Do you have a burning desire to achieve more in life? I know I certainly do.

Does that same desire distract you from one of the most essential and important aspects of your life - AKA your relationship?

For me, there was a direct impact on my relationship when my desire to ‘create more’ went unchecked. My natural tendencies are to gravitate to my masculine energy which usually results in less time/energy tapping into my emotions and my relationship. The amount of focus I put towards achieving other endeavors/goals in my life was significantly more than my relationship goals/desires. These other areas included:

*Fitness

*Holistic health

*Financial freedom

*Starting an online business

*Real Estate training/investing

*Crypto investments

-Even when these other aspects were flowing nicely, I would still feel a void in my overall happiness. (One that we try to fill with accomplishing or attaining more).

-Once I found that sweet spot (which takes consistent effort to sustain)...I’m also always working on finding the sweet spot, where my focus and desires began to incorporate my relationship needs as much as my other desires, it improved my overall happiness (and my relationship).

We tend to bypass the importance of continuously prioritizing our relationship (especially after years of being in the same relationship). Life gets busy and for us ‘high achievers’ it’s easy to get carried away with goals/aspirations. I am guilty of this as well but what I know to be true is that balancing my energy between the other endeavors AND deepening the connection within my relationship has accelerated my fundamental and overall happiness.

As men or someone with more masculine energy, we tend to forget about this and our focus may gravitate to fulfillment/purpose or to providing for our family (nothing wrong with that, just something to be aware of).

Here are three universal laws to help us get back on track with our relationship:

Law of desire: You only fully get what you want if you deeply desire it… Previously, I only desired the other areas in my life (because I didn’t have them or have enough of them). I desired it more than I desired the work I’d have to put in (getting in touch with my emotions) to create a successful relationship. Simple as that. If you don’t want something enough your actions will be inconsistent or non-existent. What do you TRULY desire?

Law of attraction: If we focus on something enough, we will eventually attract it into our life. This isn’t thinking about something once and you attract it. This is a consistent, progressive focus, while simultaneously matching the vibration of having already achieved what you desire. Your focus, energy, and emotions will be essential to this equation.

Law of action: You must take aligned, inspired, and CONSISTENT action. Every action will create a result. Thinking/hoping will not get you the results you desire. You can set intentions all you want, but without action, there will be no results.

These three laws will help you attain what you want in life AND it’s also important to remember to apply these concepts to your relationship(s).

*** If you are ready to upgrade your relationship, and want to change your current habits that are not benefiting you or your relationship then it might be time to look into coaching. Coaching is a process that will facilitate the change and growth you are desiring but are unable to achieve on your own.**

Reach out to me anytime to discuss the next steps in improving your life and your relationship:

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Joel:)