In this episode, host Renae Johnson and therapist Ernesto Martinez discuss the complexities of navigating emotions during the holiday season, particularly for LGBTQ+ individuals. They explore common challenges faced by queer folks, such as dealing with unsupportive family dynamics, managing expectations, and finding joy amidst potential disappointments.

Ernesto emphasizes the importance of agency, self-care strategies like the 'care sandwich,' and the need for open, respectful conversations during family gatherings. The episode provides valuable insights and practical tips for maintaining mental health and fostering connections during the holidays.

Takeaways

• Holidays can bring mixed emotions and unexpected challenges.

• LGBTQ individuals have agency in their family relationships.

• It's okay to stay connected to unsupportive family members for various reasons.

• Expectations can be fluid and should be reassessed based on context.

• Disappointment can arise from unmet expectations, but context matters.

• Conversations should focus on understanding rather than convincing others.

• Using a scale to assess comfort levels can help navigate family dynamics.

• Finding joy and care is essential during the holiday season.

• Pre-care and aftercare can help manage anxiety around family gatherings.

• Chosen family plays a crucial role in supporting mental health.

  
  

Featured Queer Moment of Joy Guest: Crystal Whiteaker with Crystal Lily Creative. To learn more about Crystal visit https://www.crystallily.co/ or on Instagram @crystallilycreative

Therapist Bio:

Ernesto Martinez APCC, AMFT (they/elle/he/el) is an Associate Therapist with Open Space Therapy Collective. Ernesto specializes in working with Adults, Teens, & Parents of Gender Expansive Children, Adult Children of (im)Migrants to transform challenges into stepping stones towards self-compassion, fulfillment, and confidence.

Host Bio:

Renae Johnson LPCC, ATR-BC (they/them) founded Open Space Therapy Collective (OSTC), a group practice and community hub that focuses on mental health for and by the LGBTQIA+ and BIPOC communities and their allies. Renae is a licensed therapist and board certified art therapist.

To find more from us visit:

Website: https://www.openspacetherapycollective.com

Instagram: @openspacetherapycollective

TikTok: @openspacetherapy

Spotify: @MyTherapistisOut

Apple Podcasts: @mytherapistisout

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Keywords: holidays, LGBTQ+, family dynamics, mental health, expectations, emotional well-being, self-care, queer affirmation, holiday tips, navigating relationships

The holidays can be tough when family gatherings make you feel the pressure to hide your true self. In this episode of My Therapist is Out!, we explore how queer individuals can navigate the season with authenticity, resilience, and joy.

Join host Renae Johnson and OSTC Clinical Director Kristen Crowe as they share strategies for staying grounded, from creating comforting transitional objects to leaning on chosen family for support. We’ll discuss finding allies within your family, setting boundaries, and even crafting new, affirming traditions that reflect who you truly are.

Whether it’s establishing a safety plan, engaging in self-care, or finding inclusive ways to celebrate, this episode offers tools and insights to help you prioritize your mental health and make the holidays more meaningful. Tune in for a conversation that’s all about creating a space where you belong.

Takeaways

• Many queer individuals feel pressured to hide their identities during family gatherings.

• Creating a transitional object can provide comfort and a sense of home.

• Engaging in activities that affirm one's identity can help during stressful family interactions.

• Chosen family can be a vital source of support during the holidays.

• It's important to establish a safety plan for emotional support before family gatherings.

• Finding allies within the family can help create new traditions.

• Self-care practices are essential for maintaining mental health during the holidays.

• Having a list of supportive contacts can ease feelings of isolation.

• Creating new holiday traditions can foster inclusivity and joy.

• Prioritizing mental health can lead to a more fulfilling holiday experience.

Featured Queer Moment of Joy Guest: Paula Outon from LA Cyclery

Instagram @lacyclery @pauridesla

Therapist Bio:

Kristen Crowe LPCC, BC-DMT (she/they) Is Licensed Therapist, Dance Therapist, and Clinical Supervisor with Open Space Therapy Collective. Kristen specializes in working somatically with adults and partners to help heal the mind-body connection so you can feel more grounded and vibrant every day.

Host Bio:

Renae Johnson (they/them) founded Open Space Therapy Collective (OSTC), a group practice and community hub that focuses on mental health for and by the LGBTQIA+ and BIPOC communities and their allies. Renae is a licensed therapist and board certified art therapist.

To find more from us visit:

Website: https://www.openspacetherapycollective.com

Instagram: @openspacetherapycollective

TikTok: @openspacetherapy

Spotify: @MyTherapistisOut

Apple Podcasts: @mytherapistisout

YouTube: @openspacetherapycollective
Content transparency: n/a