Motherhood begins with a seismic identity shift that nobody prepares you for. That moment they hand you your baby and you're suddenly "Mom"—before you've even had time to process the transformation happening inside you.

The raw truth? Becoming a mother often begins with grief. Grief for your independence, your rhythms, and the version of yourself who didn't calculate nap windows or feel constantly needed. This profound psychological and emotional metamorphosis has a name: matricence. Like adolescence, it reshapes your entire being, yet society rarely acknowledges its existence or provides grace for women navigating this terrain.

When expectation crashes into reality, the disconnect can feel earth-shattering. You thought you'd feel whole, blissful, and instinctively wise, but instead, you're cracked open, hollow, flooded with self-doubt. You're never alone yet never felt more isolated. Your partner watches helplessly as you transform, creating a new kind of distance when connection feels most vital. And for the 1-in-7 women experiencing postpartum depression or anxiety, the journey becomes even more complex, clouded by intrusive thoughts, numbness, or hypervigilance that have nothing to do with your capacity for love.

Throughout this deeply personal episode, I share insights from my therapy practice and my own unraveling as a new mother. We explore motherhood as three emotional "trimesters"—from the raw beginnings of ages 0-6, through the sweet spot of ages 7-12, to the bittersweet letting go of ages 13-18. Each phase requires a different version of you, different boundaries, different strengths.

Whether you're in the trenches of early parenthood or supporting someone who is, remember this: You are not broken. You are not failing. You are becoming. Subscribe now to continue these unfiltered conversations about the transformations that shape our lives.

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