma responses and entitlement

• How seven systems work together to normalize abuse and make you question your reality

• Why asking "why won't he change?" is the wrong question entirely

• The truth about how you were groomed to abandon yourself

Key Takeaways:

His behavior isn't about his childhood trauma - it's about a belief system that says he's entitled to your compliance. Individual and couples therapy won’t make him get better. The systems protecting him aren't broken; they're working perfectly. You weren't overreacting - you were adapting to survive in a culture designed to keep you small. Understanding this isn't about blame; it's about clarity and your freedom

This one's heavy but necessary. If you've ever wondered why he seemed so aware of his impact but kept doing it anyway, or why everyone around you kept making excuses for his behavior, this episode will give you the clarity you've been searching for.

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In this explosive episode, Lisa and Dr. Peter Salerno drop a truth bomb that will change how you see manipulation forever. They dive deep into the uncomfortable reality that abusers manipulate on purpose, exploring whether manipulators need to be "smart" or just strategic, the real reasons behind their behavior, and why being manipulated leaves you feeling so confused and traumatized. This is a must-listen episode that will validate your experiences and help you see the truth clearly.

Key Topics Covered:

• The shocking truth: Abusers manipulate intentionally, not accidentally

• Intelligence vs. strategy - what it really takes to be a manipulator

• The psychology behind why abusers choose to manipulate

• Why manipulation creates such deep confusion and trauma

• How to recognize when you're being deliberately confused

• Breaking free from the "maybe they don't know what they're doing" mindset

Resources Mentioned:

• Trauma Bond Recovery Group Coaching Program

• Unbreakable and Irreplaceable: Rebuilding After The Trauma Bond

• "The Nature and Nurture of Narcissism" by Dr. Peter Salerno

• "Traumatic Cognitive Dissonance" by Dr. Peter Salerno

About Dr. Peter Salerno:

Dr. Peter Salerno is a licensed therapist with a PsyD and MS in Clinical Psychology. He specializes in personality disorders and trauma, with extensive training in these areas. He's the author of two groundbreaking books on narcissism and trauma.

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In this raw and vulnerable episode, Lisa opens up about the confusing reality of trauma bonds - why they feel so much like love when they're actually destroying us from the inside out.

What You'll Learn:

• The brain chemistry behind trauma bonds and why they're so addictive

• How trauma bonds mimic the feeling of "true love"

• Personal stories that reveal the desperation and confusion trauma bonds create

• Why your body craves what's hurting you

• The difference between genuine love and trauma bonding

Key Takeaways:

Trauma bonds hijack your brain's reward system

The push-pull dynamic creates an addiction-like response

Understanding the science helps you break free from self-blame

Your feelings are valid, but they're not telling you the truth about love

This episode gets real about the internal battle so many face: "But it feels like love, so how can it be bad for me?" If you've ever felt confused about why you can't let go of someone who hurts you, this episode is for you.

Resources Mentioned:

The Trauma Bond Recovery Course using my proven Break & Rebuild Method: https://strongerthanbefore.ca/trauma-bond-recovery/

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When love feels like a battle you're desperate to win, something deeper is happening. In this vulnerable episode, I share my personal story of staying in a 5-year relationship with a professional football player who was cheating with multiple women—while I remained in denial, searching for "proof" I already had.

I dive into why we chase people who reject us, why we work overtime to convince someone to love us, and the childhood wounds that program us to equate love with struggle.

I'm talking about:

• The psychological trap that keeps us fighting for relationships that hurt us
• How denial becomes a survival mechanism
• My own journey through infidelity and the wake-up call I couldn't ignore
• The connection between childhood experiences and our adult relationship patterns
• How to recognize when you're chasing love that will never fulfill you

If you've ever found yourself trying harder the more someone pulls away, this episode will help you understand why—and how to break free.

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This Is the Podcast They Don’t Want You Listening To

You weren’t too sensitive. You weren’t overreacting.
You were abused — and no one told you what to call it.

In this first episode of Real Talk with Lisa Sonni: Relationships Uncensored, I’m naming what they tried to make you doubt. If you’ve ever missed someone who hurt you, wondered why it didn’t feel like freedom when you finally left, or asked yourself, “Why do I still care?” — this is for you.

I’m talking about:

• The emotional chaos of covert abuse
• Why it makes you feel like you’re the crazy one
• What a trauma bond actually feels like
• The moments that cracked me open — and how I finally saw it for what it was

I don’t hold back. And I won’t start now.

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