In this episode of Not So Normal Parenting, we take a deep dive into the Competency Triad of the Enneagram, focusing on both parents who identify as Type 1 (The Perfectionist), Type 3 (The Achiever), or Type 5 (The Observer), and how to parent children with these types.

Whether you are a Type 1, 3, or 5 yourself or raising a child with these tendencies, you’ll discover how these types push emotions aside to solve problems logically, especially in relation to systems like work, family, or school. We’ll explore the 3 key ways each type strives for competency and how this impacts their approach to life and relationships.

Learn how to manage perfectionism as a Type 1 parent or help your Type 1 child embrace flexibility. Discover how to balance achievement with authenticity as a Type 3, or guide your Type 3 child to value more than just success. Finally, support your own Type 5 need for independence while fostering emotional connection, or help your Type 5 child stay emotionally engaged.

Tune in for real-life stories, practical strategies, and insights to help you and your child thrive within your unique Enneagram types.

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In this episode, we’re tackling a common struggle for many parents: reactivity—especially for those in the Enneagram reactivity triad: Types 4, 6, and 8. If you often feel frustrated or overwhelmed in those tough parenting moments, this episode is for you.

What you’ll learn today:

1. How to Hold Realistic Expectations for yourself and your child’s behavior.
2. How to Harness Your Triggers so they no longer control your reactions.
3. How to Heal Through Guided Thoughts, personalized for your Enneagram type.

If you’ve ever been told that you just need to be more patient, but it only makes you feel worse, this episode offers a fresh perspective. It’s not about squeezing out more patience—it’s about shifting your mindset and understanding your triggers to foster more peaceful, connected relationships with your kids. Tune in as we break down these tools and share practical mantras tailored for Types 4, 6, and 8!

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Welcome back to our 9-part series on the Enneagram triads! In today’s episode, we’re diving into the Reactivity Triad, which includes Types 4, 6, and 8—personalities that tend to respond to stress with emotional intensity and immediate reactions. These types externalize their feelings when they don’t get what they want or when their needs are unmet, often displaying frustration, anxiety, or anger. We’ll explore the three key aspects of how these types cope: how they process emotions outwardly, why they react so strongly, and what they seek from others through their emotional responses.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

1. How Type 4s express deep emotional intensity, often seeking validation and understanding from others when they feel unseen or misunderstood.
2. How Type 6s react with anxiety and doubt, testing loyalty and seeking reassurance in moments of insecurity or uncertainty.
3. How Type 8s respond with assertiveness and anger, seeking strength and control in their environment to avoid feeling vulnerable.

We’ll also share four practical strategies to help you support your reactive child and navigate their emotional outbursts:

1. Acknowledge their feelings
2. Provide reassurance or understanding
3. Teach emotional regulation
4. Maintain your own calm presence

Join us as we uncover how these intense emotional reactions can be understood and managed, allowing for deeper connection and growth within the family.

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