Who are you? Beyond the titles, relationships, and things you do?

In this week’s episode, I sit down with my friend Mariana to unpack one of the hardest and most important questions we face in our 20s: Who am I when everything else is stripped away?

We unpack what identity really is, how we lose it, how to identify it, and both of our struggles in figuring out who we are.

She shares her story around the highs of performance, the lows of losing it all, and the quiet moments that point us back to something deeper.

IN THIS EPISODE:
-How identity gets wrapped up in relationships, work, success, and fitness

-The emotional rollercoaster of tying your worth to what you do
-How faith offers a steadier foundation

-Cultural vs Christian view of identity
-How to figure out what your identity is currently in

-Plus some insights from Matthew McConaughey and Scottie Scheffler

If you’re in the middle of figuring yourself out—or feel like the person you used to be doesn’t fit anymore—this one’s for you.

RATINGS

Faith - 8

Heart - 8

Head - 7

Hands - 4

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In this clarity moment, Sam and I unpack the quiet but constant pressure of comparing ourselves to others — especially our friends — and how it feeds into the expectations we silently carry.

We also talk about what helped her let go of the need to have it all figured out in her 20s, and how shifting her focus gave her permission to follow a path that actually fits.

Listen to the full episode 004 here:

Spotify: ⁠https://open.spotify.com/episode/3Xke7LGy6OC90TcCaGEcDi?si=1044eb31570e4bb0⁠

Apple: ⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/quarter-life-clarity/id1812448651?i=1000710735314⁠

Youtube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vCM3fgDQ3sw⁠

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What does success actually look like? Not the Instagram highlight reel. Not the six-figure salary or the flashy milestones. But the kind of success that feels like peace — like coming home.

In this raw and vulnerable conversation, I sit down with my friend Ken — a father, husband, and business owner — who opens up about what it really took to build a life he's proud of.

From a self-described “knucklehead” in his 20s to someone who's now steady, grounded, and grateful, Ken shares his journey plus the lessons he’s learned along the way.

We talk about shame, starting small, dealing with failure, the fear of success, and why true success isn’t about having more.

If you’re in the thick of figuring it all out — career, identity, relationships — this one’s for you.

RATINGS:

Faith - 3

Heart - 7

Head - 6

Hands - 3

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In this Clarity Moment episode, Pastor Hiram and I unpack how inherited beliefs and silent expectations can shape our path — what living on autopilot feels like and how we can start waking up to what we actually believe. If you’ve ever felt stuck, confused, or like you’re living someone else’s dream… this is for you.

Listen to the full episode 003 here:

Spotify: ⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/quarter-life-clarity/id1812448651?i=1000709777120⁠

Apple: ⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/quarter-life-clarity/id1812448651?i=1000709777120⁠

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This one’s for all of us stuck between chasing what’s next and enjoying what’s now.

In this episode, Lop and I unpack why this balance feels so impossible in your 20s, what the real problem is, how we can shift our perspective to stop feeling like we’re always behind… and much more.

We use sports references, share our own experiences, and try our best to shed some light on solving this impossible problem.

We dive into:

-The “future vs present” see saw - and the tradeoffs to both sides

-Why eliminating the timeline relieves anxiety

-Mindsets that bring more peace and perspective

-How we can make better decisions today to create the balance we desire

-Why the goal should be to get lost in the doing

-How tying our identity to our work can hurt us

If you’ve ever felt like you’re constantly swinging between working toward your goals and trying to be present for your life — you’re not the only one.

RATINGS:

Faith: 3

Heart: 6

Head: 7

Hands: 4

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All of us, whether we realize it or not, are playing a game.

The real question is: What game are you playing in your life?

In this episode, Jon and I dive into:

• How to discover your game, play it well… and actually win it
• The comparison trap — and how to avoid playing someone else’s game
• How to stay grounded when everyone around you is chasing something different
• Building stage gates (small, intentional milestones) toward your long-term vision
• Why discomfort, failure, and risk are essential parts of the process

We also reflect on mindset shifts that have changed everything for us — like burning the boats, trusting yourself, and doing the hard things when no one’s watching.

This episode is a rallying cry to stop sleepwalking through life, take back control of your story, and play your game with intention.

RATINGS:

Faith: 2

Heart: 5

Head: 8

Hands: 5

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This one’s for all of us feeling the slow fade of friendships — wondering why staying close feels so much harder…and how to fix it.

In this episode, Megan & I dive into the changing nature of friendship in our 20s and early 30s: why it’s gotten more complicated, what gets in the way, why friends matter more than ever, and how to keep them during life’s chaos.

We unpack what studies say about loneliness, 3 pillars of adult friendship, and 3 things we can improve on to build better, life-giving relationships.

In this episode:

-Why friendship is essential — according to the research

-Mel Robbins’ 3 pillars of adult friendship

-Barriers to friendship during these years

-The 3 keys to better connection - proximity, unplanned interactions, vulnerability

-Practical ways to improve each of these ^

-how to go deeper, ask better questions, and be vulnerable

-traits of great friends

If you’ve ever thought, “I miss my friends, but don’t know what to do about it” — this one’s for you.

RATINGS:

Faith - 3

Heart - 7

Head - 7

Hands - 6

Mel Robbins post about adult friendships: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/reel/DEsSzCrNUMu/?utm_source=ig_web_copy_link⁠

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This one’s for all of us who want financial clarity — but aren’t sure where to start, what the terms mean, or if we’re doing anything right.

Today’s guest is Cam, a 26-year-old financial advisor (and my financial advisor) who breaks down what real financial planning actually looks like — not just investments or budgeting, but a holistic overview of everything we need to know.

Together, we unpack the parts of financial planning no one walked us through — and what to do about it now.

In this episode:

• What defensive planning is (and why it matters way more than you think)
• Emergency funds, insurance, and debt
• Good debt vs. bad debt — and how to prioritize what to pay off
• The 4 “drawers” of investing (a helpful analogy for where to put your money)
• 401(k)s, Roth IRAs, and planning for retirement
• Budgeting & saving strategies

If you’ve ever thought, “I make money… now what?” — this one’s for you.

RATINGS:
Faith - 1
Heart - 2
Head - 9
Hands - 5

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